My letter from my parents to my unfilial son
Hello, son:
This is the last time I call your son.
Son, you are unfilial. You are very unfilial. It's better for your mother to call you an animal. You are the only child in my life, and I am still an old child, so I have treated you as the apple of my eye and spoiled you since I was a child. You want stars, but my parents never gave you the moon. Now think about it and regret it! It was at that time that I spoiled you and laid a solid foundation for your future unfilial behavior. It seems that my mother should scold herself first and then you: I am worse than an animal. Although the sons of animals are unfilial, they have never educated the sons who beat their parents.
Yesterday, you hit your father again, but you didn't hit me. It's a good thing you just scolded me. We don't remember how many times you hit your father. We do cattle and horses for you, not only taking care of you, but also taking care of your daughter. We'll withdraw all the savings for you. In the end, you not only didn't thank me, but also scolded us lightly and used your fists again. Son, you are unfilial. You are worse than an animal.
Now parents are afraid of you, and your father trembles when he sees you. Every time I see you, your father stays away from you. He is afraid that you will hit him. Think about it, son Your father is not even afraid of the devil, but now he is afraid of you. You really are nothing, son. You are such an animal.
Your father and I discussed it last night. We plan to go to a nursing home at the end of this year, so that it won't be your goal in your later years. Since then, your father and I have no son. Let's go our separate ways and pretend that nobody knows anyone. When we finished our decision, your father cried. Your father hasn't cried for many years, but both your father and your mother cried last night. Son, you forced it!
Son, you are unfilial. You are worse than an animal. Your father said he wanted to kill you, but he couldn't beat you. We will go to the nursing home in a few days, and we may never see each other again. Finally, we have a small request, please don't go to the grave after we die, because we are afraid that you will scare our souls away.
Since then, parents have no sons, and one son has no parents.
XXX
A letter from XXXX. Parents treat their unfilial sons the second part
Children:
You went to a Middle Eastern school because you fell in love with Wenxuan, indulged in games and neglected your studies. You only got more than 300 points in the senior high school entrance examination.
More than 300 points, this is the harvest of your three years in junior high school. The minimum admission score of a Chinese and Western school is more than 600, which means that you are 300 points worse than the worst student in No.1 middle school! ! ! The average number of students admitted to a book in East School each year may be less than one class 10.
So according to your grades in junior high school, it is a waste of time and money to spend three years in senior high school at a high price. This assertion does not contain any derogatory meaning, but simply states the facts calmly. Anyone who wants to achieve something in this era must have self-awareness and self-struggle. A child who has no enterprising spirit and hard working ability will never have any miracle.
Of course, college is not the only way for every child to choose in his life. The ancients also said that every hero kills dogs-but in today's society where there are more college students than dogs, if you don't go to college for gold plating, it means that you can only start your first step in life from manual workers, workers, farmers and small traders at the bottom of society. It is no less difficult for this group to mix with human beings than the probability of winning the 5 million lottery prize.
Because of this, every parent who loves his son, every adult who has been hit by life setbacks in social reality and has seen through the truth of the world, hopes that his children will take a less difficult life path.
I know clearly: your game level, indulging in the Internet, fighting and skipping classes, plagiarizing and cheating, buying gifts for mean girls who treat you like a fool with your parents' money, and even begging for mercy like a dog? All your actions will not give you the dignity of an adult, food and clothing for three meals a day, a place to live and a job to settle down. When you grow up, if a girl talks to you about marriage, the first thing the other parents ask you is to be able to support yourself, take on family responsibilities, and have money, a car and a house. If you don't have these necessary things, the parents of the other party will look at you with contempt and contempt like a wild dog who can't bite his teeth, making you retreat? In fact, these cruel things happen around us every day. Although you are completely blind with the lights on during the day, one day, even if your mind doesn't grow and develop at the same time as your body, once you reach that age, whether you like it or not, you will not suffer less than others.
I know you can't be admitted to non-diploma mill, but I agreed to your request to let you continue to go to high school because you said you wanted to change yourself?
I also know that if you try hard, you are probably lying. You just don't want to go to a technical school when other junior high school students are in high school, that's all! In the end, I chose to take the lie as the truth and continue to cheer for you after school. Just because you are my only relative, not trusting you is my last thought in this world.
At your rebellious age, I am worried about how you will live after I die. It should be a great misfortune in life to meet you who have no desire for progress and no consideration for the future.
Others can't see the details of our lives clearly, and they don't know my urging and teaching to you, which has bored you and turned a deaf ear. Do you know that your mother will be accused of failing to fulfill her educational responsibilities because she lacks every virtue? Do you know that you think that staying up late in a chic and free Internet cafe is just a sentence for others? Do you have any wild children under the care of your mother? Evaluation? Every time I read this, do you know how much I hate myself? Why didn't I die before you went bad? In this way, you don't have to endure the torture of your conscience and all kinds of repressed pain when facing the eyes of the whole world laughing at you.
At present, Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou are first-tier cities, Chongqing, Qingdao and Wuhan are second-tier cities, and the provincial capital cities Hefei, Zhengzhou and Shijiazhuang are third-tier cities. Liaocheng can only be regarded as a small five-line city that barely scratches a four-line city! It is such a backward and poor small city with a per capita salary of more than 2,000 yuan. Thousands of people applied for the position of a civil servant, and the house price in the outer suburbs rose to four or five thousand yuan a square.
Because there are too many people and too few places, people's desires are infinite because of limited resources. In the future, social competition will only become more and more fierce, and the pressure of survival will only increase! Don't learn skills when you should. When it comes to accumulating strength, you just want to have fun and squander your youth completely regardless. What will you do for a living in the future? You learned this in elementary school.
It's too cold and too warm. The English proverb "extremes meet" was also taught to you by adults! Life is not a joke, you know? The reality is not that you can change your role from a useless person who knows nothing to an omnipotent person in an instant. If you want to make progress, you need to make unremitting efforts behind others, not only for academic performance, but also for being a man and doing things.
I know in my heart that it is impossible for you to enter the university, so I have never given you any pressure on your study. That's not realistic, is it?
However, because you are still wearing a student's skin for the time being, and because you have contributed a large sum of nearly 7 thousand tuition and fees to the school throughout the year, you went to bed in class. Since you entered school last September, have you read textbooks and written word homework at home? The total score of each exam is only over 200? Have you never been ashamed of these behaviors? Really, when you send you to kindergarten at home with a high child care fee, as long as you don't pee your pants, can you be worthy of your mother?
Guess what? My salary is only 2,000 yuan a month, and my total income is a little over 20,000 yuan a year. I have to pay more than 4000 yuan for the health insurance and medical insurance I buy for you every year, and I have to pay tuition, all the daily necessities and human relations for the rest of the money. The living expenses of the two of us are less than 1000 yuan per month.
Our income level is already a low-income family in Liaocheng. If there is no old public housing allocated by the unit many years ago, you can apply for the affordable housing for the urban poor in Nanhu New Town!
Need to charge the game money, need to buy a computer with high game configuration, need to buy the latest four or five thousand mobile phones, need to buy an Adinike psp, need to invite students to KFC or even go out to eat, need to buy dozens of comic books for girls. These requirements have not been promised before, and will not be promised now, and will never be promised in the future. It is very sad and pitiful for you to take advantage of the special family situation that your parents are divorced and ignore each other and play with adults to satisfy your own selfish desires. How empty, boring and stupid do you have to be to think that you can get the attention and recognition of your classmates by these external things? Why can't you practice your inner self well and become more mature, stronger and more confident day by day? Will Chinese mother Song Liyuan wear domestic leather shoes and carry domestic bags hurt her mother's demeanor? Guo Can Meimei and Gan Lulu hung 300 Hermes on one arm to change the nature of their prostitutes?
What can I do to wake you up?
I have no money, and I can't let you become a rich second generation because of me. I'm not an official either. I can't let you become the second generation of officials.
I have been strict with myself for decades, and I have been earnest and practical, and I have not been able to let you learn the slightest bit of my nature.
Our family has the most books, newspapers and magazines, and you are not interested at all.
It seems that we have no common interest except English songs and music. I went to East School occasionally the other day, only to see my son chatting with a girl on the playground after school. He clearly saw me, pretended not to know, pretended not to see, and walked past me with his face upturned.
What should I say? I didn't become a man at this point. Should I continue to be cheap and fantasize? It is out of the question. Although I am a mother, I am a person first, and I can't get the minimum respect and emotional response. What if I were a mother?
On Sunday night, he forgot his key. He/kloc-went home at 0/0: 30 and knocked hard at the door. He didn't call his adult. I asked him whose house you were going back to, but he still didn't call his mother. I was calm and closed the door and didn't let him in. Such a child is no longer worthy of my mother's care and love.
That night, he asked a relative to drive downstairs to my house, knocked on the door again and took away his clothes and shoes, as well as the backpack with the game keyboard.
Actually, son, you know what? There is also a fate between you and your parents. When we are together, we are interdependent, and when we are exhausted, we can't be forced at all.
Even if I gave birth to you and raised your mother, there is a bottom line that I should never touch. This bottom line will not change because you are my son. The bottom line is your feelings for me. Without this spontaneous feeling, you are nothing to me.
I sometimes look at your actions and feel a little ridiculous: do you think that no matter what you do, I can only endure it silently? Even if I trample on my self-esteem and hurt my feelings at will, I will still offer you money, hot soup and rice, clean clothes and sheets with my hands in the lowest and most prostrate posture.
What makes you so confident?
Who do you think you are? What do you think mom is?
The bond that connects us is blood relationship, but only family ties maintain parent-child relationship. You got it? In the emotional world, no one can always ask too much but completely refuse to pay. If you give and take, you must give.
When I don't feel the slightest affection from you, I'm not only miserable and desperate, but also calm and rational day by day, which even makes me feel terrible-I've calmly and carefully combed every day we get along with from the beginning, and I will seriously consider my future survival in No Country for Old Men.
Sometimes when a person walks in the crowd, he suddenly feels that his 40-year life is purely a joke.
I tried to find a job that was acceptable to others, worked hard, tried to maintain a slightly clean and decent normal life with my meager income, and tried to live, not wanting to completely lose my heart and become a walking corpse.
However, after working hard for half my life, I take stock of myself today. What do I have?
My hands are empty except for a job that can bring me self-esteem and self-confidence and the only income.
So sometimes I will cry without warning when I watch the news broadcast, and I will cry when I walk in the street for no reason.
The traditional voice always asks parents how to tolerate rebellious children and how humble and insignificant they are! Because the general idea is that parents can't afford to lose their children at all, and children can refuse to appreciate them in the name of being young and not sensible, so parents are born short and have to beg their children to coax them. In the worst case, when children regard themselves as the only ignorant bitch in the world who doesn't need respect, they can go to the bookstore to buy some books called experts to cheat money, learn how to swallow in front of children and how to pretend to be grandchildren better.
Personally, I think it is unnecessary.
Who has ever seen an adult child take care of the elderly like his own?
Never.
Even if you are not hungry or frozen, it is filial piety. The high frequency of going home for dinner is also a face for the elderly. Recently, you even wrote it into the civil law as a legal provision.
This is the way of the world. What else can I imagine? Those children who are at least superficial and eager to learn and behave, my children have been abandoned by half.
What can I expect from him?
When you are sad, you don't have to send a message often, but you should throw away your heart and soul.
Meet like a stranger, and cry at night.
XXX
XXXX。 Letter from parents to unfilial son Part III
My son:
It has been more than a year since you went south to Shenzhen. In this year, you only called home once and told us that you worked in a company, and then there was no news. Now, I don't know where you are or how you are doing. We know that you are busy and have no time to call and write letters, so I discussed with your mother and listed several issues that we are most concerned about in the form of multiple-choice questions. You just need to enter the correct answer and send it to us. We have addressed the returned envelope and sent it with the letter.
Where do you work now?
1, still in Ou Long company; 2. Other companies; 3. I have changed jobs, but I am in Shenzhen; 4. Not in Shenzhen.
Second, your current income:
1, enough expenses, saving; 2, not much, but enough flowers; 3, the cost is not enough, but there are friends to support; 4, no money to use.
Third, your body;
1, very good, never get sick; 2. I have been sick, but it is not a big problem; 3, I am sick now, just a little cold or something;
4. I am very ill and need to go home or be taken care of.
Fourth, your appearance:
1, fat; 2. Thin; 3, black; 4, growing taller again.
Five, your mood:
1, very happy; 2. Relatively happy; 3. Generally, sometimes lonely; 4. Very bad.
Six, about the girlfriend:
1, yes, the relationship is very close; 2, yes, just started talking; 3, not yet, but I like one; 4, there is no goal, or you don't want to find it yet.
Seven, go home during the Spring Festival:
1, go home; 2. Don't go home; 3. Go home after the Spring Festival; 4. Come back in a year or two.
Eight, how can we contact you:
1, write to you; 2. Call you; 3. Send you an email; 4. Chatting with you on QQ.
My son, although your mother's health is as bad as when you left home, and your father's health is getting weaker and weaker, we are all very happy, so you don't have to worry. We hope you can achieve your career in a foreign country, and eventually your career and love will be fruitful.
Wish our son all the best!
XXX
A letter from XXXX. X's parents are unfilial to their son.
xx:
Hello!
I heard from my mother that you give her 10 thousand, three sisters and four sisters and our family 3 thousand, and the second sister will not give money if she is not filial. There will be rewards and punishments, and rewards and punishments are clear. I heard Fourth Sister say that I called you back this time. 16 that day, dad was confused. He called you in a weak voice all day. 1October 18 You 18 came back, and then you went back on the 20th. You only stayed with dad for a few hours, and then you went to meet your friends.
10 years1On the morning of October 20th, my father was dying. The crowd cried and called you back. You said: People die every day in this world. Not everyone who dies will go to see it. If so, I'm too busy. Stop calling me! ? Later, you came to the hospital with your suitcase, and when you saw me, you asked, How many hours will it take? Now I can tell you that the time when Dad left us was 2014101October 20th 12: 28, which was 2 hours and 28 minutes different from the time when you left the hospital with a suitcase. So feelings are indifferent.
Death is as important as providing for the aged, both in China and Japan. During dad's illness, we paid for his care and gave him a pension. As the old saying goes, keeping in good health is not enough to achieve great things, and death is not enough to achieve great things. This is our filial piety as children. Dad left us. To be filial, we must be filial to our mother who is still around us. You don't want the money you give to our family, and money can't buy affection. Things change, and each of us will get old, get sick and die. We should treat everyone around us with a grateful heart, especially the elderly. Don't wait? The son should be filial, and the relatives are not there? Only when you are young can you feel guilty and regret for a lifetime.
XXX
A letter from XXXX. X's parents are unfilial to their son.
My son:
It has been more than a year since you went south to Shenzhen. In this year, you only called home once and told us that you worked in a company, and then there was no news. Now, I don't know where you are or how you are doing. We know that you are busy and have no time to call and write letters, so I discussed with your mother and listed several issues that we are most concerned about in the form of multiple-choice questions. You just need to enter the correct answer and send it to us. We have addressed the returned envelope and sent it with the letter.
Where do you work now?
1, still in Ou Long company; 2. Other companies; 3. I have changed jobs, but I am in Shenzhen; 4. Not in Shenzhen.
Second, your current income:
1, enough expenses, saving; 2, not much, but enough flowers; 3, the cost is not enough, but there are friends to support; 4, no money to use.
Third, your body;
1, very good, never get sick; 2. I have been sick, but it is not a big problem; 3, I am sick now, just a little cold or something;
4. I am very ill and need to go home or be taken care of.
Fourth, your appearance:
1, fat; 2. Thin; 3, black; 4, growing taller again.
Five, your mood:
1, very happy; 2. Relatively happy; 3. Generally, sometimes lonely; 4. Very bad.
Six, about the girlfriend:
1, yes, the relationship is very close; 2, yes, just started talking; 3, not yet, but I like one; 4, there is no goal, or you don't want to find it yet.
Seven, go home during the Spring Festival:
1, go home; 2. Don't go home; 3. Go home after the Spring Festival; 4. Come back in a year or two.
Eight, how can we contact you:
1, write to you; 2. Call you; 3. Send you an email; 4. Chatting with you on QQ.
My son, although your mother's health is as bad as when you left home, and your father's health is getting weaker and weaker, we are all very happy, so you don't have to worry. We hope you can achieve your career in a foreign country, and eventually your career and love will be fruitful.