Question 1: 18. How to get along with the elderly Many younger generations find it difficult to get along with the elderly. They think that old people are eccentric, scheming, self-righteous and sometimes unreasonable. Yes, with the growth of age and the change of living environment and living conditions, people's physiology and psychology will undergo some changes. This change will be even greater after the elderly retire from the front line of work and labor. But in any case, as descendants of our children, we still have to get along well with the elderly and do our filial piety. In fact, as long as we show "filial piety, care and patience" to our children for the purpose of understanding and respect, we can get along well with the elderly. Some old people are more difficult to serve as they get older. Sometimes he is like a wayward child. He can do whatever he wants, and no one can dissuade him. There are also some old people who are more suspicious as they get older. Sometimes they suspect that someone has taken his things, and sometimes they suspect that their daughter-in-law is not correct ... These are all caused by psychological changes of the elderly, and some are symptoms of Alzheimer's disease. We should understand, sympathize and not take it seriously, because it is morbid. When they were young, they would never talk nonsense like this, and they would never doubt people casually. We should also understand the old people's mentality of remembering the past. One of the biggest cognitive characteristics of the elderly is that the past is vivid and the close-up is blurred. Decades of traces are deeply imprinted in their hearts. The bitterness and joy of the past immerse them in distant memories, which is a very important spiritual pillar to support their lives. Old people generally like to talk about their achievements, honors and experiences when they were young. No matter how many times you listen to it, you should be patient. At this time, you can be lazy, promise "hmm" and "ah", listen more and talk less. If the old people recall their past sufferings too much, in order to prevent them from being too sad, we should use this situation to help them get rid of painful memories. There is no one who wants to chat with the elderly who is unpopular with them. The basic experience of getting along well with the elderly is to increase dialogue with them. When people get old, their social circles become smaller, and loneliness always accompanies them. They especially need to communicate with people, talk to people, accompany people and be cared for. As children, we should understand the psychological needs of the elderly and take time to talk with them as much as possible. Spending more time chatting with the elderly can make them more confident, optimistic and cheerful, which has obvious effect on preventing Alzheimer's disease. If we are not around the old people, we should also call them regularly, don't be stingy with the phone bill, and talk to them more. If you have access to the Internet, you can have audio and video chat with the elderly regularly. Have a cordial conversation with the elderly, speak slowly and in a gentle tone. Some old people are deaf, so they should speak loudly. Choose topics that the elderly like, such as hometown, relatives, youth, TV programs, etc. And avoid mentioning topics that the elderly don't like. Old people are eager to be affirmed. If we praise him sincerely and generously, he will be happy. In case something happens, or the mood of the elderly changes, we should change the subject as soon as possible. In front of the old people, we should talk more about happiness and humor, and less about illness and death, so as not to cause the old people's sadness. From the ideological and emotional point of view, we should admit that "my husband's mother is also my mother". Establish feelings with your mother-in-law. With this concept, you can care about your mother-in-law in detail, and you can forgive her some inappropriate words and deeds. But at the same time, we should also pay attention to the difference between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law because of blood relationship. Therefore, we should love our mother-in-law as much as we love our own mother, but we should not be as willful, presumptuous and willful as we are in front of our mother. By doing this, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will gradually be harmonious. Gifts are necessary lubricants between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. "Courtesy is light and affection is heavy", and the needs of mother-in-law are not measured by more money and less money. Therefore, as long as you put your heart into it, you can see what can be sent to your mother-in-law's heart-choose what she wants most but doesn't have. For example, although my mother-in-law is old, she is still a woman. If she buys a beautiful dress that suits her and a pair of trousers that match the color of this dress, she will naturally like it very much. When she is happy, the whole family is happy. Family is a place where feelings are not important. Don't ask too much to distinguish right from wrong with your mother-in-law. Her mother-in-law is wrong. There is no need to correct her face to face, so she will be embarrassed and lose face in front of her daughter-in-law. In case of differences and conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, we must keep a cool head, restrain our emotions and avoid quarreling. As a daughter-in-law, we should respect our elders and do more self-criticism. As the saying goes, "it is difficult for an honest official to break housework", and there is no fundamental conflict of interest in family conflicts. As long as both sides make some concessions, it is not difficult to solve them. We can't go out and criticize our mother-in-law ... >>

Question 2: How can we get along better with the elderly? The elders and the younger generation are different in age, environment and education. They live in their own circles, meet different people and things, and form certain differences in their thoughts and behaviors. If this difference is not mended and allowed to expand, the invisible wall between the two generations will accumulate thicker and thicker, making it easier to misunderstand. This is the psychological generation gap. To paraphrase a modern language is the so-called "generation gap".

The "generation gap" is a normal social phenomenon, an inevitable historical event and a biological event. With the development and change of society, the older generation and us emerging human beings have different social experiences. With the development of history, people's social environment and social tasks are inevitably different. From youth to old age, physical changes will inevitably bring about psychological and behavioral changes. As a child, you should also think for your parents. There are no parents in the world who don't love their children. You must be considerate of them. People, especially women, will nag at a certain age. If you are her child, they will worry for life. They will tell you something that you don't need to confess at all. But you think you are an adult. You don't have to worry about your parents anymore. Parents' instructions make you feel redundant, so conflicts arise. I advise you to learn to tolerate your parents' nagging. Or you feel verbose. I don't want to hear from you again.

Question 3: How to get along with the elderly It is estimated that it is difficult for you to change your father's living habits. Does he listen to advice? Or talk to your father's brothers and sisters about him. After all, you are a son. If you talk too much, he must think you want to get rid of him. The old father seems to be a loner. Not without a bath. And instead of flushing the urinal, you can only help him flush it. Your wife is not his daughter, so she can't be so tolerant. . It's hard to be you

Question 4: What is etiquette and how to get along with elders? What is etiquette and how to get along with elders?

You should walk behind the old man.

Modern society is a competitive society, but in life, modern people sometimes have to give up competition, especially when they are with the elderly and elders. Whether traveling by bike or on foot, as young people, we should be careful not to walk in front of the elderly and elders, which is disrespectful. If a strange old man who walks slowly gets in your way, you should politely apologize to the old man and then borrow the road.

Ask the old man's taste before ordering.

People like to have a big meal in restaurants on holidays, but many people don't pay attention to the rules when ordering. Before the old man spoke, he greeted the waiter and asked for a recipe: "A spicy chicken!" " "I don't know this kind of behavior is very impolite. First of all, let the old man speak first at any time, and then order by himself when the old man has finished. In this process, we should also pay more attention to asking the elderly if they have any taboos. "Can you eat spicy food? "

Don't mention "old" in front of old people.

Some people are very careless in front of the elderly, and often call themselves "old", "Lao Wang" and "Lao Li", or lament that "time and tide wait for no man", which will make the elderly feel sad and impolite about their old age and physical decline. It should also be noted that most elderly people don't like others to say that they are old. Old people like others to think that they are still in their prime, so they should use the word "old" carefully when addressing them.

First of all, I don't know how old you are. Generally speaking, when you are in contact with people, you should study the people you are in contact with, what they care about, what they like to talk about and what they study. Only if you have a common language can you get along well with them.

I'm here to give you some suggestions for your reference:

1, for middle-aged people aged 35-40, if you are 15 years old. Most people in this age group are concerned about the economic benefits of the unit and whether their income can increase every year. They are very concerned about the development of enterprises. If the enterprise benefits well, the mood will be good; if the enterprise benefits badly, the mood will be low.

When a member (general manager) always thinks about whether he can be promoted, the middle manager is analyzing when I can get the boss's position. (Of course, these topics are to be exchanged among your closest friends. )

Children of this age usually study in junior high school or high school. The topic of long talk among colleagues is children's study, how it is, and what kind of school they can enter.

2, 40 years old-middle-aged people around 45 years old, most people are over-aged in career promotion, and their attention has been completely focused on children. Their children are either admitted to high school or university, and what major to take, liberal arts or science, are all busy for their children's future and getting into a good school. They care about this.

3. On the one hand, middle-aged people aged 45-50 seem to have paid little attention to other aspects, such as children's graduation from college, the whereabouts of work, whether they can find a good receiving unit and all kinds of employment information they care about.

Of course, people in enterprises should also be concerned about whether they can be laid off, whether they can retire early, how much pension they can pay each month, and so on.

People over the age of 4.50 are thinking about their children's marriage, whether the object they are in has a job, what is their personality, what is their family's economic conditions, whether their children will buy a house when they get married, how big they will buy, and whether they can afford it.

Personally, they began to pay attention to the way of health preservation, began to pay attention to physical exercise, and began to study how to live longer, because before that, their energy was focused on children and work, and they rarely thought of themselves.

People over the age of 5.55 are enjoying family happiness, taking care of their grandchildren and caring about whether their children's work is very progressive at work.

People of this age pay great attention to maintaining themselves. Watching TV is generally a way of keeping in good health and a health care program.

6. Many elders like to raise flowers and fish, and people who like to raise flowers and fish will be very happy to chat with them. If you are knowledgeable in this field, you will become very good friends.

7. When dealing with elders, you can't be as casual and outspoken as your buddies. Be modest and prudent. The elders are experienced and knowledgeable, so you must learn from their experience. Sometimes they are stubborn, so don't make mistakes with him. Do you think they ... >>

Question 5: How do the elderly get along with their children? Treat everyone equally and avoid favoritism. The elderly should treat their sons, daughters-in-law, daughters and son-in-law equally, never take sides with one side or alienate the other, and act fairly, so as to win the respect and love of their children.

Caress two, be careful to gossip and avoid sending messages. Old people should not talk about the younger generation among relatives and friends, let alone pass messages between their children, so as to avoid misinformation and conflicts. It's best to talk to your face, not to whisper behind your back; Ask questions face to face, don't guess. So as not to cause mutual suspicion and affect family harmony.

Third, be kind and avoid being picky. Children have their own lives, and everyone's preferences and ways are different. Old people should be mentors and consultants, not arbitrary. Don't treat children's hobbies with old ideas and old eyes. As long as it does not interfere with social morality, it is reasonable and legal, so there is no need to be picky. Don't always blame children, saying that this is not good, that is not good, this is not good, that is not good, and you don't like anything.

Fourth, be affectionate and avoid arbitrariness. Old people should not only ask their children to respect their wishes, but also pay attention to respecting their wishes. They can't ask their children to do everything according to their own wishes. At present, children's work pressure is relatively high and the pace is very fast. Every family has different living and economic conditions. When dealing with family affairs and interpersonal relationships, we should combine the actual situation and solve them through communication and consultation, so as not to make children feel stressed and embarrassed.

5. Be reasonable and avoid accommodating. Old people love their children deeply, but they can't blindly tolerate their shortcomings and mistakes, otherwise small mistakes should not lead to big mistakes. But we should calmly face the wrong things done by children, don't criticize the lessons rashly, kill them with a rake, and don't be cynical. We should properly criticize what the child has done wrong, give him positive suggestions, and give him time and opportunity to correct it. Don't nag endlessly, or turn over old scores from time to time, which will only alienate your children or directly contradict them.

Six, jubilant, avoid indifference. Some old people are very proud and happy when their children come, but they just pretend to be serious. Or if there is a gap and contradiction, the child will come with a cold face. Over time, the deeper the gap will affect their feelings. Be honest with your children, laugh when you are happy, and speak out when you are unhappy. Parent-child conflicts can't be handled coldly, otherwise it will get colder and colder.

Seven, everything is lenient, and avoiding the heavy is light. I have lived my whole life, and I have never seen anyone or anything. I am broad-minded, healthy and live a long life. Old people should treat everything with a normal heart, be lenient with others and don't haggle over every ounce. Especially for children who live together day and night, they should be more tolerant. The child made it. Good stuff, talk about compliments. Do something bad, forget it quickly, and stop nagging. Remember, "a good word will refresh you, and a bad word will stink." Chairman Mao likes to be praised by others, not to mention your children.

Eight, be tactful and avoid going to extremes. When you are old, you should serve the elderly. You can't be as strong as you were when you were young. You have worked hard all your life. Now is the time to take care of and repay the children. Don't think that getting old will only bring trouble to children (children may not think so). Children will give up on themselves, ignore themselves and give up on themselves (have they ever done this? )? I consciously or unconsciously put my child on the opposite side of myself, and I imagined the child as an unfilial villain. To integrate into children's life calmly and harmoniously, you should know that you are the bond of the younger generation and the emotional pillar of a family. It is your unshirkable responsibility to play this role well, and it is also the spiritual pillar of your child. They know the importance of the elderly to a family. Don't just think about the idea that children are alone at home, take the initiative to call them back and take the initiative to participate in their lives. This is the most important need they share with you.

Nine, optimistic and positive, avoid being alone. Old people should try their best to keep a positive attitude, expand their life circle, have a few old friends and some old hobbies, and neither rely too much on their children nor interfere too much with their daily needs. Taking care of grandchildren and cooking will make them sick and exhausted. Everything should be measured by your own happiness and health.

Question 6: How to get along with elders According to the latest survey, in China, the population over 60 has reached 65.438+0.3 billion, accounting for 654.38+0% of the total population. Many children also complain that it is becoming more and more difficult to get along with older parents.

So how should children get along with their parents? Experts on aging analyzed several elderly people with different psychological types. Please look at the following "six secret recipes":

The first category: defensive etiquette

Characteristics and performance: This kind of old people will feel empty and lonely inside, and the solution they use is to put themselves into intense work and various busy activities. This full schedule makes them forget their age and loneliness.

Ways to get along: First of all, don't simply deny their positive attitude. At the same time, try to distract them, provide them with opportunities to relax and induce them to get rid of their busy mentality.

Type 2: peaceful and leisurely

Characteristics and performance: being content with the status quo and easy to satisfy are the characteristics of this kind of old people. They like to get comfort from people around them, and the principle of doing things is not to ask for merit, but to ask for nothing. They don't care much about things around them, just enjoy their personal space.

Way to get along: give them enough space, but not too far away, and try to provide warmth and comfort at the right distance. Children and people around them only need to provide them with a comfortable and quiet living environment to meet their requirements.

Type 3: Mature healthy type

Characteristics and performance: This kind of old people are more open-minded about the past and can adapt to psychological changes. They can treat society and life with a scientific attitude, take the initiative to engage in some related social activities, and have their own social circles and friends.

Way to get along: As long as the younger generation wants to be filial, mature and healthy old people will feel very happy.

Generally speaking, the mental state of the above three types of elderly people belongs to the normal range. The following three types of elderly people need more attention from their children and others, and strive to help them get through the transition period smoothly and enjoy a happy old age.

Type 4: Self-reproach and melancholy type

Characteristics and performance: This kind of old people point their grievances and dissatisfaction at themselves, blame their mistakes and misfortunes on their own failures, take a pessimistic attitude towards everything, are unwilling to change the reality, have no confidence in social activities, and are even less interested.

Way to get along: The most important thing for children is communication, especially persuasion and encouragement. This kind of old people is characterized by lack of self-confidence and always feel that they can't do anything well. When children enthusiastically encourage the elderly, they should give them a concrete analysis of the crux of the problem, and avoid being impatient and perfunctory, because most of these elderly people are sensitive, and their children's negative response will further make them depressed and depressed.

Type 5: Angry attack type

Characteristics and performance: some are rude, self-centered and like to make decisions for their children and younger generations; Some people don't admit that they are aging, and a slight change will make them feel uncomfortable. Some old people are normal, but they will be aggressive after losing their jobs and social circles.

Way to get along: You can't simply perfunctory or confront this kind of old people, but ignoring it will aggravate your feelings. When the old man is angry, children can temporarily avoid the edge, eliminate the old man's anger by doing something else, and communicate peacefully afterwards, thus changing the situation.

Type 6: naive dependence

Characteristics and performance: Naive old people like to "spoil" their children in many ways, and they are gradually full of childishness, and they will get angry when they encounter something unsatisfactory. Children and grandchildren are uncomfortable in front of them, and they feel unbearable after leaving them, which makes them feel at a loss.

Way to get along: expanding the circle of life of the elderly is the only way to solve the childish problem of the elderly. Old people depend on their children because of loneliness, but when life is rich, their dependence will decrease and they will gradually enjoy themselves.

Question 7: How to get along with difficult old people? You can't expect her to change. Let her listen, or ignore her. Everyone is willing to listen to good words. Say something nice to her. It might be useful.

Question 8: How do the elderly get along with their children? As the saying goes, "there are old people in the family as treasures", but there are old people in the family, and several families are happy and worried. Children and old people live under the same roof and get along for a long time. There are always some small contradictions and frictions at the starting point. In this regard, experts remind that when the elderly get along with their children, they should try to avoid passing messages, suspicion, partiality, arbitrariness, criticism, indifference, striving for money, accommodating, extreme and nagging, so that they can live happily together. First of all, the old man treats his son, daughter-in-law and son-in-law equally, and does not favor one over the other. Secondly, the elderly should not talk about the younger generation among their relatives and friends. Don't spread the word among children, lest it be misinformed and cause contradictions. Don't catch shadows. It's best to talk to your face, not to whisper behind your back; When in doubt, ask in person, don't guess. You can't always ask your children to do what they want. Old people should be mentors and staff officers. Don't be arbitrary when something goes wrong. Don't treat children's hobbies with old ideas and old eyes. As long as it doesn't interfere with social morality, it can't be picky. Old people who are broad-minded, sweet-talking and peaceful attract children's love. Old people should be kind to their children. Don't always put on the dignity of your elders and keep a straight face all day. However, we should not blindly tolerate children's shortcomings and mistakes. Be calm when things happen, don't criticize rashly, and learn from what children have done. Otherwise, children will alienate your feelings or speak out against you. Don't haggle over money with children. Be patient with what children don't understand. We should properly criticize what we have done wrong and avoid endless nagging. In addition to the above taboos, the elderly should try to keep a positive attitude, expand their life circle and not rely too much on their children. Of course, when children get along with their parents, they should be more considerate, talk to their parents more and not be disturbed by the elderly. This is the real filial piety.