Weibo's content is as follows: "At the opening ceremony of Zhejiang University freshmen, Guo, as a parent representative, had a heated discussion: Don't just say that Mom and Dad miss you when you are short of money, because we miss you all the time. Guo said that after children go to college, there is much less communication with their parents. I want to encourage children to communicate with their parents. "
Think back, when college life was short of money, did you think of your parents?
Question:
"Do you miss your parents whenever you are short of money?"
For this hot discussion caused by Weibo, Wang Ji and Jike APP reporters also paid attention to localization. Today's interview question is "Will you miss your parents when you are short of money?"
In response to this question, reporters from Wang Ji and Jike APP interviewed students who are studying and school leavers who have graduated from work to see how they answered.
Students at school:
I miss my parents most during holidays and when I am short of money.
As for "will you miss your parents when you are particularly short of money?" On this issue, Wang Ji and Jike APP reporters interviewed students from Changchun University, changchun university of science and technology and other universities respectively.
Liu Yang, a senior two student, said, "I usually go to school before school starts. My parents put a semester's tuition and living expenses into the card in advance, and I control it myself. "
"Boy, the cost is relatively large, and often the money is spent early before the end of the semester. If you have no money, you can only ask your parents. I usually ask my mother for money and say something nice, and my mother will give me some money. " Liu Yang said.
Ye Ting, a junior, said: "My family is in Sichuan, and I miss my parents very much when I come to study in the Northeast. Every time I call, my parents will ask me if I am short of money and let me take good care of myself. I also call them regularly every weekend to talk about my situation, but I really miss them the most and rely on them the most when I am short of money. "
"Sometimes my parents will send me a red envelope and transfer money. If I say I don't have enough money, they will give me a lot of money. For example, I want 1000 yuan, maybe my dad can give me 2000 yuan. " Ye Ting said.
After leaving school:
My heart is tied and I lack important memories of communicating with my parents at school.
"Hey, after reading this Weibo, I feel deeply rooted." Mr. Zhao, who has graduated for three years, said: "When I was in college, I played every day. I don't communicate with my parents much, and I seldom call my parents. Most of them call me and always ask if there is enough money at the end of the conversation. I always thought they were wordy. Looking back now, I feel a little uncomfortable, especially when I see my parents are old. I really want to spend more time with them. "
Ms. Liu said: "I have graduated for 7 years and have my own children. Some time ago, I saw funny WeChat jokes about college students and parents asking for money on the Internet. After reading them, I am both painful and happy. I remember that when I was at school, I really lacked this important memory of communicating with my parents. "
Parents:
"I hope to know the news of my child every day. This is love!"
Regarding this question, Ms. Wang said: "My son is a senior and is studying in Xiamen. His father and I miss him very much. We watch the weather forecast every day and pay attention to the weather in Xiamen. If there is a rainstorm or typhoon, I will call him. Actually, it's not verbose. We miss him very much and can't wait to hear from him every day. This is not awkward, but love. "
"Parents love their children without asking for anything in return. They just want their children to be well. As this parent said, don't just miss your parents when they are short of money. He's right. We hope to communicate with children more. "
Funny dialogue:
Don't forget to call your parents at home after reading it!
I don't know how you feel after reading the article.
Ok, after reading the picture, think more about the parents behind the joke. Don't forget to call them and send WeChat! Otherwise, you may be removed from the group chat by your parents like the above picture!
That's a good question Here's an example:
Xiao Zhang was admitted to the university, and his father Lao Zhang later sent takeout with his son in the same city. Xiao Zhang had no money, so he asked Lao Zhang for it. Lao Zhang always gives him everything he wants. "No matter how poor you are, you can't have a poor son." This kind of upfront investment is necessary. Lao Zhang worked overtime, saved money and spent most of his hard-earned money on sending his son to school. But later, Xiao Zhang's "tuition fee" climbed steadily, exceeding Lao Zhang's ability to pay.
Besides the lack of money, Xiao Zhang called Lao Zhang. After giving the money, he never talked to Lao Zhang again.
On this day, Lao Zhang called his son, and his son said something that chilled Lao Zhang:
"I will call you if I am short of money; Don't call me. " Say that finish, the phone hung up.
In Xiao Zhang's eyes, dad is just an ATM; There's no need, Lao Zhang. It's nothing. Xiao Zhang has long forgotten his father.
Although Xiao Zhang makes Lao Zhang feel cold, Lao Zhang still cares about his son. But he thinks it's abnormal for his son to ask for money. Lao Zhang wants to know. Later, I found my son in an Internet cafe near my school. It turns out that my son has long been obsessed with surfing the Internet. This exorbitant tuition fee made his son spend all his time online, and his studies were neglected. Later, he was expelled from school.
When Xiao Zhang was 8 years old, his mother left him. Therefore, Lao Zhang loves his son dearly and has high hopes for him, hoping that his son will achieve something to change his fate and family status. Take good care of his son in material life and try to meet his requirements to make up for Xiao Zhang's lack of maternal love.
However, Lao Zhang relaxed his education on his son's three views. It is this deformed fatherly love that makes Xiao Zhang not know the price of rice, oil and salt, nor the difficulty of being a father. He has developed the habit of reaching for clothes and opening his mouth to take food.
The uncooked rice is ripe. Lao Zhang is anxious about his son's disappointment and lack of progress. But what's done is done, and it's too late for my son to regret it. All Lao Zhang's investments and expectations for his son have hit Shui Piao.
Qian Qian's 10 million Lao Zhang's parents, it's time to reflect. While meeting children's material needs, should we make up for the shortcomings of traditional moral education? This kind of spiritual silver is more necessary and important for the healthy growth of children.
Otherwise, it will cultivate a generation of people who have no gratitude, no action and no waste!
This is normal, not that I don't want to get up, but that I am afraid to communicate with my parents and want to escape from the control of their love. Why? This is a question that parents should reflect on.
I remember there was a public welfare salon, which talked about how parents should adjust themselves when their children are about to go to college. A couple came together. When it was time for them to experience, the child's mother pushed the child's father up. He found someone to represent his son who is going to college.
Father and son didn't talk face to face. The son represents discomfort and doesn't want to look up at his father. My father is a little anxious. I led my father and asked, "What can Dad do to make you comfortable?" The son's representative actually said, "Do you pay living expenses once a month?" Unexpectedly, my father immediately objected: "No, once a week." The child turned his head away unhappily again. The child's mother is smiling while covering her mouth.
It turns out that the dialogue on the parade ground is exactly the same as in real life, although it is the first time for the person representing his son to meet. Only through communication did I know that my father was worried that his son would not call home often when he went to college, so he thought of a trick and proposed to give living expenses once a week. This father's intentions are really hard enough. The question is, what is the significance of this kidnapping exchange?
Why did the child become like this? Every family has specific reasons for each family, but a common problem is that parents unconsciously control or rely on their children and let them instinctively resist.
My interaction with my son used to be like this. His father has been away for many years, and my feelings are unconsciously poured on him. The child was about to leave when he found that his heart seemed to be hollowed out. My son was distressed and angry when he saw my helplessness. He couldn't let me go and was angry that he couldn't be himself. Fortunately, at that time, I began to contact the family system.
During my children's college years, I began to adjust my life and slowly found my lost self. In order to control my impulse to call my son after he went to Japan, I never made an international call. Sometimes call him to communicate with his father more.
When I stop fighting for control, my son will take the initiative to talk to me about some things in the past two years, repeatedly stressing that family members just need to communicate more. Maybe I've gone too far in recent years and rarely bothered him. He doesn't feel used to it, and will contact me to chat in the future.
Therefore, if children really think of their parents only when they are short of money, there will be some deviations in their interaction with their parents in life. Just find and correct it in time. Don't be sad about this, scold the child. In fact, the children feel bad in their hearts. This really has nothing to do with filial piety.
I just want to say that it's really not that all children think of their parents only when they are short of money!
Many people complain that their children don't contact their families for a long time after they go to college, but if they do, they will need money and living expenses. But have you ever wondered why?
According to Yiyi's personal research results, peers who work and study outside the home talk to their parents almost every few days. Usually they have vx voice and video chat almost every day. When they have a holiday, they either go home soon or spend some time studying and working. I have hardly met a child who has not contacted his family for a long time and just wants money. Of course, even Yiyi's survey may be one-sided and limited to friends with the same frequency, but there are very few children who really only want money.
There are also many people who criticize the post-90 s generation for not being sensible and filial, not knowing how to go home, not knowing how to call, not being obedient, not getting married and not having children, but do you really know how tired our post-90 s generation children are? Most post-90s have caught up with the hardest time, but you can't understand it, especially now after 00, because although there is no separate love from parents and elders, the future is really happy and relaxed!
After 90, you have to work hard alone, not dating or getting married, because there is no stable job, a house and a car. Without these machines that can only make babies, who will feed us? You have to work, you have to support yourself, you have to eat and buy clothes, you have to pay high rent, and you have to pay some books for hobbies. There is hardly any money left in the course fee. It's annoying to contact you and make irresponsible remarks. Whether you go to school or work, you have to rely on your home. Want money? We just want you to be harmonious and healthy, take good care of your elders and have no bad hobbies. To know how difficult it is to see a doctor, how tired and hard we are as the only children born after 90, we may never buy a house! Just please don't let us be the second Fan Meisheng, and don't let us be cornered!
The baby in the post-90s generation city is really tired. Cousins are all born after 90, and they are only children after leaving Iraq for more than one year or two. However, having a younger brother at home who is a friend in the countryside can relieve a lot of pressure. None of us will ask the family for money. My cousin often goes home when he is a graduate student in the local area, but he often goes out to collect money, so he will bring a card. Sister, there is no need to answer the living expenses for studying abroad. Moreover, there are other relatives who are equal to doing a small business, and my friend seems to have taught himself Chinese massage courses without going to a regular university. Now he has worked in a famous coffee shop and is a small leader. In Hangzhou, he claimed to experience life.
And eating, drinking and having fun at home don't cost money, and don't go out. Do I need money? Mom's card is my card. I buy things in moderation and often give them to the elderly. Although the price is cheap, I can cook a meal every day and chat after dinner. How filial can I be? Don't pay a penny, buy it yourself if you want, be filial and temperate, and never be stupid.
So, it's not just that we are short of money that we think of you, but that we are too busy to contact you. Only when we ask for money will you respond positively to us, otherwise what should we do if we are indifferent? We need you to teach us how to love, but to work and educate us not to play or do useless things. You treat you as big leaders, don't look down on us. Now you want us to contact you not only for money, but also for our original intention!
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My parents never give me a chance to be short of money.
The living expenses given each time are basically enough for me to spend two months, and then every two weeks I will ask if I am short of money.
The following contents are mainly about family. If you think it may cause discomfort, you can skip to the end.
Studying alone in the provincial capital city. When I was at school, the three of us would start chatting at around 7: 00 every night. They mainly determine whether their baby daughter is safe in other places, whether she takes good care of herself, whether she cares about my study and so on. As for me, I wait for them to "soak" every night, not to mention the kind that I feel uncomfortable all day.
Wechat group:
When I went back to school, I bought a senior's book for my parents to read:
If you are at home on holiday and the other person is not at home, you can dry your own cooking and ask for praise. Like this:
Like this:
And this:
When you are idle and looking for a sense of existence, like this:
Go out to play when you get home, like this:
Sometimes it goes like this:
Chatting with mom … probably mainly involves the transmission of all kinds of beautiful photos and videos.
This is a passage from my dad today. I am alone … my tears are really low …
Giving so many examples actually means that most families should be as harmonious as me. Most children should be like me, "it's hard to love you" for their parents. Don't demonize your children. "Today's children only miss their parents when they are short of money." Do you have so little confidence in your children? Is the child a baiwenhang or a vampire? Maybe we really need to learn how to express generously to our parents, and parents should be more confident. Your children don't want you to love you. What are you? Ta, I'm sorry to say it.
As usual, I'll give you a compliment after reading it. I love you for ten thousand years!
Eight intelligent is one of the ways to cultivate children's reflective intelligence. I remember that children came into contact with preschool education in a few months, which mentioned cultivating children's reflective intelligence, such as taking him back from kindergarten and asking him if he was doing well in kindergarten. What interesting thing happened? Made some new friends? How to find a teacher to solve things? I have always insisted and formed a habit. My son came back from outside when he was a child and kept talking about this and that. Now it's the same after graduation from college and graduate school. When I go home, even if I am busy in the kitchen, I will come back and talk about it. Sometimes at dinner, my husband and wife are talking about something else. When we meet him, we will talk about it. We didn't notice. Will he say you are listening? Otherwise, don't say it next time, and you will say it next time. Get into the habit.
When you ask this question again, please reflect on yourself. What is your usual education for your children? If you input the concept of money to your child every day, he will love money from the bottom of his heart, not for love's sake.
I met two mothers, and they both said the same thing. They are all sons, studying in college, and usually have no telephone. Only when they need living expenses every month will they continue to be mothers.
Some children are like this.
Not necessarily. Some people's children are really warm.