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In your opinion, what is the most critical factor that determines the fate of your life?

Some people think that a person's innate talent is the most important. If there is no innate talent, how can there be such awesome people as Newton, Einstein, Copernicus and Galileo? How can there be such great gods as Sakyamuni, Jesus, Muhammad, Laozi, Confucius and Mencius? Mortals like us, no matter how hard we try, can't be such awesome people.

Some people think that ambition and goals in life are very important. Wang Yangming said: If you have no will, like a boat without a rudder and a horse without a title, what will you get in the end? Wang Yangming believes that there is only one thing in life, and that is determination. People who have no ambition have no recognition of good and evil in their hearts. Without the distinction between good and evil, there will be no direction. This is like a horse without a title, a ship without a rudder, which is not only dangerous, but also equal to the afterlife. Whether life is meaningful depends on whether you have good thoughts. Just thinking and maintaining justice is determination.

Some people think that people's way of thinking and attitude are the most critical factors that determine a person's life. Kazuo inamori believes that the fate of a person's life depends on your ability, your efforts and your mode of thinking. Among them, the way of thinking is the most critical factor that determines your destiny. Popular science writer Shui believes that the biggest difference between people is the cognitive difference. Different cognitive levels of everything in the world determine each of us' mentality and thinking mode, and everyone's manners and behaviors are often the external manifestations of your attitude and thinking mode. Different attitudes and thinking patterns determine your every choice, and countless choices in life determine your life's fate.

Some people think that your heart determines the fate of your life. Maslow, a famous American psychologist, famously said: Your attitude will change as you change.

Change your heart; And then yours

Habits will be varied; The next step is

Change your own personality, which will eventually make a person

Change your life.

Csi's understanding is:

Your heart determines your attitude;

Your attitude determines your habits;

Your habits determine your character;

Your personality determines the fate of your life!

If we think deeply, what determines our hearts?

Recently, Lao He learned a reading note about Eric Bourne's "life script" (see attachment), and he agreed with Eric Bourne's view that "life script is a subconscious plan for life". He thinks this view is very close to Aryan knowledge or Buddhist karma. Our deep thoughts and actions will form our conscious memory and subconscious or Aryan knowledge, and may become your life prediction and fate.

However, if we think deeply, what factors determine our subconscious or Araya knowledge?

The ancients said: "One life, two fortunes, three geomantic omen, four virtues and five studies. Six, seven, eight worshippers, nine friends and ten students. "

Each of us comes from a family. The inherited genes and talents, the growing environment, all the experiences, all the behaviors and all the thoughts in the process of children's growth will form memories and subconsciousness in the deep limbic system of our brain. This kind of individual subconscious and collective subconscious, which we are usually unaware of, affects and determines our hearts and minds, as well as our habits and personalities all the time.

"One life, two fortunes, three geomantic omen, four virtues and five studies ..." is the key factor that determines your life's fate.

The ancients in China once said, "There are two blessings in life, three geomantic omen, four virtues and five studies. Six, seven, eight worshippers, nine friends and ten students. "

A person's fate and his luck are the foundation of his life; And his environment and personal virtue will determine his future.

With the above four points, people have to study hard and improve their personal cultivation. Then he is absolutely extraordinary.

A person's fame, as well as his appearance, are his business cards; Everything he did and everyone he met came to help him.

With these four points in the middle, people should take good care of their bodies and strive for a long life. In this way, he has a chance to get ahead.

In other words, fate, opportunity, environment, morality, reading, fame, appearance, attitude, noble people and health, these ten important factors have influenced a person's life.

We might as well think about it, who does not have these conditions from ancient times to the present? Generally speaking, as long as you score five or six out of ten, this person will achieve great things.

What's the difference between a prince and an ordinary person? The only difference is the condition. The former has many advantages, while the latter has nothing. In this way, the gap in life will be particularly large.

We might as well look at Xiang Yu and Liu Bang when Chu and Han fought for hegemony. Why did Liu Bang defeat Xiang Yu?

Xiang Yu's personal character is not good, so his fate will be influenced by his "personality". Once there is something wrong with his character, he will personally destroy his advantage.

What about Liu Bang? He has a particularly good personality, knows how to deal with people, and knows how to manipulate people's hearts. He is the material for being a monarch. Therefore, his "personality" can give him advantages, opportunities, territory, fame, nobles, attitude and pattern, so can he not achieve the business of emperors?

Don't think too complicated about life. Isn't it because of the above ten questions that he succeeded and she didn't succeed?

Even in modern times, don't the bosses of the internet empire gather many advantages and finally gain a foothold and achieve Excellence?

Some people meet the opportunity and stand directly on the cusp. He has a good personal ability and is supported by noble investment, so he can "fly"?

On the contrary, although some people encounter opportunities, they are not competent enough, have no support from others, and are more affected by risks. Isn't that why they were swallowed up?

From ancient times to the present, all development and failure cannot escape these ten points. Therefore, only by enhancing personal advantages can we shine brilliantly.

Attachment: Eric Bowen: Your subconscious is becoming your life prediction and destiny, and you know nothing about it.

This book is the most important work of Bowen, the founder of communication analysis. It tells how the narrator "planned" his own life script at an early age and how to practice the role of "loser". The difference between Bourne and other psychoanalytic schools is that psychotherapy should not only make people feel better or adapt, but also completely change the fate of the original script and live a truly successful and happy life.

In this book, Eric Bowen says that whatever you do depends on your "script". How you respond to others now depends on what kind of emotional decisions you made to yourself, others and the world when you were young.

The script is about how you plan to spend your life. You were only a child when you made this plan. Based on your understanding of the world at that time. You made the early decisions, and you can change these decisions as needed in your later life, that is, change your script.

Script is an important concept to understand human destiny. The script can explain why a person has worked hard all his life, but still feels unsatisfied; It can also explain why another person just does a small thing in life, but feels quite happy. Or, why one person is good at communicating with others, while another person feels lonely; Why does one person adapt well when he is old, but another person feels like jumping off a bridge to end his life?

The connotation of the script is quite profound. This book is a classic because the concept of script was first put forward in the fields of psychology and communication analysis.

Brief introduction of the author

Eric berne, an American psychologist, studied psychoanalysis in his early years and founded the school of interactive analysis in 1950s. Its communication analysis method has had a positive and far-reaching impact on psychotherapy, education, management and various work fields closely related to interpersonal relationships in the following decades.

Notes on Life Plays: Exploring the Psychology of "Destiny"

Why do my feelings always encounter setbacks?

Why can't I succeed in my career no matter how hard I try?

Why has my marriage been unhappy?

Why do I never know what I want?

Why am I always depressed, anxious and scared? ...

Why is my interpersonal relationship always like this? ...

Why, why, why. ...

-in fact, your "fate" has long been doomed!

The script of your life, the process of your life and even the ending have all been written by a 7-year-old child!

He/she has been writing since he/she was born, and he/she has already written the outline of the plot when he/she was 3 years old.

At the age of 7, he/she has finished the main details of your life story, including your love, career, marriage, emotional state and interpersonal relationship. ...

That child is yourself!

This story is your life script.

Life script is a subconscious plan for life.

Now that you have grown up, you can't remember how the story started.

So far, you may not know that you wrote the whole story yourself.

But over the years, you have naturally brought this story to life.

And being led by the nose by the subconscious always falls into the same predicament and even goes to the scheduled ending!

"Life Script" is one of the core theories of transaction analysis. Its founder, eric berne, a famous American psychologist, defines "life script" as: life script is a childhood plan for life, which is strengthened by parents, proved by life experience and reaches its climax through choice.

Life Script-Communication Psychology that Completely Changed Fate is the most important work of Bourne, which tells how the narrator "planned" his own life script at a young age and how to practice the role of "loser".

The difference between Bourne and other psychoanalytic schools is that psychotherapy should not only make people feel better or adapt, but also completely change the fate of the original script and live a truly successful and happy life. He not only helps people realize their failed scripts, but also helps people rewrite scripts, no longer bound by their invisibility. Like his therapy, Bowen's writing style is humorous and extremely sharp, which makes people want to stop.

You met new people. You said "hello". The other party also said hello. What will you say next? What would you do? Will you leave in a hurry? Will you actively communicate or just wait? Or what?

In this book, Eric Bowen said that what you do next depends on your "script". How you respond to others now depends on what kind of emotional decisions you made to yourself, others and the world when you were young.

The script is about how you plan to spend your life. You were only a child when you made this plan. Based on your understanding of the world at that time. You made the early decisions, and you can change these decisions as needed in your later life, that is, change your script.

Script is an important concept to understand human destiny.

The script can explain why a person has worked hard all his life, but still feels unsatisfied;

It can also explain why another person just does a small thing in life, but feels quite happy;

Or, why one person is good at communicating with others, while another person feels lonely;

Why does one person adapt well when he is old, but another person feels like jumping off a bridge to end his life? ...

-the meaning of the script is quite profound.

Life script is a classic work, because the concept of script was first put forward in the fields of psychology and communication analysis.