1. Make peace with yourself and accept your imperfections. No one is perfect. Everyone has a side that he doesn't want to touch, so we have to accept our imperfections. You know, formal imperfection makes us unique, so don't complain, give yourself more encouragement. Don't compare other people's lives with your own. There is no one else outside, only yourself. One of the signs of a person's true maturity is to realize that your life is meaningless to others. Similarly, other people's lives have little to do with you. People who know how to reconcile with themselves can concentrate on their strengths, not compare with others, concentrate on finding a breakthrough, and then bravely stick to it. For yourself, it is good to make a little progress every day.

2. Change your way of thinking and improve your cognitive level. Nothing in this world can guarantee your happiness. What you can do is to make yourself "worthy of happiness". When many of us change ourselves, the order of doing things is this: what to do first, what to get from it, and what to become in the end. However, if you don't think about what kind of person you want to be in advance, even if you do more, you will get twice the result with half the effort. Therefore, we should change the way of thinking, change the way of thinking and change the way of behavior accordingly. Before you start to change, think about what kind of person you want to be, and then think like this. At the beginning, those unreachable goals can be achieved naturally, so that you can truly have these qualities.

For example, you can think according to the following pattern:

(1) I want to be a self-disciplined and attractive person. (2) What do self-disciplined people do? (3) What will I have after doing these things? 3, looking for internal driving force In fact, we are not lacking willpower, but lack of motivation inside. When we want to do something, we should first analyze our psychological motives, instead of following others' self-discipline. Only by truly finding the internal driving force can we truly be self-disciplined. It is not because you lack self-discipline, so you can't insist on memorizing words, but because you don't want to memorize words at all, so you are not self-disciplined. Therefore, don't easily say that you lack self-discipline, which will not only help you solve the problem, but will give you an excuse to escape. True self-discipline begins with one's inner desire.

4. Set goals and focus on one thing. When a task takes a long time and is difficult to complete, we need to set phased goals for the task at this time, constantly subdivide the goals, and then focus on doing things at this stage. Don't think about big goals. When we complete the phased goals, we might as well give ourselves a reward, bring ourselves a sense of satisfaction, and thus provide ourselves with the motivation to move on. As long as you don't rush for success, make progress every day and take small steps, I believe every task can be successfully completed. For example, if you want to keep exercising every day, if you set a goal of running 5 kilometers a day, then you may not be able to stick to 90%. If you set your goal as one push-up every day for a month, I believe the probability of success will be much greater. No matter how much you think, it is better to act once. If you want to form a habit, the only feasible way is to take action. Only by really practicing can we deeply understand and constantly revise. Only action is the truth.

No one is born lazy and no one is born unhappy. If you want to live a self-disciplined life, you have to accept yourself, improve your cognition, find a driver and be responsible for yourself. The more self-discipline, the more freedom.