Fortunately, we can choose who we meet and who we care about.
As we get older, we can appreciate it more and more. Getting along well with others is the most important thing.
With comfortable people, you don't have to cater to or please, and you can be yourself in front of each other.
Comfortable relationship, peace of mind, silence and warmth, can fulfill each other and achieve each other.
There are thousands of people in Qian Qian in the world, and people who get along well are precious. There are all kinds of relationships between people, and comfortable relationships are the only way to keep healthy.
In the TV series "Do you know if it should be green, fat, red and thin?", Minglan met a bad guy and a muddy marriage in Shuyang, her sister.
Lan Shu's husband, Sun Xiucai, was originally a down-and-out scholar, who looked down on the daughter of a merchant in Lan Shu, but coveted the dowry of the Sheng family.
After Sun Xiucai and Shulan got married, they showed no respect for Shulan, and often began to beat and scold her, wantonly squandering Shulan's dowry, eating, drinking, whoring and gambling.
Lan Shu is gentle, knowledgeable, and considerate of the family's face, and he chooses to give in again and again. The Sheng family also used the way of giving away pavement and money, hoping that Shulan would suffer less in her husband's family.
However, Sun Xiucai did not stop there. On the contrary, he pushed his luck. When he is sure, Shulan will be patient with him again and again.
At this time, Ming Lan stood up and persuaded Lan Shu to leave.
She said, "My sister took a wrong step and has entered a poor lane. Now that you are in a poor lane, you should turn around in time. It will be too late for her to wait for the rest of her life. "
The person who blindly consumes you will not stop because of your concession, and all your patience and efforts will become his confidence to hurt you.
Trying to save someone who consumes you will only result in disappointment while paying. If you try to maintain a broken relationship, the result must be that the harder you work, the more black and blue you will be.
Forcing yourself to run an uncomfortable relationship will only be a sincere mistake, and the years have passed.
Leaves turn yellow day by day, and people are a little cold. All the relationships that make you tired are behind the accumulated consumption.
Liu Yu once said, "Stay away from those who consume you, and don't consume others."
Uncomfortable relationships don't last. Instead of turning around after being disheartened, stop loss when you feel tired.
Life is long, you won't miss the right person, and you don't have to cling to the wrong person.
People who consume you, no matter how good the relationship is, please stay away.
Zhou, Zhou, Zhou and Zhou are famous red scientists. They are 20 years apart, but because of a dream of red mansions, they have become once-in-a-lifetime girlfriends.
After getting to know him, Zhou hit it off with him and visited his Zhanchun Garden almost every day.
Two people either write poems, or do calligraphy and painting, or play the piano and sing, sometimes even say nothing or do nothing, just sit quietly in the yard.
Zhou He is never too polite and does not cater to each other. Sometimes they discuss with each other, sometimes they go their separate ways, and they always come as comfortably as possible.
The friendship between two people is deepening in such a comfortable and harmonious atmosphere.
After his death, Zhou mentioned his friendship with him many times and wrote an article recalling some anecdotes with him.
Zhou said, "When I arrived, I ignored him and he ignored me. I'm going back to school. I'm not leaving. Go out and leave. No one can understand our relationship. "
A truly comfortable relationship doesn't need your careful maintenance, nor does it need your deliberate catering. You can express yourself without fear or enjoy silence.
Just like there is a saying in banana philosophy: "All love, interpersonal relationship and work should be relaxed."
A feeling that makes you feel relaxed, unpretentious and relaxed can really stand the test of time. The longer it lasts in Mika.
Relationships that need to cater to please will also be fragmented because of the imbalance of relationship scales.
Catering to others, most of them wronged themselves; To please others is to make a mistake after all. Why do you have to belittle yourself in order to please others?
Writer Su Qin said: "At this age, no one wants to please anyone, and whoever is comfortable with them will stay with them."
In a relationship that needs to please, you will always be a walk-on; Being with comfortable people is the scenery.
We will eventually find that all relationships are unwilling to come. You can't please anyone, and you don't need to please anyone.
In the TV series "Parents' Love", Anjie is a rich capitalist's wife, while Jiang Defu is a lout officer from the countryside. Their social backgrounds and living habits are completely different.
Anjie made breakfast and prepared exquisite milk, walnut crisp and fried eggs. Jiang Defu doesn't like it. She thinks it's not as full as porridge and steamed bread.
Angie began to cook in the canteen, and Jiang Defu learned to drink coffee, so two very different people lived happily together for most of their lives.
There is such a plot in the play. At the family dinner, Jiang Defu, who was eating western food for the first time, didn't like the lack of chopsticks for a while, and then said that the beef was not cooked enough, so he still drank soup.
His wife Anjie didn't show any disgust at the dinner table. She joked with Jiang Defu from time to time, which made him lose face at the party. On the way back, An Jie happily praised Jiang Defu's enthusiasm for his brother-in-law's "Hongmen Banquet".
A good relationship is like this, with the greatest tolerance to complete each other, allowing him to be himself freely; At the same time, you can love yourself freely and accept change willingly.
All relationships that come to the end are not necessarily the same, but we must be tolerant, love ourselves and love others.
Ma De said, "You are free with people who get along well with you. This sense of freedom is actually a sense of relaxation. "
It is easy to feel relaxed when you are alone; Relaxation is valuable when you get along with others.
We always think that the length of a relationship depends on the depth of emotion, but actually depends on the daily state of getting along.
Get along comfortably, people are not tired, and their hearts are not tired. All the time together becomes precious and precious.
A good relationship is like this, such as the spring breeze in April and the warm sun in winter, which warms people and warms themselves.
Bi Shumin said: "The warmth of the world spans countless years and the haze of fate, baking the memory fluffy and fragrant."
A comfortable relationship is not only the warmth at the moment, but also sweet memories. A good relationship can nourish people, make the heart clean and make the years fragrant.
Being with comfortable people is the best way to keep healthy.
In fact, relationships that are not tired of getting along with each other and are not tired of getting along for a long time are mostly sincere exchanges and cherished mutual efforts.
In the second half of your life, I hope someone will give you tolerance and sincerity and get along comfortably with you; I also hope that you can be yourself easily and not please anyone.
The rest of your life is precious, please be with people who are comfortable with you.
People who get along well are the most precious.
Text/Tian Tong