Usually parents and children are like this. But there are also some individuals who have been adopted by others since childhood. So it is only divided into biological mothers and adoptive mothers.
A mother should be born in heaven. Without a mother, children are doomed not to come into this world. This is a gift of great fertility. Blood is thicker than water.
The foster mother is acquired, and no blood is better than blood (except relatives and friends).
Judging from the children's cognition, it is also a favor for foster mothers to raise their children.
Only by knowing the biological mother and the adoptive mother can we distinguish the treasure of the biological mother from the adopted place of the adoptive mother.
In terms of blood, whether you recognize it or not, your biological mother and children will always be close. Fate!
Emotionally, whether you are close or not, love or not, adopting a mother and raising children will always be a blessing. After fate.
So, the sky will die, and God bless you.
Therefore, the world is not as big as that raised by parents. When raising children, we should regard adoptive parents as our own biological parents. Generally, adoptive parents really love their children as much as their biological mothers.
And even if the biological mother has no choice but to abandon or leave, she can't do without blood. Children should have clear grievances. Compare the grace of fertility to the grace of heaven. There are grievances, and you can't deny and blur the great kindness. Great kindness is not transferred by human will.
In addition to giving birth to children, foster mothers can also be called mother-in-law, grandmother Huang. Nature, apart from the innate lack of intersection, we have everything in the world, so it is a great favor.
As long as it is mother's, it is as heavy as a mountain. Although in the adopted son's heart, there will be an adopted mother as the biological mother, and even forget the biological mother.
But in fact, the grace of fertility and the grace of parenting are all accompanied by the word "parenting". The grace of fertility floats in the sky, and the grace of parenting is down-to-earth.
Therefore, regardless of birth and upbringing, it is as merciful as heaven and earth. Great kindness belongs to the biological mother, and great kindness belongs to the adoptive mother. The unity of heaven and earth is rewarding.
I said birth, birth is 1, and birth is 2. It's great to be born and raised by yourself, and it can only be counted as 2 if it's not born and raised by others. Is it called 1 I gave birth to myself and didn't raise myself? This is immoral! No matter how big it is, it is no better than 2. People raise you and you want it, and you want it 1? This is called stealing opportunities. Why didn't you raise them then? Isn't this a joke? A person who has no responsibility is not qualified to do 1, and the qualification to do 2 is not enough. Save it! [yi tooth] [yi tooth] [yi tooth] [cute] [cute] [cute]
Nourishing kindness is greater than nurturing kindness.
There is an old saying: broken fingers can be reported without help, broken heads can be reported without help, and broken heads can be reported without help.
Buying other people's children or stealing other people's children is another matter.
Raising kindness is greater than giving birth, it is impossible for biological parents to raise it, and adoptive parents help to raise it, as well as abandoning babies, which is a life-saving grace for children.
It should be affirmed that the grace of nurturing is greater than the grace of bearing. Parents who give their own flesh and blood to outsiders will generally encounter various problems and make decisions when they have to. Giving away children in wartime has actual conditions at that time, and there are problems in peacetime and actual conditions in peacetime. As a party, you should not ask questions repeatedly. Why did you send me out? Why did you give me birth and give me away? ....., he has very specific reasons for these problems. No matter how his biological parents tell the reasons, you will be puzzled. The actual situation is to force them to make such a last move. Maybe, if they stop for a while, things will end, but sometimes, God will not give you this opportunity and force you to do so. After what happened, they will regret it for a lifetime, but it's no use crying over spilt milk, and they have to give up. Some give addresses and places, and their biological parents will not visit them easily. They will try their best to understand their children's life there. If the child is fine in all aspects, assuming that the child suffers from indignities there, the biological parents will definitely come forward to rescue him. In fact, they are very pleased with their beautiful life and grateful to their adoptive parents. For those who have no address or place (such as being abducted), it will be a lifelong pain for parents.
As for whether or not to recognize your biological parents, for whatever reason, you should try to recognize them. After all, you have lived in that greenhouse for ten months. I think it is wise to recognize them. At least you know your life and where you come from. Know your true identity, but you have no responsibility to take care of this biological parent. Adoptive parents are places where you can be filial all your life.
As the saying goes, "biological parents are small and healthy parents are big." The meaning of this sentence is "the biological parents are small, but the parents who raised themselves are great." In other words, "the grace of nurturing is greater than the grace of bearing." Why is this?
First of all, it is only a few months from the birth of the child in the father to the birth of the child. Your parents who gave you life, especially your own mother, must have tasted the pain of pregnancy in October. The mother will endure "the greatest pain in the world", give birth to the child or take it out by caesarean section. This kind of kindness will be remembered forever.
Children generally have to be raised from birth to their eighties-twenties before they can get married and start their careers. In this long time, I don't know how much my parents have suffered and sweated, and sometimes even shed blood and tears when raising a child ... In this process, the energy and effort spent raising a child can't be described in words. Educating children is hard and laborious, and parents must also assume the responsibility of making their children "successful", both parents and teachers. ..... This kindness will benefit the children for life and will never be forgotten.
Therefore, compared with "nurturing grace, bearing grace", nurturing grace is far greater than bearing grace in time, responsibility, financial resources and mental effort.
This problem depends on the situation and cannot be generalized. For example, after giving birth to a child, parents saw that the abandoned baby was disabled or dissatisfied and was adopted by good people. This must be that it is better to support than to bite the hand that feeds you. Without adoptive parents, they will either freeze to death, starve to death or be eaten by animals. I didn't mean to ask, but my kindness is as great as the sky. Parents are like one. If it is accidentally lost, or stolen by traffickers and adopted by adoptive parents, that is another matter. Although adoptive parents adopted you, they lost their children's biological parents. Life must be very difficult. Children are the pride of parents. It is conceivable that some people have exhausted all their savings and even borrowed the lines of relatives and friends to look around. Some parents are sick, some are crazy, and even their families are ruined. Therefore, children raised by adoptive parents should find their biological parents calmly, understand the actual situation of adoption, support and treat adoptive parents well respectively, and forgive their biological parents as appropriate.
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The subject asked? Is there a big door for parenting or childbirth? My point of view is that parents have great kindness in bearing children, and children can't repay their parents' kindness in life. Children's lives are given by their parents, who have worked hard to raise you with sweat. You can never repay the kindness your parents have given you. Therefore, I can't distinguish which is big and which is small. They are all too big to be separated. This is my opinion. what do you think? You can comment!
The grace of life is greater than the grace of cultivation, and the grace of life and cultivation is rewarded with spring.
Because unborn people don't owe anyone the kindness to raise them.
We often say that the kindness of childbirth is as great as the sky, and neither can be repaid. If we really want to compare it to a higher level, we should say that the grace of parenting is greater than the grace of childbirth. After all, nine months after giving birth to a child is definitely different from adopting a child for more than ten years. Raising a child for more than ten years is definitely much more difficult than being pregnant for nine months.
The kindness of parenting is great.