Many people are curious, "why do some boys make friends with women of the same age, or beautiful young women younger than themselves, instead of chasing them?" Why do they want to pursue and like a woman ten years older than themselves as a wife? On the other hand, it seems not surprising if this question is directed at women.

Because of this, many people are puzzled that men like older women and think that they are very ill. Some people even express condemnation, ridicule, irony, abuse and so on.

In order to solve this puzzle and its answer, the rest of us can't look at men's behavior at face value. There must be a reason why men like older women. In addition, it is not surprising that liking older women is not a major psychological or mental problem, but a very natural personal behavior.

Therefore, we must treat it rationally and respect the choices of all parties concerned.

So, what makes men tend to choose older women? From a psychological point of view, I think there are two factors from the perspective of the environment in which the parties grow up.

First of all, Oedipus complex, relying too much on mother since childhood.

? The reason why boys like older women may be because boys are too dependent on their mothers since childhood. Excessive dependence on mother is closely related to mother's doting on her son. Therefore, the mother's doting on her son from childhood actually led the child to rely on her mother for everything, and even asked her what clothes to wear, what to say and what to do. It is easy for such a child to find a girlfriend according to his mother's standards when he grows up.

However, in fact, girls younger than themselves or the same age can't meet their requirements at all, so naturally finding women much older than themselves has become their first choice. This is one of them.

Second, the family changed from childhood and lacked maternal care.

? The reason why boys like older women may also be the reason for the change from small families.

For example, in a single family, children live with their father. Or couples with unhappy family and marriage, couples who often quarrel and make conflicts, and so on. Such a relationship will naturally affect the mother's care for her children.

Children who lack maternal love often feel insecure. This insecurity is due to the lack of warmth and maternal love in the family. Therefore, children have been longing for a warm home and a caring mother.

The above is the psychological view that some people prefer young women and older women.