Self-cultivation method 1, self-cultivation ten methods 1 1, live in the present. Don't always worry about tomorrow, and don't always regret what happened yesterday. Focus your attention on what you want to do today. Second, live here. There is nothing we can do about what happened in the distance. Worrying doesn't help anything. So remember, you live here and now, not far away. Third, stop speculating and face the reality. You may have encountered such a situation: in the unit, when you meet leaders or colleagues, you say hello, but they don't respond, and Lian Xiao doesn't even smile. Think about it, why do they treat themselves like this? Is there something wrong with this person? Are you demeaning yourself In fact, maybe you didn't expect you to say hello to him, but he may be absent-minded and in a bad mood and didn't pay attention to your greeting. Many psychological barriers are often caused by "taking it for granted" without practical basis. Fourth, stop thinking and feel more. Modern society requires people to think more and feel less. What people think about all day is how to do a good job, how to get good grades in exams, and how to improve the relationship with leaders and colleagues. So it's easy to ignore or have no mind to see beautiful scenery and listen to good music. One of the characteristics of Gestalt therapy is to emphasize "feeling" on the basis of thinking, which can adjust and enrich your thinking. However, nowadays people overemphasize logical thinking, while intuitive thinking is often ignored. The terrible consequence is that people will become a machine without feelings. Fifth, accept unpleasant emotions. People usually want to have happy feelings, but they are unwilling to accept melancholy, sadness and unpleasant feelings. Happiness and unhappiness are relative, and they also exist and transform each other. Therefore, the correct attitude is: not only to accept happy emotions, but also to be psychologically prepared to accept unpleasant emotions. Sixth, don't judge at will. When others make a small mistake or fail, people tend to jump to conclusions. The correct way to treat people and interpersonal relationships should be: don't judge people first, say your own thoughts first. In this way, you can prevent and avoid unnecessary friction and conflict with others, and you can also avoid unnecessary trouble and depression. Seven, don't blindly worship idols and authority. There are many disguised authorities and idols in modern society, who will imprison your thoughts and bind your hands and feet, such as education, money and so on. Don't blindly agree with public opinion, thus losing the habit of independent thinking; Don't succumb to others unprincipled, thus being deprived of the ability to act independently. Eight, I am me. Anyway, if I were someone, I would have succeeded. We should start from our own starting point and give full play to our potential. Don't complain, start from me, start from now, try your best to give full play to your talents and do what you can. Nine, be responsible for yourself. People tend to pass the buck easily. For example, if you don't do well in the exam, you will blame the failure on your poor family environment, you will say that your leadership ability is poor and your conditions are too poor, and you will blame your mistakes and failures on objective reasons. This important principle of gestalt therapy is to ask yourself to be responsible for what you have done. X. Correct self-estimation. In other words, put yourself in a correct position. Everyone occupies a specific position in society, so you should fulfill your rights and obligations according to the requirements of this specific position. If you don't follow this norm, which is generally recognized by society and abided by all, you will be condemned and opposed by society and others. 2, self-cultivation ten methods 2 1, today, I want to have a happy day-Lincoln said: "As long as you make up your mind to be happy, you will be happy." This is indeed a wise saying. Happiness comes from the heart and has nothing to do with the outside world. Second, today I want to conform myself to everything-family, work and fate, without asking others or events to conform to my wishes. Today, I should pay attention to my health-do proper exercise and proper nutrition, and don't overwork. In this way, it can become a machine that completely obeys my orders. Today, I want to enrich my mind-learn to do something useful, read some articles that need to concentrate or think, and don't be a spiritual slacker. Today, I will exercise my soul in three ways-one is to do a good deed silently, and the other is what william james said. In order to cultivate my self-cultivation, I will do at least two things I don't want to do every day. Today, I want to give a good impression-full of energy, neat clothes, gentle speech and polite manners. Don't hesitate to praise others, but don't criticize, criticize or teach others. Today, I only live for today-I don't want to solve all the problems in my life at once today, but try to finish what I can do today, even if I encounter very difficult problems, I must deal with them within 12 hours. Eight, today, I want to draw up today's work schedule, and write out every hour's work plan in detail. This may be very difficult, but you might as well try, because it can eliminate the problems of temporality, impatience and procrastination. Today, I will set aside 30 minutes to have a quiet rest. Have time to think about God's affairs, so that you can have a correct understanding of your life. Today, I want to be full of confidence-believe that the people I love will love me, believe that I can enjoy beautiful things, and believe that I will be happy. 3, the way of self-cultivation 1, people suffer because they pursue the wrong things. It's not so much that others make you suffer, but that your self-cultivation is not enough. If you don't give yourself trouble, others will never give you trouble. Because of my heart, I can't let go. 4. Discipline yourself and leave others alone. 5, don't forgive all beings, don't forgive all beings, it is bitter for yourself. 6. Don't say that others are pitiful, you are even more pitiful. What about your own practice? What do you know about life? 7. People who have insufficient blessings often hear right and wrong; Those who have enough blessings have never heard of right or wrong. 8. You should always thank all beings who have given you adversity. 9. You should always forgive all beings, no matter how bad they are, even if they have hurt you, you must let go to get real happiness. 10, the world is inherently painful, without exception. 1 1. When you are happy, you should think that this happiness is not eternal. When you are in pain, you should think that this pain is not eternal. 12. Only by knowing yourself, surrendering yourself and changing yourself can we change others. 13, don't waste your life where you will regret it. 14, put it down and there will be no trouble. 15, every kind of trauma is a kind of maturity. 16, it's not pitiful when you know you're confused, and it's most pitiful when you don't know you're confused. 17, arrogant people are hard to save, and people with inferiority are even harder to save. 18, don't always be dissatisfied with others, but review yourself more. If you are dissatisfied with others, it is yourself who suffers. 19, you should tolerate people who have different opinions with you, so that life will be better. It will be painful for you if you keep trying to change him. Learn to tolerate him and how to tolerate him. 20. To admit your greatness is to admit your stupidity. 2 1. If a person can't forgive others from the heart, he will never feel at ease. 22. People who are full of their own opinions and ideas will never hear other people's voices. 23. It takes only one sentence to destroy a person, but a thousand words to cultivate a person. Please have mercy. 24, when you give advice to others, if you don't care about others' self-esteem, then no matter how good it is, it is useless. 25. Don't confuse arrogance with your wisdom, and don't let your modesty lack wisdom. 26. There is no need to look back. Who is cursing you? If a mad dog bites you, do you have to get down and bite back? 27. Being jealous of others won't add any benefits to yourself. Envy of others can't reduce any achievements of others. 28. Never waste a minute thinking about people and things you don't like. 29. When many people want to leave this world, they will say the same thing: This world is really helpless and desolate! Love is not charity, you can't just give it to others. Feelings have no formula, no principle, no reason to follow, but people are still persisting and pursuing until they die. 3 1, please express your dissatisfaction and grievances with sympathy and gentleness, and others will accept it easily. 32. Those who create opportunities are brave, and those who wait for opportunities are fools. 33. Talking but not doing is not true wisdom. 34. Listen carefully to what others say, and don't express your opinions in a hurry. Why did you put the poison in the same bottle? The same psychology, why are you full of troubles? 36. If you can't get it, we will always think that he is beautiful, because you know too little about him and have no time to get along with him. One day, when you know it better, you will find that it is far from what you imagined. 37. Founder is intentional and euphemistic. 38. Being alive for one day is a blessing, so we should cherish it. When I cried without shoes, I found someone without feet. 39. Pay more attention to others, and you will pay less attention to yourself. You got it? 40. If you want to know the sword robbery in the world, you can only listen to the midnight sound of Tumen. Don't just blame yourself for being ill, but look at how many sentient beings have died by your sword. 4 1, hating others is a great loss and harm to yourself. 42. Everyone has a life, but not everyone knows life and even cherishes it. Life means little to a person who wastes it, and life is a punishment to a person who abuses it. 43. People who think they have wealth are actually owned by wealth. 44. Emotional attachment is the cause of distress. Only by letting go of your emotional attachment can you feel at ease. 45. Accompanying fate is not muddling along, but doing everything possible to listen to fate and face it positively and optimistically, instead of asking for it. 46. Don't be too sure of your opinion, so there will be less regret. 47. When you are honest with yourself, no one in the world can cheat you. 48. It is shameful to cover up your shortcomings by hurting others. 49. A person who is full of jealousy, dishonest and incorrect in speech cannot be regarded as a person with correct facial features. 50. Tell more jokes and handle things with a humorous attitude, and life will be easier. 5 1, living in the applause of others is a person who can't stand the test. 52. Don't try to guess what others think. If there is no correct judgment with wisdom and experience, mistakes will usually be made. 53. To know a person, we only need to see whether his starting point and destination are consistent, so we can know whether he is sincere. 54. The truth of life is hidden in simple purity. 55, people who don't take a shower, hard to wear perfume will not be fragrant. Fame and honor come from real talent and knowledge. Germany is naturally fragrant. You might as well accept the fact that you have refused. 57. Adversity is a necessary process of growth. People who are brave enough to accept adversity will become stronger and stronger. 58. Thank the person who told you your shortcomings. 59. People who can think of others will never be lonely. If you can find your own shortcomings as accurately as others, then your life will be extraordinary.