No, loyalty is the bottom line of marriage, and honesty is the most fundamental thing in marriage. If we want to make marriage more stable, we should do less betrayal and do more things to enhance the trust between husband and wife. Mann is the eldest daughter of the family, and her favorite is her younger brother who is older than small 8. My brother spent all his living expenses to buy game equipment. He was afraid to ask his strict parents for money, so he asked his sister for help.

A man is afraid that his husband David will know that he is unhappy, so he secretly gives money to his brother behind his back. Once, David just got back 2000 yuan in cash from the bank and put it in the drawer. The next day, he found that 500 yuan was missing. David asked, "What about the money in the drawer?" Manru was very flustered and casually said, "My colleague gave birth to a child, so I cut in line." Later, Manru used excuses such as classmates getting married, friends getting together, and inviting customers to dinner to supplement money for her brother.

During the Spring Festival, David accompanied Manru back to his hometown for the New Year, and everyone drank a lot of wine. David realized that he had been cheated when his younger brother was drunk and thanked Manru for helping him buy equipment. He was very angry and lost his temper. Manru is also very wronged: "I didn't tell you because I was afraid you would be unhappy!" " Besides, I don't give him much money. I'll give him three or five hundred at a time ... "。

However, David felt that this was no small matter. He felt angry and hurt and refused to forgive Manru's deception. The beginning of a lie is often a well-intentioned motive: I'm afraid my partner will be angry, I'm afraid my partner will worry, I think communication is too troublesome, I want to save trouble, and so on. But in fact, the act of lying contains a logic of "winner takes all"-if I hide the truth, it's entirely up to me! Lies will plant a time bomb on the relationship between husband and wife.

If you want to rebuild trust, if Mann needs to realize the importance of honesty in marriage, he should also promise not to lie again: "Lying is my fault. In the future, I will choose to discuss with you instead of hiding it. " After the commitment, Manru can try to ask herself, "Why should I lie?" Exploring the real motivation of lying can help Manru find her own shortcomings in intimate relationship. If you find the missing part of the marriage puzzle, you can confess with your partner and establish an open, honest and intimate relationship with him.