First, three perspectives of location perception method

The position sensing method has three perspectives:

1 body: stand from your own point of view.

The second body: stand in the other person's perspective.

The third body: from the perspective of a bystander.

take for example

Background: The boss is late for seeing employee Zhang San again. If the boss wants to guide Zhang San to be late, he will tell Zhang San in different positions by position perception.

1, 1 Position (self): "Why are you late again?"

2, the second position (the other side): "If you were me and your subordinates were often late, what would you do" (stretching to the second position).

3. Position 3 (Volkswagen): "What will my colleague Xiao Wang think when he sees Zhang 3 sooner or later?" (Stretch the third and third body positions).

Second, the timeline has three perspectives.

Timeline-Past-Present-Future

For example, if your friend meets a difficulty, his friend says to you, "I met something, and now I don't know what to do." "

If you want to pull him into the future with a timeline, you can say to him, "You are particularly successful in the future. What will I say to you when I encounter difficulties? "

This will give him strength and encouragement. Is to pull the timeline into the future.

You can also take the time to pull him back and say to him, "Have you encountered the same difficulties in the past and how did you do it?" This will go to the past to find resources and bring him strength.

Third, the position perception method+timeline-Jiugongge

For example:

Mr. Zhang San and Miss Li Si have been married for ten years and have two children. Now Mr. Zhang San is troubled by his wife's long-term quarrel, and the husband and wife are at odds. I don't know whether he should get married. If you are teacher Zhang San's coach, please use dirty clothes. Help Mr. Zhang out of trouble.

In this case, Zhang San is 1 body (the body that needs to be guided and perceived).

Li Si is the second body (the determination of the second body is to define the second body first, and then look at what is discussed and the person corresponding to 1 body).

A- 1 the voice passed.

(asking about the past. Take Zhang San to think about the dimension of past time and ask him a question.

For example:

Mr. Zhang San, how did you treat your wife in the past?

2. How do you know your wife?

3. What was your past relationship?

4. I just got married at that time. How do you get along with your wife?

5. What days are worth remembering in the wedding smoke?

The second body is now

(Ask Zhang 3 from the current position of the second sound. If you ask Zhang San a question from the present position of the second body, how do you ask it?

Example:

1. What does your wife think? Is she willing to divorce?

Does your wife want to live with you now?

Is your wife satisfied with your marriage?

C- the future of the third institution

The third body-children, parents, friends (1 don't need a coach, it's easy to be confused, the coach should be in a very positive position) can ask Zhang San:

1. What effect will divorce have on children?

2. What effect will Zhang San's divorce have on your parents?

3. If you don't get divorced, what effect will it have on your children?