Instead of counting on children, count on yourself.
Parents who have children in their thirties are more experienced and knowledgeable, and their personalities are more mature. They understand that it is unrealistic to pin their self-expectation on their children. It is better to work harder than to expect children. Children's starting line has always been their parents. In real life, if we pay attention to it, it is not difficult to find that those "Niu Wa" who have excellent grades and stand out among their peers have equally excellent parents behind them. Moreover, regardless of genetic factors such as IQ, personality and appearance, or parents' economic status, social status and interpersonal network, these influences on children can not be ignored, and they will provide advantages for children in education, employment, workplace, etc., tangibly or invisibly making children ahead of their peers. Therefore, for parents of 35+ babies, they are more aware of the influence of family background on their children's future. Instead of worrying about children's class decline because they don't work hard, it is better to work harder and pass on better family social capital to children.
Understand that health and happiness are the true meaning of life.
In medicine, primiparas over the age of 35 are considered as "elderly women", and the probability of complications will greatly increase, so be extra careful throughout pregnancy. I remember I had a treasure mother to share it with before. When I was young, I was busy with my work and missed the best reproductive period. At 35, it's hard. I tried various methods to get pregnant successfully. However, despite the pregnancy, the situation is not optimistic. The doctor told me to have a miscarriage preventive injection and take a miscarriage preventive medicine in bed. In this process, I am very painful. I was given a miscarriage needle in my ass, and I was so bitter that I doubted my life after eating Chinese patent medicine. I still have to worry about the baby in my stomach all the time, and I am afraid every time I have a prenatal examination. When the baby was born smoothly, the precious mother finally put her heart back in her stomach. The birth of the baby gave her a new understanding of life, and she began to reflect on what kind of life she should let her children live, earn a lot of money, rise to a very high position and be admired by thousands of people. Are these worldly successes really that important? Parents will hope that their children will live a healthy and happy life in the future and grow naturally. If their children can live a stable and secure life every day, such a life is enough.
We are all from the same era, so let's enjoy ourselves. Our children and grandchildren have their own blessings, so we don't need to be too demanding.