The topic of son preference is a cliche, but every time I meet it, I can't help but want to write it. On this topic, there are also many presentations in film and television dramas. For example, Fan in Ode to Joy, a pair of shameless parents and a pair of disappointing brothers and sisters-in-law, parents always think of their sons and do not hesitate to drain Fan's blood.

Another example is Su Mingyu in Everything is Fine. In order to send her brother to school, her mother can sell the house, but she refuses to send her brother to college. He also said that he would sever the relationship between mother and daughter and never raise her again. Parents can't pass the exam, and it's the children who are finally poisoned. These two characters are typical portrayal of real life, but in real life, some people are even more miserable than them.

Sister Ling, whom I met at work, is 30 years old this year. She works hard and earns a good income. She also bought herself a small house and paid the mortgage every month. But she is very diligent and thrifty, and she is reluctant to buy a hundred pieces of clothes. She wore clothes that were out of date in previous years. I bring a lunch box to the company every day, saying it is healthy and saves money.

I really can't figure out why she is not willing to spend money with such a high income. After some understanding, I realized that since working, Ling Jie has to pay living expenses to her family every month and pay tuition to her younger brother. She said that in recent years, she had a good life, her income came up, her brother graduated, and the pressure of life was not so great.

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In the year or two after Ling Jie just graduated, his salary was not high and there was little left at home. When she was poorest, she ate instant noodles for a month and didn't buy clothes for herself for a year. She worked so hard because she was born in a patriarchal family, her parents were farmers, and her annual income was not much. There is a younger brother down there.

Parents provide delicious food for their younger brother and are willing to buy him hundreds of clothes and shoes. Sister ling was ignored. When she was in high school, she wanted to enroll in a cram school, but her parents refused to pay for it. When she was in college, her parents only paid her tuition every year, and she had almost no living expenses. She can only work hard to support herself.

Other students buy clothes and snacks, but Ling Jie can't guarantee three meals a day, but she is very strong, and she still works hard to finish college. After graduating from college, I made money, but my parents found various excuses to ask her for money. What's wrong with being sick? My brother wants to buy home materials and furniture. Sister Ling didn't want to give it to her, so her parents put pressure on her with the kindness of raising her, and even said goodbye.

Sister Ling is a soft-hearted person and can't hide her parents' war against her. Over the years, she has been working hard and scrimping, just so that when her parents ask her for money, she can get it. Such parents are cruel, they only have money in their eyes, but they don't care about how their daughter is doing. In their eyes, their daughters are like their own money-making machines.

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Ling Jie, 30, has no date. She said that she didn't dare to get married at all, thinking of many things at home, which man would accept her. Some time ago, Ling Jie's younger brother was getting married, and the woman's family asked for a suite. Without thinking about it, my parents called Ling Jie: "Didn't you buy a house? Marry your brother first. "

Sister Ling was very angry: "Mom, why?" "Just because you are the daughter of our family." Then she hung up. On the other end of the phone, Ling Jie was sobbing. For so many years, in order to supplement the family, she almost occupied her own life. The house is her only living guarantee, but I didn't expect her parents to move their minds.

Ling Jie went back to her hometown for this and spread it out with her parents: "Mom and Dad, I won't use this house to get married for my brother. Ask yourself, have I done less for this family for so many years? " I will at least give home100000. Think about your brother. Have you ever thought about my situation? I will get married in the future, and this house is my only confidence. "My parents are so angry when they first met Ling's sister, but they dare not say anything. My mother sobbed that she had raised an unfilial daughter.

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Mom, why should I give my brother my house to get married? Because you are a daughter? This passage echoed in Ling Jie's mind for a long time, and her heart was about to break. Because she is the daughter of the family, she should be patient and bear everything. Why? I understand how Sister Ling feels. In the face of such a family, it is difficult to get the respect of parents if they only tolerate and pay.

We should be filial to our parents, but it doesn't mean that parents can ask us without a bottom line. The most terrible thing about patriarchal families is to instill in their daughters from an early age: "When they grow up, they should get married, make money to repay their parents, and if they are girls, they should let their younger brothers go ..."

But they didn't expect that their daughter was their child, and their harsh treatment brought a lifelong shadow to the child. We can see that those women who grew up in a patriarchal family are sensitive, suspicious and insecure, which will permeate all aspects of her life, especially in marriage and love. They can't let go of themselves, dare not love, and feel that they are not worthy of being loved. Finally, I hope that every woman who grew up in such a family can be strong and dare to resist the parents of vampires. Living high is the most brilliant.