Psychological preparation for middle-aged crisis
First of all, we should be psychologically prepared and know that there may be this stumbling block on the way forward, so that once the crisis comes, we will not panic, but be fully prepared for the battle; Secondly, before the crisis comes, we should be prepared, which includes studying and receiving training from time to time to keep our knowledge structure from aging; While accumulating wealth, we should pay more attention to the accumulation of intangible assets, such as work experience, interpersonal resources, analytical ability, decision-making ability, and even investment vision, knowledge, tolerance, and even knowledge and demeanor ... In a sense, the importance of intangible assets even exceeds salary. After all, one's own quality and ability are the fundamental guarantee for the smooth and step-by-step development of the cause.
In the face of professional crisis, we must first have courage, and courage is the premise of everything possible. Dare to ask yourself: at the difficult juncture of this person's middle age, accept all cruel realities frankly and never give up.
Finally, when necessary, we should dare to give up, and only by giving up can we gain something. Sometimes in order to climb another higher mountain, you have to go downhill first. You must keep a psychological balance at this time.
How to face the mood of middle-aged crisis
Don't underestimate emotions ",which is too lethal. Modern people are under great pressure, emotional flooding and emotional pollution. Poor emotional control is actually a personality defect. There is information about a world-class rich man's method of training his son. One of them is that he makes his son depressed, cry and lose his temper in the bedroom for whatever reason, but when he steps into the living room, he must be radiant with laughter! Because the bedroom is a private space and the living room is a public space at home. The rich man is training his son: You must never show gray emotions in public. This is really worth learning.
In fact, establishing and maintaining a happy family is really something that only people with mental health and sound personality can do. Most of this homework should be done in the youth before marriage. If you don't finish it, you need to make up lessons. No matter who, as long as they can work hard in the pursuit of growth, they have the opportunity to build a happy family.
psychology
When people reach middle age, they fight for a state of mind. Whoever has a good attitude will go far.
Middle-aged people are in poor health. The most fundamental reason is that they don't have the concept of "I am responsible for my own body", don't pay attention to being aware of their physical feelings at all times, and don't pay attention to keeping in good health. Our common pattern is: always don't care about the body, don't pay attention to the abnormality, once the lesion is formed, then go to the hospital and push all the rights to treat the body to the doctor ... This is already a very backward concept. The United Nations World Health Organization has long put forward a brand-new concept-our body, our health ".Its purpose is: you are the master of your body, and you should be fully responsible for your health, and hospitals and diagnosis and treatment are only auxiliary means in this process.
This requires us to learn and master health knowledge ourselves (foreign communities and enterprises have regular health classes, so we must listen to them, and then make up lessons after delaying personnel) to understand our physical characteristics (family history, easily inherited diseases, physical characteristics, allergies, drug resistance, and even blood types, etc.). ), adopt healthy behaviors in daily life (including adjusting diet and persisting in exercise, etc. ) and have regular physical examinations ... of course. The essence of a brand-new health concept: health is in your own hands.
Tough way
In fact, there are many ways to keep fit. The question is whether middle-aged people are willing to "focus on themselves and do it by themselves". You know, physical health is not isolated, it affects people's mental state, people's happiness, people's work efficiency and people's overall living standard-without health, there is nothing!
There are many ways to maintain mental health, which are introduced by various media. In addition to understanding mental health knowledge and paying attention to self-regulation, the best and most direct effect for middle-aged people is to seek the help of professionals in person, that is, to see psychological students.
What should I do if I enter a midlife crisis?
1. It is not difficult to get through the midlife crisis. You should realize that everyone has this problem, and you are nothing special. Relax yourself, read books properly, slow down the pace of life and realize that you are just an ordinary person. From youth to middle age, people fall from the sky to the ground. Liang Wendao said: Every young man thinks he can fly, but in the end he is still on the ground. Remember one sentence: everything will pass. Read more articles and books about psychology. If economic conditions permit, you can consider psychological counseling.
2. Recognize that you can and can't. Know clearly where your abilities are. Having the opportunity to attend the funerals of several friends and relatives and go to the hospital to accompany them to bed can make people mature quickly and tide over the crisis of middle age. Experience makes people mature. Watching a person leave slowly in front of you will make people mature at once, because they will realize that everyone has to go by themselves. No matter how much honor and disgrace and material money, what's the use of leaving?
3. It is suggested to look at the issue of "Friends Are Better Than Death" by the Tang Qiang trio. I watched it again and again, again and again, because once I finally saw it, it felt different from before, and I knew I had passed the midlife crisis.
4. Think about what you need to arrange in the middle of your life, and what you need to arrange today if you suddenly disappear tomorrow. To put it bluntly, by the time of midlife crisis, you will probably be 40+, which means you are closer to that end. We should spend time for ourselves, and we should arrange what we should.
5. Take an active part in physical exercise, find a sport you like and stick to it. This is very important for adjusting the mentality of middle-aged crisis. Be sure to start a sport that suits you and can persist as soon as possible. If you keep exercising, you will gradually feel better, because dopamine will be produced in your brain, which will make you happy.
6. Make some intimate friends, heterosexuals, homosexuals and best friends. If you are sleepy and tired, he/she can pick you up. You can be yourself in front of him/her. I think a person can realize the problem of middle-aged crisis, which shows that he has thought deeply. Don't care too much about whether he is a same-sex friend or a heterosexual friend. The key is the right friends. This is also very important. It's important to get out of the midlife crisis. No matter how many people betray you, leave you, don't understand you, laugh at you and don't support you, it will feel much better to think that there will always be someone who praises you. I like a sentence in TerryPrachett's documentary ChoosingtoDie, knowing where it is gives you strength. It is really good to suggest that everyone who encounters a midlife crisis go to see this movie.
7. Try to do some simple things, such as playing with children, shopping with mom, or such goals that you can easily achieve, which will make you feel a sense of accomplishment quickly. Some people reach middle age and have various crises. To put it bluntly, they still take themselves too seriously. If they can keep their feet on the ground, do some small things or even raise a potted plant, people will relax.
Most importantly, this is how I got out of the trough of the middle-aged crisis.
9. However, you still have to do everything yourself. There is no panacea to get out of the middle-aged crisis, and there is no chicken soup for the soul. No matter what others say, you have to go by yourself. Believe that you can come out, because in fact everyone else has come out, right? Slowly, you may begin to feel that success in the secular sense becomes less important. How to satisfy your curiosity is more important. You may care who I am and where I come from. How did my family, parents, grandparents spend their lives? So you know, you've passed the midlife crisis.