Speaking of this question, of course, I want to talk about what it's like to have a good relationship with my boyfriend and the opposite sex:
Sister A said: My boyfriend sent a circle of friends. The following comments are almost all sister papers. It takes two screens to complete. The language is very close. For example, there will be a "hug" expression at the end, and the boyfriend will reply to them one by one. Although the reply is very polite and regular, it looks really super uncomfortable! Even if I trust you again, I don't trust these flowers and butterflies around you!
Sister b said: open his chat list, damn it, four or five sisters are in front, so we can see that chatting is very frequent. I feel that opening a casual one looks very sparking, and words like "Brother, you are so gentle" and "I wish I had a boyfriend like my brother" are so angry! But seeing that almost every conversation is initiated by the other girl, my anger has dropped a lot, but I am still very unhappy. Boyfriend looks good, but definitely not handsome enough, not worth it!
Sister c said: he will take off his coat for other girls, because that girl wears a skirt to blow cold air at night; On the wide road, he broke his bone to protect other girls (I don't know what happened); A girl told him that after being rejected, she cried her eyes out and begged him to be just friends and keep in touch. The confession gift that the girl gave him was also sent to the place where we lived. Me?
There are not many examples. Three such typical examples are enough to illustrate the problem. These three girls were made to have their IQ and acuity soar to detective level, and they didn't find anything wrong with their boyfriends. It seems that the girls outside are too turbulent.
However, in such feelings, the discomfort is still real and endless. I searched Zhihu's answers, but I didn't see many that really solved this problem. Let's analyze it carefully today.
Is it really because the girls outside are too excited?
I firmly believe not! If a boy is handsome, excellent and gentle, he will naturally be attracted by bees and butterflies, but it is not normal for so many girls to know that a boy has a girlfriend around him.
Why do some stars lose their powder as soon as they announce their love? Because people think so, I like you, and I will stay with you only when I see that you have a chance that belongs to me. A star belongs to all fans. When he is alone, it is normal for fans to be jealous.
Ordinary normal people who have nothing to do all day to flirt with other people's boyfriends must have given them some hope, such as chatting with him, asking him for help, giving him whatever he wants, and being especially willing to protect and help his sister wherever he goes. ...
Is this so-called commotion difficult to solve?
There is a clear answer, that is, her boyfriend is excellent, and he is eye-catching wherever he goes. She is also very insecure and has been entangled for a while.
Later, my boyfriend took the initiative to solve this problem. It's simple. He shows love on all social platforms such as friends circle and spreads his girlfriend's dog food in his own circle. After a while, no girls came to court again.
He met several girls through friends, introduced his friends at the first meeting, and told them: This is XXX, who works in XXX and is a famous dog food madman in our circle.
I don't believe it is so difficult to break those girls' ideas. Some girls talk to you, right? Then you tell her every day how beautiful and gentle your girlfriend is, how romantic and sweet your date is, and when you are going to get married and have children. I can't believe those girls are still haunting you.
So why don't boys solve it?
One is that the boy really likes the feeling of jumping into the flowers. He just craves the ambiguity and admiration of the opposite sex, or just doesn't like his girlfriend enough. This is not what we should pay attention to.
The other one is amazing. To put it simply, his real world outlook is different from others. Regarding the expressions of friends, he really thinks that these are normal exchanges between good friends. Regarding being chatted, he really thinks it is impolite for girls not to come back to chat with me. He is really confused about undressing other girls. I'm just helping her. Why does she like me for no reason?
I have seen the legendary central air conditioner with my own eyes. All five girls thought he liked himself, but the conclusion was that he didn't like any of them. He treats them equally. He will help them when the road is bad, give them snacks to comfort them when they are in a bad mood, ask him what he can give, and gently say "good night and have a good sleep" after chatting. Who can stand it? ...
What can a boy's girlfriend do?
what can I do? Do you think you have the ability to change people's world view? Generally speaking, in this case, problems will soon arise between two people. If faced with such a problem, he doesn't intend to take the initiative to solve it, then he probably won't change in a short time.
All passive changes are painful, and such a boy can only teach him what the boundary of sexual relations is with his life. If you want to be a coach, you will work very hard.
So it becomes a question of forbearance or rolling. Under what circumstances can it be tolerated? Suppose the central air conditioner is 90 minutes warm to the outside, but it is 120 minutes warm to you. Although it is good for everyone, it is obviously better for you. You can bear it and help him solve Yingying Yanyan outside, provided that you are strong inside.
If you feel that you can't stand it, or that he doesn't care about you more than others, and he is particularly entangled in pain, paranoia and fear every day, then my advice is: give up and find someone who gives you a sense of security. A good boyfriend of the opposite sex will definitely bring some troubles, but a mature and smart man will definitely take the initiative and decisively solve these problems.