Some people may say that this is just a fictional character of a writer. What does it have to do with health? Let's talk about Chen, the actor of Lin Daiyu in real life. He left at the age of 42 because of breast cancer. Chen and Lin Daiyu are very similar in character and temperament. Medical research has found that many diseases are related to emotions, such as breast cancer, gastric cancer, thyroid nodules, obesity and various tumors. Chen's premature death due to breast cancer deserves our deep thought.
The best way to live is to stop mental internal friction. What is the highest state of health preservation? This is nourishing the heart! Modern people have a variety of health care methods, but they often forget that the real health care lies in nourishing the heart. People with small internal friction will live more easily, and people with large psychological internal friction will live more painfully. From the perspective of traditional Chinese medicine, this kind of energy entanglement is exhausting. If you don't stop mental internal friction, all health preservation is in vain. It has always been my goal to cultivate my mind and raise my cognitive boundary. Let's talk about what kind of influence emotions will have on psychology:
1. Emotion will affect people's personality development. Living in depression and anxiety for a long time, people are eccentric, have poor interpersonal skills and are prone to social phobia.
2. Emotion will affect people's understanding and evaluation of themselves. When people are in a negative state, they will lower their self-evaluation and attribute "I always fail" and "I am incompetent".
Long-term negativity and depression will reduce our happiness index and affect our sleep and quality of life. Let us be depressed, and our mental state is getting worse and worse, forming a vicious circle.
Emotion will affect people's cognitive thinking level and hinder normal thinking and learning. Nervousness, fear and irritability will hinder the speed of solving problems, while optimism and calmness will help to think calmly. Anxiety and nervousness can form a kind of "learned helplessness", which leads to a passive evasive attitude.
Let's talk about how emotions affect physiology:
1, emotions affect the body's immunity. Modern medicine believes that a good mood can make the body's physiological function in the best state, make the immune disease-resistant system play its greatest role and resist the invasion of diseases. Many medical scientists believe that the body itself is a good doctor, and the human body has its own immune system and self-healing cells, which are powerful. 85% of diseases can be controlled by themselves. Therefore, some psychologists call emotions "the baton of life" and "the barometer of health".
2. Emotion can cure diseases as well as cause diseases. Medical scientists have found that when people are excited, their skin will be red and hot, and when people are nervous or angry, their skin will be pale and cold. Being in a bad mood will excite sympathetic nerves and increase catecholamine. It leads to the increase of heart rate, blood pressure and myocardial oxygen consumption, which aggravates the condition of patients with coronary heart disease and heart failure. More seriously, these changes sometimes lead to fatal arrhythmia and cardiac arrest. Elevated blood pressure can also detonate blood vessels. 3. Chinese medicine believes that all diseases are caused by qi, such as stagnation of liver qi, stagnation of liver qi and fire, liver depression and spleen deficiency, disharmony between liver and stomach, qi stagnation and blood stasis, disharmony between qi and blood, etc. What Chinese medicine calls qi is caused by a bad mood. A bad mood can also cause indigestion, gastritis, spleen deficiency and dampness, nervous headache, sexual dysfunction and so on.
4. Emotion will change endocrine and nervous system functions and affect health. Being busy and unhappy often leads to symptoms of system disorder such as insomnia, hair loss and even neurasthenia. To sum up with an old saying: "Anger leads to anger, joy leads to qi stagnation, and sadness leads to qi stagnation. Fear leads to anger, shock leads to confusion. When you are old, you will consume gas, and if you think about it, you will be angry. " In a word, emotions have a great influence on health.
So can emotions be controlled? In fact, psychology believes that emotions are neither good nor bad, nor positive or negative. No matter what kind of emotion is a sincere state, it doesn't need to be controlled and can't be controlled. Then why are some people always emotionally stable and don't get angry easily, while some people are naturally sensitive and suspicious, and they get angry and angry when there is movement? This is related to cognition. The higher a person's level, the higher his standing height and the greater his inner capacity. For example, if you stand on the first floor, all you see is rubbish. If you stand tall, the higher the floor, the smaller the garbage you see, and your mood and pattern will change accordingly. In fact, all the troubles are brought to us by cognition. Your view of others is a reflection of your own heart, just like looking at yourself in the mirror. People have different modes, different horizons and cognition, different perspectives on problems, different ways to deal with problems, and different results caused by behaviors. When some people encounter problems, they always like to blame others. The more angry they are, the more they can't control their emotions. Another kind of people are good at finding the root of the problem directly, analyzing the problem and attributing it to the inside, with high self-awareness and the ability to digest garbage emotions by themselves.
All the pain comes from our concept, which is the mismatch between desire and reality, that is, your desire cannot be achieved through your ability, so how to deal with these contradictions? Is to lower expectations and improve ability.
Of course, all joys and sorrows have a reason, whether it is brought to us by family background or caused by emergency sexual life events, we should not spend our energy inside.
Adler put forward a very effective concept called individual separation. In layman's terms, what is my business and what is someone else's business. How others treat you and think is his business, not yours. How you treat yourself, how you look at things and how you treat others is your own business, not others'. When you learn to separate individuals, you take the first step against internal friction. What's the second question? Always proceed from the pros and cons. It is human nature to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. No right or wrong. There is no black and white in this world. There are different positions and different views on right and wrong. You only need to consider how to maximize the benefits, so never waste your energy on things that are no longer worth it. Third, when someone makes you sad, you just need to reinforce a psychological hint that he doesn't deserve it. For example, when someone hurts you emotionally, you can meditate constantly in your mind: it won't affect my mood, it won't take up my time, and you will become strong instantly by telling yourself repeatedly. Fourth, you should change the negative weak thinking into positive growth thinking. In the face of things that look bad for the time being, such as unemployment, breakup and divorce, you should not always think about what I lost, but what I got from it. For example, I lost my job, gained experience, and lost my lover, but I learned how to get along with others and how to establish a correct concept of mate selection.
In short, we must stop mental internal friction, and only by raising good thoughts can we really get healthy.