I remember Zhang Ailing wrote in a book: When people reach middle age, they often feel lonely, because when they wake up, they are surrounded by people who can rely on them, but there is no one who can rely on them. ?
When people reach middle age, they are old and young, and their age is still in an awkward and sensitive period. Whether it is work, life, children's education or marriage, there are more or less bottlenecks, and all kinds of pressures accumulate and there is nowhere to release, which makes middle-aged people feel tired and lonely.
Remember Fiona Fang played by Huang Lei in the TV series Little Joy? He is a business executive and works hard, but unfortunately he became one of them because of the merger and layoffs of the company. Facing the children in senior three, he is afraid of affecting his study, so he wears a suit, goes out on the hour every day, pretends to go to work and goes shopping alone.
Once, after getting drunk with friends, I just heard the news of Mr. Jin Yong's death. Sitting at home, Fiona Fang finally couldn't help it. He cried and told his wife:
"Do you know what day it is today?"
"Mr. Jin Yong passed away."
"I feel particularly uncomfortable, you know?"
"Why did Mr. Jin Yong suddenly leave?"
"I wanted to be a martial arts since I was a child."
"I think it should be Ling Huchong, Yang Guo and Zhang Wuji that hurt me the most, right! Even if I am a little bit, I am at least a Komi Guo! "
"But how did I end up as Yue Buqun?"
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See Fiona Fang crying out this passage, caused a lot of people * * * Ming, middle-aged life is really not easy, no one has not walked one road after another.
He didn't just cry for Jin Yong's departure, but for himself.
Zhihu has a question: Why do men like to smoke in the car before going home?
A highly praised reply: wearing a mask and shivering at work in the company, even cooperating with leading colleagues; When I come home from work, it's my husband, son and father who are faced with daily necessities, soy sauce, vinegar and tea. Only sitting in the car, this is a space of your own, is the real freedom and relaxation.
Use the time of smoking to rest the tired body, even in the dark, there is a short time to vent yourself.
With the rapid development of the times, there are many temptations, and children's education, marriage and quality of life need the support of middle-aged people.
As a result, the pressure is increasing. Mortgage, car loan, children's education and normal expenses are like rolling waves, which makes people unprepared.
Milk coffee has a song called "Growing Loneliness". With the growth, former partners, classmates and inseparable friends are gradually withdrawing, and they all have their own careers and families, and they also have their own circles, which are no longer the previous circles.
The more you grow up, the more lonely you get, especially when you reach middle age. Under the tempering of life, you have no passion and willfulness, but only take every step in a down-to-earth manner and work hard for your family, yourself and life.
Loneliness is the normal state of life.
As writer Zhou said in the book "Life is Enriched by Loneliness":
Loneliness is the fate of human beings, which is based on the fact that each of us is an accidental existence in this world. From scratch and from scratch, no one and nothing can change our destiny.
Everyone will feel lonely, everyone will be frustrated and sad sometimes, but fortunately, there are people who love us and things that make us feel warm and beautiful.
People feel lonely in middle age, but aren't you lonely, too? May we all be treated gently by years, and may we all live less lonely and colorful.