In China, there is a special cultural phenomenon, which is the special cultural cognition of middle-aged people. Although the post-90s generation is far from being old, they are middle-aged in a strict sense in terms of life experience and experience. Now, after 90, most of them are old and young. There is a saying in China culture that a person who stands at the age of 30 means what he should look like when he first enters middle age. However, in Bian Xiao's view, middle-aged life has just begun. The most taboo detours! How to avoid detours?
The first retreat: make friends.
The golden age of making friends in life is middle school, and college is the golden age of making friends later. In society, it is difficult to make real friends because of common interests. However, in the vast sea of people, you can really make friends.
First of all, you must make friends with people who are better than yourself. Before entering the threshold of middle age, the most taboo is to make friends with people who are similar to or even worse than themselves. Such friends are not good for their own life development. Therefore, the best way out is to make real friends.
The second retreat: a skill.
When people reach middle age, especially at the age of 35, they must determine their own work areas. If you go for an interview, you may have personal feelings. It is difficult for a 35-year-old job seeker to find a suitable job. First, the 35-year-old has at least 10 years of work experience, but he has been changing jobs frequently, and his personal loyalty is problematic; Second, there is no stable job and personal ability problems; Third, age is no longer dominant.
Therefore, before the age of 30, you must determine your professional direction, and it is best to have a skill. I'm afraid that the post-90s generation who really understood this problem is worth more than one million now. Life is so cruel, you may lose at the starting line and fail in middle age.
The third way out: run a good family.
In any case, most post-90s are married. Now that we are married, we must think about a deep-seated problem and run our own family well. The importance of home is that when you are suffering in life, it can give you a harbor of home, which is the true meaning of home.
Most importantly, children are still childhood. This is your greatest hope in the future and your best retreat. Therefore, take time to educate your children and be their teachers. Only in this way can we become truly powerful and draw a perfect connection point for our middle-aged life.
On the way to the third grade, people reach middle age. If we can plan these three retreats in advance. Then life will not be so miserable, and we can avoid detours. What do you fear most in life? It is a detour on the starting line, a detour in middle age, and a detour in life. This is the greatest sorrow. What we have to do is to take preventive measures before taking detours to avoid taking more detours in life.