Half of life has experienced joys and sorrows, watched the disputes between fame and fortune, and understood that learning to subtract from life in time is our proper attitude towards life.
Zen master Lv Hui said: "Silence nourishes the spirit, less things nourishes the spirit, less thinking nourishes the essence, and less thinking nourishes nature."
It took me half my life to understand that the best way to live in the second half of my life is to be widowed.
Widowhood is the loneliness of the soul and the best health care.
Be taciturn and keep one's breath.
Hemingway said: "It takes two years to learn to speak, but it takes a lifetime to learn to shut up." Speaking is a person's instinct, speaking is a kind of wisdom, and what you say represents your self-restraint and wisdom. A really smart person knows what to say and what not to say. Regardless of the object, regardless of the occasion, outspoken, will eventually bring trouble to themselves, and even cause lifelong regret.
Throughout the ages, there are many examples of losing everything because you can't control your mouth.
Su Shi was brilliant in the Northern Song Dynasty, but his career was bumpy and he was repeatedly criticized. Because he always likes to be sarcastic and judge others at will, and he is somewhat arrogant.
In the second year of Yuanfeng, the court transferred Su Shi to other provinces. As a rule, he needs to "express his thanks". Externally and internally, it is low-key and modest, which shows that he has no political achievements and is actually a mighty emperor. However, at the end of the article, he wrote: Your Majesty knows that I am ignorant and backward, and it is difficult to work with reformists. He also sympathized with me for being too old to be noisy, so he gave me a small place as a gift for my parents.
At first glance, this statement seems to be correct. But at that time, during the political reform, his remarks were sensitive. As a court official, he should be careful.
A seemingly ordinary sentence was suggested to be discovered. He was accused of insinuating political reform, fooling the imperial court, resenting injustice and disrespecting the emperor, and was punished for this. As a result, he was demoted to Huangzhou, which opened a long career of demotion. ...
If he can shut up at the right time, maybe life will be another scene, and he will not be reviled several times, wandering for half his life and dying in a foreign country.
It can be seen that if you talk too much, you will lose, and disaster will come from your mouth. Therefore, only by controlling your mouth can you control your life. Silence is not a compromise to the world, not a cowardice to fate, but a calm face to the ups and downs of life, which is to protect yourself. I hope that for the rest of your life, you can keep your blessing by keeping your mouth shut in the group and being alone in your heart.
Nourish the spirit with few things.
Lin Yutang said: "The wisdom of life lies in gradually clarifying and filtering out those unimportant impurities and keeping the most important parts." Learning to break away and make life simple and lively is the real wisdom. My colleague's husband graduated from the University of Finance and Economics, and he is a typical schoolmaster. He is an enviable son in others' eyes. He works as a financial officer in a big company. Because of his strong business ability, he is highly valued by the leaders and has made rapid progress. It is the key training object in the minds of leaders, and it is natural to get promoted and raised in time.
He watched his friends make short videos to make money, so he thought he was better than his friends in face value, eloquence and education. So I began to learn to make short videos. It doesn't work after a while, and it's good to watch people live with goods. Regardless of the family's opposition, they also invested in the purchase and began to broadcast live. I have tossed it for many times, and I am often too busy to pay attention to the head and tail, and I have not made any money. I also neglected the work of the company and made myself very confused. The leader talked to him and asked him to consider whether to give up his job, but he was reluctant to give up his professional and decent job. In fact, his biggest problem is that one mountain looks at another and he can't distinguish between priorities. I think I'm still young and I can try anything. The result is that you want to do everything and can't do anything well.
A true wise man should know what he wants, let go of irrelevant things and focus on what must be done. Only by focusing can we master it, which is more efficient and reduces a lot of trouble.
If you pursue less, you will have less troubles and more happiness. Otherwise, you will accomplish nothing in vain. Knowing how to simplify the complex, enough is enough, and doing what you can is the real wise man.
Think less and nourish your essence.
Mr. Jiang Yang once warned young people: "Your problem lies mainly in not reading much, but in thinking too much." In fact, 90% of the troubles in life are caused by thinking too much and caring too much about other people's ideas. In Chekhov's Death of a Little Civil Servant, the hero Cervia Ke ruined his life because he thought too much. One night, he sat in the theater and watched the play with great joy. Inadvertently sneezed, he took out a handkerchief to wipe his face, and looked around to see if his spitted planetesimals spilled on anyone. Suddenly, he couldn't help but panic. He saw a little old man in the front seat wiping his head and neck with gloves and muttering something. He recognized the man as General briza Love. He thought in panic, "Oh, no, I sneezed at him. Although he is not my boss, he is always inappropriate. I should apologize to him. " So he stood up, carefully put it in the general's ear and said, "Excuse me, my spittle spilled on you ... I didn't mean to."
The general nodded his head in understanding. But he kept apologizing to the general. The more the general said nothing, the more uneasy he became. I have been on tenterhooks since I returned home, and I actually apologized to the general six times in three days. Last time I went to the general's house to apologize, the general said impatiently, "I forgot, why do you keep mentioning it!" " Get out! "Cervia thought," he said he forgot, but how fierce his eyes are! "The more I think like this, the more afraid I am ... The general has forgiven him, but he is still bitter and finally tortured by his own anxiety and fear.
Being too sensitive and thinking too much is a disaster and torture for yourself.
The ancients said, "Nothing is difficult in the world, but it is impossible to a willing mind." People who are too serious are often troubled, annoyed and miserable by some small things. If we don't think too much, don't take it too seriously, and have a quiet heart, life will be very easy.
Only with peace of mind can we quit anxiety and concentrate on our work and achieve something. Don't think too much about everything, being kind to yourself is the best way.
Widowhood and parenting
There is a saying in the health book: "If you think too much, you will be in danger. If you think too much, you will be scattered." If you carry too much in your life, you will eventually become your own burden. Once upon a time, a man felt that his life was very tired, so he went to a monk for advice. He did as the monk said. Every step he takes, he puts a stone in his backpack. As a result, he became more and more tired. Finally, he couldn't walk any further and had to return. At this moment, the monk said, "People's regrets and pains are like stones in a bag. If you always want to put stones, the burden will become heavier and heavier. Only by clearing them regularly and learning to forget them will you relax. "
The man suddenly realized. People live too tired, not because they have too little, but because they want too much. Only by knowing enough is enough and letting go of obsession can we get real happiness and happiness.
There is nothing in the world that can't pass, only yourself and yourself can't pass.
Wu Shengming, 89, comes from a businessman's family. This is a good family, but when I was two years old, my mother remarried and left, and grew up with my grandmother: 16 years old, I escaped from the marriage arranged by my stepmother; Married at the age of 29, had five miscarriages due to overwork; 53 years old, sentenced to death with a suspended execution for economic crimes; 58-year-old husband cheated, 16-year-old daughter committed suicide; 7 1 year-old was released from prison and swept public toilets for three years; He started his business again at the age of 73, and now he is 89 years old and worth over 100 million yuan. Her life is too ups and downs, is a legend; Every time she suffers, it is enough to make her fall and sink. However, she did not collapse because of this, and she always faced it with a strong will and an optimistic attitude. If she is immersed in the resentment of the past, there will be no later legendary life. Her experience tells us that only by letting go of the past can we be reborn. Lu Yao said in "Ordinary World": "You should always forgive all beings, no matter how bad they are, even if they hurt you, you should let go to get real happiness." Instead of dwelling on the past and hurting yourself all over, let go of the past and let yourself embrace life. Think of those unforgettable past events as the past clouds, so that you can live a comfortable and happy life. Only by getting rid of obsession and living in the present can we have the distance in our hearts. Only when you are old can you understand that true self-salvation is not to dwell on the past.
There is a saying in the Book of Changes: "The few husbands are the most expensive." Nothing is expensive, so are things and people.
Silence, knowing how to be silent in time, can keep the blessing;
Widowed, knowing how to simplify is the best health care;
It is a rare practice to think little and know enough;
Being widowed and letting go is the real salvation.
In the rest of my life, I hope you and I can learn to be silent, know how to leave, enjoy the happiness of being alone in the noisy world, and go to poetry and distance in life.