When you encounter too much care and service, you will panic. What happened? Let me talk about my personal experience.

On the left of the gate of my small community is a wealth management company named Haifo Finance, and on the right is a health care product company with "water purification equipment".

The service attitude of these two companies is really good! The service staff is far from the gate, handing out eggs every day and holding an activity in a few days. Seeing the old man, he shouted "grandpa, aunt", which is more enthusiastic than his own son.

As a result, "Haifo Finance" was opened for two years, the door was closed and people ran away. At first, hundreds of people stood at the door every day, and now the landlord has rented the house to others.

"Water purification equipment" is still bustling. In the winter of MINUS 20 degrees, water drops into ice. Every morning before dawn, there are many old people waiting in line.

The old couple in the neighborhood have a retirement salary of more than 8,000 yuan, saving 200,000 yuan. At that time, all the beauties of Haifo Finance came to his house, and my aunt's name was closer than her own son, which really made me envy.

"Haifo Finance" was destroyed and the old couple were cheated. Now they have nothing to do but go to the "water purification equipment", go to class every morning and happily get an egg back.

I heard that using a water purifier can reduce illness, so the old couple spent 8600 yuan to buy one. Later, the beautiful salesman who sold the water purifier went to his house again and recognized the old couple as "Why michel platini" and spent more than 20,000 yuan on a massage table.

The old couple live a frugal life, and they are reluctant to pay heating fees or property fees in winter. In fact, these people also called me and knocked on my door.

Often "brainwash" his wife. Now if you do something, no one will notice you how many times you run. If you are smiling, you just want to make money. If you care too much and call you "uncle and aunt", she must be a liar. Now my wife has listened to me and doesn't want eggs.

Your question has too few conditions and is too general. There are many aspects of nursing. In addition to your family care, that is, parents, relatives and friends, there are also several levels of care, such as classmates, colleagues, leaders, customers (your customers), which will cause your panic, mostly heterosexual relationships. Under normal circumstances, homosexuality is not necessary (unless you are gay). If you are an unmarried young man, it is easy to say that this kind of psychology should be normal, which may also indicate that your sexual psychological development is a bit slow. As the saying goes, it has something to do with the night of enlightenment. I think the service panic should also be related to the opposite sex. Maybe you are a little introverted, or maybe you are lacking in appearance, language skills and interpersonal skills. Of course, maybe your defense mechanism against the outside world is too heavy, which is related to your educational environment as a child.

Give you some advice: 1. Learn some knowledge of psychology and know some knowledge of cognition, emotion and social perception; 2. Establish self-confidence and fully believe in your ability, appearance and affinity; 3. Participate in more group activities to enhance the experience of interpersonal communication; 4. When men get married, so do women, so as to establish a correct view of marriage and love. Maybe someone has a crush on you; We should fully believe that our society still has more good people, more kind people, less defense mechanisms and more mutual help and friendship, so that you will reduce the degree of panic psychologically. Understand the particularity of service industry. When shopping in shopping malls and hotels, the enthusiasm of waiters is understandable. On the contrary, even if you are unhappy with the cold face and vicious language, is it better than the waiter's enthusiasm?

I hope what I said can help you.

1 There is a sense of inadaptability to "excessive" concern for service and an instinctive reaction to the panic caused by self-defense.

Lack of self-confidence, encountering too much care and service produces inferiority complex, which leads to panic.

Too much care and service will bring psychological burden to introverts. On the one hand, they always feel that they owe each other something and always want to make compensation. On the other hand, you may just want to be alone.

Too careful care and service will make people feel very restrained, even nervous and uncomfortable.

Everyone has an external safety distance and a psychological safety distance. Being too close can cause insecurity. Too much care and service will cause psychological discomfort and insecurity, which will make people feel scared.

People should grasp the boundaries and don't cross them, even if they are good friends.

That's because I lacked love since I was a child, so I was a little overwhelmed by attention and concern when I grew up.

People subconsciously have a range that allows them to approach. If the outside world enters this range too much, they will be alert, that's all.

This is a subconscious feeling that you don't deserve to be loved and cared for. That is, low self-worth. If it hasn't changed. It will be more difficult to experience happiness in marriage. I often tell myself that I am good enough to be loved and cared for.