Only by truly experiencing the pain caused by anger can we really understand this sentence.
When I was in junior high school, my father bought a fan with a poem "Don't be angry" printed on it:
"For the sake of small temper, think back about why.
I am not angry when others are angry, and there is no one to replace me when I am sick.
If I make anyone sad, it will be frustrating and laborious. "
The older you get, the more you realize what anger means. Anger is the most useless performance, wasting time and damaging vitality.
For the rest of your life, let yourself go, let others go, let everything go with the wind, and let the past be indifferent.
0 1. Being angry is to punish yourself with other people's mistakes.
We are always angry because of a little thing, and it is ourselves who are hurt the most.
When you cling to other people's mistakes, it is also the most tiring and sad time for yourself to live.
I read a sentiment essay written by a girl on the Internet:
From 20021year1month, I went to the local hospital for examination because of unbearable breast pain during menstruation.
The doctor said: Don't you feel such a big pimple in it? It needs surgery as soon as possible.
After listening to the doctor's words, the girl in her twenties was very scared and immediately contacted her mother to accompany her to the operation.
During the operation, the doctor took out a 6.5cm and 2cm pimple.
After the operation ended successfully, the girl said, it's good to be alive, and she will try to control her temper in the future so as not to hurt her body because of anger.
Huangdi Neijing said: "All diseases are born of qi, and anger hurts the liver."
Anger is the stupidest way to vent your emotions, that is, to vent other people's mistakes on yourself.
The highest level of health care begins with less anger.
02. Anger will consume face value.
Mr. Hu Shi wrote in My Mother: "The most disgusting thing in the world is an angry face."
Your face is the embodiment of your emotions, and no matter how high your face value is, it will be exhausted by anger.
Many people say: Why don't women in marriage laugh?
You can also see a lot of comparisons about women before and after marriage on the internet, and most women are deeply touched.
Women in marriage often quarrel and get angry because of the trivial matters of parent-child relationship, mother-in-law relationship and husband-wife relationship.
After a long time, you will look haggard. From a distance, I always feel unhappy.
The so-called phase is born of the heart, everything in the world is transformed, the heart does not move, everything does not move, the heart does not change, and everything does not change.
It is not difficult to see that a person's state is created by his own "heart".
Anger is the fastest behavior to consume face value; And smiling is the best way to maintain the face value.
Life is short, be less angry, smile more, take care of your face and protect your body.
03. It's better to be angry than disappointed.
Since childhood, there has always been a saying on my lips: don't steam steamed bread, fight for breath.
If you are still in a state of complete anger, it is better to turn passivity into initiative and put all your energy into improving yourself.
Read such a short story in a book:
A studio is recruiting people, and a little girl is confident to apply. The boss asked her which position she wanted to apply for, and she said editor.
But this position is full, the boss said. What about other positions? The little girl said confidently that I edited it very well. You will know after you have seen my work.
The boss finally discussed with the staff for a while and decided to recommend her to try another studio.
Unfortunately, she was not admitted. She is excellent, but she can be replaced.
I thought it would end like this, but the little girl added the boss's WeChat and asked him angrily: My ability is not bad, why don't you want me?
The boss didn't want to reply, but let her know what the problem was.
The boss replied: you are excellent, but you didn't make the editing to the extreme. Although your ability will improve quickly, our position is full. Although you are excellent and not so lucky, if a person is irreplaceable, his luck is much better.
After this conversation, the boss and the little girl became good friends, and the little girl successfully signed a contract with the big studio through hard work. Obviously, she listened to her boss.
No matter in work, study or life, anger can't solve any problems. It is better to live up to expectations than to be angry.
"You can't change the weather, but you can change your mood; You can't control others, but you can control yourself. "
Use angry time to improve yourself and cultivate yourself. There is nothing to be angry about when your ability is far superior to others.
There is a saying in Laozi:
"Qi is also a god. When the gas is fixed, the heart will be fixed and the heart will be round. "
Remember: just hold your horses and be sure to succeed.
The highest state of health preservation is: less anger.
Eat well, sleep well, earn money and spend money well.
For the rest of my life, be an open-minded person, not angry with people who are not worth it, and not losing sleep over things that are not worth it.