My first reaction was, why did I get sick again just before I left? Last time we decided to go to Xiamen to play, this time it's time for us to leave for Sanya immediately! What a coincidence every time!
After some tossing, the two babies finally fell asleep! At the moment, my mind is unusually clear! I wonder, is it impossible for me to live an easy life after I become a mother?
Looking back on this year carefully, the life of the second child is not as bad as expected! Because I have done the following:
I am not a person who is particularly good at housework. Besides, although I have taken care of Dabao, I am not professional at all in taking care of children. So, before I gave birth, I brought my mother from Shanxi. Because of my parents' help, I don't need to do housework and take care of the children. Therefore, I am no longer influenced by having children, and I have more time to do what I want to do! I insist on taking classes, drawing and reading online, ukulele!
In August, I followed my parents back to Shanxi. We spent a cool summer vacation at home together. We went back to Changsha in September, but my parents didn't come together. Thanks to my mother-in-law, I hired a very capable nanny in advance and solved my worries!
For many mothers, it is easy to forget that they still have needs after giving birth! Focus on the children! Everything is based on the needs of children, who are unwilling to buy new clothes for themselves, let alone ask someone to take care of the baby. After having children, they need money everywhere. How can they have spare money to hire people? But I want to say, please don't invite people. Very different. A person with two babies means that they often have no food, which means that they are often exhausted by their children. Under such circumstances, it is difficult for mothers to be in a good mood! How to take good care of the children when a mother is in a bad mood? Instead of this, it is better to outsource these worldly things and make yourself less tired!
When talking about "an easy life like me", Zi Mu mentioned a sentence, "It's good to have it in my heart!" This sentence touched me a lot. Living in this materialistic society, our desires are varied. We should have a big house, a good car, obedient children and endless tickets! However, as Zi Mu said, what we can have must be limited, and what we don't have can be infinite.
Some partners may not understand this sentence. Here I take Zimu as an example. One day, a father took his daughter to a friend's villa. When she got home, her daughter said to him, Dad, why don't we have a beautiful house like my uncle?
Later, he took his daughter to travel to Europe and lived in various houses, including castles and villas by the sea ... After returning home, her daughter said to her father, Dad, I don't think my uncle's house is cool at all. It is more fun for us to live in various houses.
After becoming mothers, we all hope to create better material conditions for our children. Under such circumstances, we will feel that all kinds of things are not enough, but the material richness is far less than the spiritual richness. Mothers might as well let go of those unnecessary pursuits, and you will find life much easier!
When I attended the annual meeting of the book club, I was deeply impressed by the short text sharing. Once upon a time, she was also a person who quarreled with her husband and her mother-in-law, but after learning and growing up, she successfully turned her husband and mother-in-law into god teammates on the road of pursuing her dreams.
I know that most dads, like our dads, lie on their mobile phones when they go home. I used to like arguing with him, but it's no use arguing with him. If the method is wrong, the efforts will of course be in vain! What should we do?
Praise, not only children need praise, but also husbands need praise. There is a saying that your worries will expand. When we pay attention to the good side of each other and praise each other without stint, each other will really get better and better! Sisters, if you don't believe me, just try and see if you can make your life easier!
I will always remember the confusion and anxiety when I gave birth to Dabao. I was particularly unstable at that time. Seeing my husband is not pleasing to the eye, and seeing my children is not good. Nothing seems to be right! I am eager to change myself! Fortunately, I contacted the captain's platform and started learning online. From then on, I opened the door to a new world and the road to self-growth! It was also through this incident that I found that it was not the outside world that was wrong, but I was wrong. When I changed, the world changed! When you grow up, everything becomes better!
In fact, the arrival of children is a kind of fate! I feel very happy when I wake up every morning and look at the sleeping faces of the children on both sides! I didn't know I wanted to grow up when I didn't have children. After having children, I knew I had to grow up.
Because the essence of education is the self-growth of parents!
Grateful for two children, let me see more possibilities, let me know that life does not need special efforts, let me have the ability to stay happy, let me face the beauty of life with a grateful heart!