In life, we will be angry because of what others say, because things are not done well, and because children are disobedient. It seems that there is always endless anger.
But no matter what you are angry about, you will get hurt in the end.
Many times, after getting angry, many problems have not been solved, but will continue to intensify, resulting in an out-of-control situation.
You will find that many times, being angry is a harmful thing.
It will not only affect our mood, weaken our interpersonal relationship, but also restrict our physical and mental health.
Learning not to be angry is a healthy way of life, and it is also the wisdom of dealing with people.
It's not difficult to get angry, and it's not difficult to say it.
Understand these three points, adjust your mentality, don't get angry at will, and you will have a better life.
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Don't haggle over every ounce, know how to tolerate others and live more easily.
I once read a passage: "putting a sugar in clear water will not be too sweet, but putting a spoonful of vinegar will be very sour." I won't be too happy when I find the money, but I will be very annoyed when I lose it.
People can't be happy for a whole year because of a happy event, but they can be unhappy because of a small thing. "
Many people always care about what they have lost, spend energy being angry and sad, but forget to cherish their own gains. The result can not only be changed, but also missed more beautiful scenery on the road of life.
In this world, if you care too much about everything, you will always get angry when you encounter bad things, which will only make people exhausted.
The more you care, the more angry you will be, the more painful you will be, the more troubles you will have, and the more blessings you will run around.
There is an old saying that nothing is difficult in the world.
When you are in trouble, it is often because you have a hard time with yourself and waste your time on meaningless things.
Anger and anger can't solve the problem. Sometimes, being angry can make things worse.
Someone asked Yu Guangzhong, "Li Ao gives you trouble every day, but you don't respond. Why? "
Yu Guangzhong replied: "Li Ao scolds me every day, which shows that he can't live without me; And I don't care, proving that I can live without him. "
In the face of other people's provocation, Yu Guangzhong is not only not angry, but also humorous and not easily angry. This is a kind of wisdom to treat people. Such people live more easily.
Kant said: "Anger is to punish yourself for the mistakes of others."
Not being angry is actually letting go of yourself and "finding a way out" for yourself.
Once I went to do something with my colleagues.
Because I was in a hurry, when I was driving through the intersection, an electric car hit my rear wheel and fell to the ground.
As soon as my car stopped, the woman riding an electric car came up and said angrily, "You hit my electric car and you have to pay me back."
When I got off the bus, I saw a woman riding an electric car. The car has stopped beside me, and neither the car nor the people have caused any harm.
Colleague said, "You obviously hit our car, so how can we be held responsible?"
"No, my good mood all day is ruined by you. Give me 200 yuan for compensation. " The woman said after raising her voice.
Obviously, the responsibility is hers and there is nothing to lose. Colleagues argued with her
I looked at it, smiled and said, "OK, I'll give you money. It's really our fault. "
My words made the woman feel a little surprised and confused, took the money and rode away on an electric car.
My colleague was very angry and complained to me that that woman was too cheap.
I waved to him to get on the bus.
Along the way, my colleagues are still a little resentful. I said:
"Forget it, what is more important than what we want to do?"
After listening to my words, my colleagues gave me an admiring look.
In life, if you don't care about bad things, your troubles will be less.
The more you care, the more troubles you have.
"Caigen Tan" said: "The world is not dusty, and the sea is not bitter."
In this world, if you want to live not tired, you must learn not to care so much, less about bad aspects, and know how to control your temper.
People who haggle over every ounce have troubles everywhere, and it is easy to hurt their health if they are flustered; And tolerant people, see through, care less, worry less and live more easily.
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Be grateful, do more good deeds and be blessed.
People living in this world can't go smoothly everywhere and everything goes well. Life is an experience, and all kinds of setbacks and helplessness need us to face bravely. When we encounter storms or even misfortunes in our life journey, if we have a grateful heart, we will have a grateful attitude towards everything we encounter, which will let us eliminate our grievances and not get angry.
British writer Thackeray said: "Life is just a mirror. You laugh at it, you cry at it. " Russian writer Chekhov also said: "If you have a thorn in your hand, you should be happy. Fortunately, you didn't get it in your eyes. " Many times, it doesn't seem to go well. In fact, from another angle, there may be another artistic conception. Only in this way can we not be carried away in prosperity and remain happy in adversity.
How many blessings there are in a person's heart; How much bitterness there is in a person's heart.
People are always escaping from suffering and seeking happiness. Everyone wants to spend every day happily, but life itself is full of ups and downs, and happiness and pain have the same root. When we are happy, we might as well leave a space to accept suffering; When we are in pain, we might as well think about the happiness of the past.
When you are depressed, think about your parents who love you; When you are pessimistic and disappointed, think about loving the person you love; When you are down and out, miss your lover. ...
"Caigen Tan" has a cloud: "I can't understand the merits of others, but I can't miss it; I can't forget the goodness of people, and I can't forget the resentment. "
To be a man, you should learn to remember the goodness of others.
Parents' upbringing, teachers' abuse, spouse's care, friends' help, nature's gift and times' gift give us guidance at every step of our growth; Every day in our life is helpful. Because of this, we can get through one difficulty after another, step by step towards success, and create and enjoy a better life.
I believe that whether we meet or leave in life, whether in prosperity or adversity, life is the best arrangement for us. Be grateful and do more good deeds, and happiness will come uninvited.
Fan Zhongyan was born in poverty. When he was young, he made up his mind that if he could get ahead in the future, he would help the poor.
Later, when he became an official, he took out his salary to buy beneficial fields and distributed them to people who had no land to farm.
He also provided food and clothes for the people under his rule, and paid for those who were married.
The Fan family bought a house in Suzhou. After seeing it, Mr. Feng Shui even said that this house has excellent Feng Shui, and future generations will be big officials.
After listening, Fan Zhongyan decided to donate his house to the village and turn it into a school.
He believes that it is far better to let the children and grandchildren of the city get ahead than to enjoy happiness alone.
As the saying goes: the rich are not three generations, but the Fan family has flourished for 800 years.
Fan Zhongyan's four sons have both ability and political integrity, and they have all become prime ministers and senior officials.
I ching said, "If there is a good family, there must be Qing Yu."
Accumulate money for future generations, and future generations may not be able to keep it;
Accumulate books for future generations, and future generations may not be able to read them;
It is better to accumulate virtue in the dark, thinking that future generations will have a long-term plan.
Just do more good deeds, and the blessings have come to you and your family.
Be kind to others and always help others with gratitude. Not only do you have no time to get angry, but you can also get better rewards.
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Anger is the number one enemy of health.
There will inevitably be many unpleasant things in a person's life. If you are often angry, you will miss many beautiful things.
I have read such a passage: "don't be angry, it will damage the essence;" Don't be angry, it will ruin your vitality; Don't quarrel, it will hurt harmony; You have to be patient, and you can be proud if you have patience. "
Anger is not the best way to solve the problem. Sometimes, anger is an unfortunate beginning.
Tolstoy said: "Anger is harmful, but it is oneself who suffers the most when angry."
People often can't control their emotions when they are angry.
Sometimes I feel that my lungs are about to explode, I am trembling with anger, I am breathless with anger, and so on. ......
Don't think that this is just an exaggerated description, but it is actually based.
Anger does great harm to people's internal organs. Anger is equivalent to chronic suicide.
Anger is the origin of many diseases, and losing your temper is very harmful to your health.
You have to understand that being angry is a very expensive thing, and the price you pay for it is even higher.
Anger can make people fall into negative emotions; Anger can make people lose their minds; Anger will slowly devour a person's health.
Chinese medicine believes that "all diseases are born of qi" and "anger hurts the liver".
Modern medicine has also found that when people are angry, there will be a series of unfavorable changes in physiology.
Instead of punishing yourself with others' mistakes, it is better to let go of others' mistakes and laugh them off.
In this way, you won't be angry and hurt your health, and you can maintain good interpersonal relationships.
"Caigen Tan" said: "I am furious and can't give up easily."
People who can adjust their emotions and don't get angry at will can have a better life.
Some people say: "The best way to cherish life is not to preserve health, but to manage emotions."
When sharing health secrets, many people who live long often say that less anger is an important factor for longevity.
Certified by Guinness World Records, Japanese old man Naoki Watanabe has become the oldest person in the world.
So far, Mr. Watanabe has reached the age of 1 13.
Whenever asked about the secret of his longevity, Mr. Watanabe always gives the only answer: calm, not angry, always smiling.
Life is not easy. Take care of your body, your mood and yourself.
If you look down on everything, your life will be less troublesome.
If you have a bigger heart, you will feel calm and safe, and all diseases will be reduced.
Look down on the world, be less angry and be more healthy.
In this world, it is better to straighten out anger than to waste time on it.
Relax. Happiness is the most important thing in a person's life.