First, I learned to use verification language to help the other party sort out information, clarify problems and push the other party to find solutions.
We describe stories from our own perspectives and memories, which are distorted, deleted and stored in our brains after induction. So this story is not the whole truth, but only a part. Therefore, it is necessary to ask for verification skills, make up the deleted parts, restore the distorted parts, break the restrictive conclusions, and let the other party change their thinking, mentality and behavior to get out of the predicament.
Second, when communicating, it is very important to see each other's positive intentions and speak them out!
Positive intention refers to the positive motivation behind this problem or this behavior.
For example: picky eaters.
Positive intentions are: care for yourself; Have requirements for life; Have opinions; Have your own principles, and so on.
Once you see the positive intention, the door of communication opens and the resistance can collapse. Once positive intentions are spoken, healing begins.
When we communicate with others, we seldom see their positive intentions, because our previous communication methods are used to blaming others, and we almost never want to see their positive intentions!
Teacher Huang said that seeing each other's positive intentions requires us to have high self-cultivation and expand our minds. This is a lifelong practice! I thought it was! !
Third, correctly understand what hypnosis is.
Before class, I thought hypnosis was to hypnotize others to sleep with words. Only after class did I know that hypnosis actually refers to barrier-free communication and is a wise language mode.
Hypnosis trilogy:
1. Establish affinity and trust, and let the other person relax. Only by relaxing can you accept the information. No blood relationship, no communication.
2. Let the other person enter the lowest energy state: the flow of fear and love. Change only happens when feelings flow.
3. Use future information to promote current actions.
The point is: never fight for right or wrong! Use the language that the other person feels comfortable to bypass his consciousness and enter his subconscious.
I think hypnosis also needs our deliberate practice, a lot of practice, in order to use it freely and achieve results.
I believe I can learn hypnosis, although there are many difficulties. At the same time, we have the support of wise courses and the guidance of Mr. Huang. So I am confident!
Fourth, we wise men can redefine everything, so we will always be winners in life!
Redefinition refers to replacing words used in belief statements with new words with similar but different meanings, transforming negative statements into positive statements and negative comments into positive appreciation.
Example: I am too stupid to learn.
Redefinition: You mean that your study progress will be slower, so you are afraid that you may not have comprehensive knowledge and need to spend more time on your study, right?
Smart people can redefine everything and take failure as feedback. Every failure is a summary of experience, which helps to achieve the expected goals in the future. Therefore, we are all winners in life without failure!
The six-day course has yielded too much. In addition to the above four points, I also learned the 12 presupposition of NLP (Body-Mind Language Programming), learned several negotiation skills, learned cold reading, ate all kinds of delicious food, met high-energy students and learned health preservation methods. ...
Finally, I want to describe my feelings about this course with the sharing written by my favorite fish teacher:
"Six days and five nights, the magical language course is over. I can't describe it as full of harvest. I think, or should I say: value-for-money, king-fried, or perfect, can better reflect my current mood.
For the first time, I want to use priceless to describe a course.
Because this course is both a psychological method and a technique; It is both a world outlook and a methodology; Philosophy and economics ...
I saw the gorgeous changes like fireworks in full bloom, and I also saw the rock-solid underlying foundation. Everything, everything, everything is based on the scene of life.
Look at life, in the direction of supporting life, or at yourself, in the direction of showing your abilities?
The same changing techniques, the same skillful skills and different directions will make a world of difference.
Listening and seeing need to be repaired.
I am on my way. "
Yes, I'm on my way!