Yes, this is because people always know nothing about the passage of time.

Although there are many instruments that can measure time in our life, such as clocks, watches, smart phones and so on. But life is complicated, and we always:

In order to prepare for the exam, I went to the library, and I didn't realize that the afternoon had passed until my partner said I was going to the canteen.

In order to get to work on time in the subway, I don't complain that it takes an hour to get crowded until I am late for punching in the office.

In order to take care of the children and put them to sleep, I found that most of the night had passed before I could put the sheets on my back.

.......

There are so many situations in life that we need to constantly switch between different roles. However, no matter what role we play, such as children, parents, friends and colleagues. We will spend a lot of time on daily activities such as study, family, socializing and work.

Each of the above daily tasks requires us to spend a lot of energy, endurance and concentration. What's more, many occasions have to be dealt with at the same time.

Life is not easy and there is no sense of time consumption.

We always raise our hands to look at the watch or clock after finishing the work at hand. Until that moment, we will marvel at how time flies. But after a short period of consternation, we will throw ourselves into another thing in an instant and fall into a cycle without feeling about time.

As a result, few people can find that we are busy with all kinds of things to cope with life, and we will unconsciously ignore the passage of time. ......

Admittedly, I'm just like everyone else.

If it weren't for the topic of "post-90 s has entered middle age" that broke out in the circle of friends last year, I had no idea that I had entered middle age.

Then, as a post-90 s generation, how will mental activities change when they learn that they have reached middle age?

I guess it is nothing more than the following three stages:

1, I heard about Thunder for the first time, but I refused to admit it after I was killed.

Didn't you just graduate from college? How did you suddenly become a middle-aged uncle/aunt?

I am still so immature and lovely in the mirror. Even if I look up a little wrinkled, how can I be middle-aged?

Although I started to take a full bottle of thermos flask Lycium barbarum water to work every day, it was only to pay attention to my health. How can people reach middle age?

2, thinking extremely scared, scared out of a cold sweat.

As soon as the United Nations statement came out, the definition of "youth" was1a group between 5 and 24 years old.

You broke your finger, 25, 26, 27. ......

Suddenly, I secretly scolded: I am so young, I am no longer in middle age!

Only when you find yourself really in middle age can you calm down and think about it: you have been working for three or four years. God, you seem to have accomplished nothing these years. Don't mention a promotion and salary increase as a manager. You haven't even fed your wallet once, and your bank deposit hasn't exceeded four figures. You even keep an unbeaten record of being single! !

3, anxious all day, wake up the next day and forget.

At this stage, you clearly know that you are really middle-aged. In this regard, you regret that you wasted a few years of youth. You begin to doubt that your present life is not what you want; You start to worry that your future life is still calm and hopeless; You start to wonder if you should do something to change the status quo.

At the end of the day, all these thoughts keep coming to your mind, forcing you to ask yourself again and again and reflect positively.

You feel confused, then anxious, then afraid. ......

I finally woke up and put it behind me.

The above description of realizing one's psychological changes after middle age is based on chatting with friends around him and leaving messages from netizens in Zhihu. Although it can't represent the mentality of all peers, it should be able to meet most of the psychological activities of middle-aged people after 90 years on the day they got the news. ...

As for myself, I didn't feel anything when I realized that I had become a middle-aged uncle.

Why can't you feel it?

Because I was in a state of extreme anxiety, depression and depression. ...

And this extremely decadent state has actually troubled me for more than a year. Even though I know very well that I can't sink in, all kinds of oppression in my life make me feel negative energy in generate, which makes me afraid and anxious all the time.

I once lost hope in life.

Without hope, people are like walking dead. Specific performance, perhaps everyone has experienced:

Wake up in the morning, brush your teeth and wash your face mechanically, and then look at yourself in the mirror with doubts. Is it the meaning of getting up for work?

After work, I would rather sit alone in the coffee shop in a daze than go home too early. You always feel that your family doesn't understand you at all, and everything they say is nagging and boring you;

Lying at night, inexplicable emptiness suddenly poured out of my heart, followed by countless questions hovering in my mind. All your negative emotions, which are already highly nervous, come out of the generation at the same time and can't sleep for a long time.

If you lose hope in life, you will hate family, work, communication and ultimately everything around you. ...

In fact, you really don't want to lose these things, but in a trance, you feel abandoned by all this.

During the period, I complained about the unfairness of the company every day, worried about the space prospects of my work, and avoided the forced marriage of my family. Great pressure made me quickly change from a thin young man to a middle-aged uncle with a belly close to 150 kg.

That was probably the biggest trough in my life when I was growing up.

And this trough should be the so-called 27-year-old anxiety.

27 years old, basically graduated and worked for more than 3 years. The passion you once advertised as "striving for your ideals" has long since disappeared, and the beautiful plans and lofty goals you made in the past have also become the past. You used to think that as long as you are willing to study business knowledge hard, as long as you are willing to accept and complete the tasks assigned by your superiors, as long as you are willing to work hard and work overtime, you will be appreciated and entrusted with heavy responsibilities.

However, the expected surprise and happiness did not come as scheduled. You have gradually become a Buddhist employee, the so-called "smooth operator", and you have not muddled along. At this time, you gradually find that you have not only learned nothing in recent years, but also lost some original talents and advantages. When you realize this, confusion comes quietly, and then spreads to all aspects of your life, making you feel that everything is not in line with your previous expectations.

In this way, anxiety begins to torment you day and night. ...

It is normal to feel anxious at this age, which is a symptom that every post-90 s middle-aged man and woman will have. The difference is that everyone's anxiety is shallow or deep; In addition, everyone's anxiety cycle varies from person to person.

Anxiety has both internal and external causes. The internal cause is that you don't have what live high wants, and the external cause is that you don't live what others expect. But whether it is internal or external, it will bring you more or less anxiety.

People will feel anxious at the age of 27, and anxiety will make us realize that we need to change.

But many times, our awareness of change is often not positive. The reason why people suddenly feel that time passes too fast and want to make changes is often because someone or something has aroused their inner touch.

For example, you have been resisting my family's urging marriage on the grounds that I am still young, but not long ago you met the boy who secretly loves me in a different place. Looking at his chubby appearance now, you will sigh that time is really cruel. It turns out that time flies. Look in the mirror. Should we consider lifelong events?

Yes, we always think that the years are quiet and good, and we are self-centered and live with peace of mind. It was not until some people appeared and something happened that we realized that time passed too fast and we needed to grow and change.

This is a normal state of our growth.

However, if people want to grow, they must learn to change on their own initiative.

That's because the development of society is changing with each passing day. No matter in which era, as long as you don't actively and diligently update your knowledge and skills foundation, it is very likely that you will be quickly left behind by people around you. We used to say that the first five years after graduation are particularly important. These five years basically determine a person's future career development and work achievements, and are often called "the watershed of life". However, under the impact of the rapid development of the Internet, the time interval of this watershed has been shortened to three years or even shorter!

Three years are fleeting, and by now, we are all about to be or have been 28 years old.

If you want to make progress, you must learn to change at the age of 28. And if you want to change, you must start from solving anxiety!

The best way to solve anxiety is to deal with things that make you feel anxious. Everyone's life experience is different, and all roads lead to the same goal. At the age of 27 and 28, we face two main problems:

1, your family strongly urges you to get married and have children as soon as possible every day;

2. Is it necessary to change jobs after working for three years without a raise?

These two problems are not difficult to solve, but they are easy to say. But no matter what problems you are currently struggling with, if you want to solve them, you must first understand your true thoughts.

Do you really want to get married or jump ship? This is very important. If a person wants to accomplish something, he can only start a series of actions after he has made clear his true wishes.

In fact, you obviously want someone to send you to work, someone to take you to work overtime to eat midnight snack, and someone to take your hand to travel. Then, please don't be afraid to lose face, refuse the blind date invited by your family again and again, and don't feel embarrassed. If you have a slight affection, you will refuse the invitation of the opposite sex.

Be bold, open your heart and think that he is the other half of your fantasy day and night!

Everything a person starts to do depends on his own subjective initiative. But if you want to develop your subjective initiative, you must deeply understand your true feelings and your true thoughts. When you figure this out, your next choice and action will have a firm direction.

Make it clear that you can go in the direction you really want. ......

Of course, whether a thing is worth carrying out, besides knowing your own wishes, it is more important to think about the pros and cons of this thing for you.

For example, whether the job should be replaced. Society is realistic, so whether we want to leave our company or not, the priority you need is to be able to control your "food and clothing" after leaving.

The so-called job-hopping is poor in March, and job-hopping is trapped for three years.

The food and clothing here is not literal, but refers to the good life you are used to at present. If your choice makes it impossible for you to maintain your current life, continue to develop in a bad direction. Then there is a high probability that your decision is wrong.

At this time, you need to adjust in time and make changes as soon as possible.

Secondly, what you need to consider is whether your ability has been actively demonstrated.

Many people want to leave their current company, either because they have not learned anything after working for so long, or because their talents have not been put to use and there is no room for promotion.

This is actually an extremely stupid idea. Every job has its own characteristics and difficulties, and people need to use different talents and skills. In addition, the communication between superiors and subordinates and colleagues in the work process is also very knowledgeable. So you can't learn anything from it, which only shows that you don't work hard at all. So you will only get what you are paid now.

However, there are still many people with lofty ideals, and I hope you are one of them.

I tried hard, but I still didn't have a chance to get promoted. Then I suggest you reflect on whether your efforts are correct.

Today's society is no longer an era in which efforts are bound to bear fruit. If you want to get the appreciation of leaders and get the opportunity of promotion and salary increase, you must show your ability and talent to the maximum extent in the process of your own efforts.

As we all know, opportunities are created.

Expressing ourselves is the best way for us to create opportunities. Only by letting leaders and companies see the results of your efforts and the strength shown in your efforts can they be promoted.

This is the right way to work hard!

So, if you want to change your job now, you might as well calm down and seriously think about whether you are working hard.

If not, then change it first. Maybe the next promotion and salary increase will fall on you. ......

At the end of this article, I want to express my gratitude to my post-90s partners, who are all middle-aged:

Time is silent and fleeting, and the process of growth is always unconscious.

There will be too many people in life. We are not mature enough, but we have been growing.

In order not to waste our youth and realize our dreams, we must make changes at the age of 28 after being anxious at the age of 27!