This kind of thing is hard to avoid, not to mention ordinary people, even the police themselves. Some colleagues' parents were brought into Ponzi scheme, and it was useless to persuade them. It is indeed a particularly painful feeling. I personally experienced that a very good colleague asked me to accompany him to convince his parents, but this topic often froze as soon as it was said. My colleague shouted angrily, "I am a policeman, but my own parents have been cheated." I'm ashamed of this uniform. I will resign! " I believe this is an angry remark, but the feelings contained in it must be very real.
Yes, once an old man is caught in a Ponzi scheme, it is often difficult to get out. Why? Because the old people have entered a logical self-consistency, in theory, they can realize the causal internal cycle, and it is particularly difficult to intervene and solve it. The parents of our generation often go through the life process from believing to questioning many concepts of social life to varying degrees, and they are more likely to believe things outside the rules, such as gossip, hidden rules, gray areas, curve shortcuts and so on. Especially now is a particularly active era of information. In the past, their ideas were constantly whitewashed and subverted, and even the health chicken soup flooded in the circle of friends was difficult to immunize, not to mention the carefully packaged Ponzi scheme.
This is a difficult problem, so we must face it. Of course, only those old people who are really cheated are discussed here. After all, Ponzi schemes are nothing new. A considerable number of old people actually know what it is, but they just believe that they are old enough to take chestnuts from the fire.
Usually, the communication between children and parents on the topic of Ponzi scheme can easily run aground. The most direct reason is that children will intervene with a negative attitude from the beginning. Because most children used to deal with their parents' affairs-you don't understand, I'll tell you what's going on-if you don't believe me, recall that parents don't know how to use video calls, parents don't know how to use digital on demand, and parents don't know how to use mobile payment. Have we all covered them directly in the right way? But why did they suddenly burst into strong resistance when they were as nervous as primary school students?
There is a simple reason. In the past, those things were all technology, but what the old people can't compare with you is knowledge, and they have no temper about their poor ability to learn new things. But as for Ponzi scheme, when you tell them that they have been cheated, what you will deny is their judgment. To put it bluntly, you will deny their IQ. This is very fatal. The so-called shame into anger can probably be understood in a broad sense. Old people are more likely to get angry because of shame. I have crossed more bridges, seen more things and eaten more food than you. I have spent most of my life in society with rich experience. How could I be cheated? Just like you now, even if you are not old, will you be unhappy if others say you are inexperienced or a little young? Believe me, when the old man is denied by you only in the experience that he can still feel a little confident, this unhappiness will be magnified a hundred times.
Then, the conflict will begin, and the struggle between the elderly and their children will escalate. Many children said that they had put themselves in their shoes and tried to speak softly, but it was useless. In fact, it should be said that empathy is not enough Many children hurried into their parents' field of vision to observe, and then hurried back to their own standard to exert pressure.
Unexpectedly, the more anxious parents are about Ponzi scheme, the more intense their confrontation with their children.
Parents have judgment. They will try to analyze whether the Ponzi scheme is reliable because of their children's statements, but they will also rush back to their own standards. Then, they will unconsciously shift their anxiety about whether they are cheated to attack their children, and use this confrontation to comfort themselves or maintain their own state of affairs. They can't do anything about the final result of Ponzi scheme. The only thing they can influence is their children. Therefore, the more intense their quarrel with their children, the more serious their inner anxiety.
In fact, no one will suddenly become stupid. The brainwashing ability of Ponzi scheme is not as strong as rumored. The reason why old people become paranoid is often because of their intrinsic motivation to become paranoid, for example, in order to prove themselves right. If this situation is not improved, the result is that the old people are increasingly desperate to trust Ponzi schemes. After all, the sinking cost is too high, and there may be not only the risk of losing money, but also the affection of children. Under the two functions, they will be more inclined to Ponzi scheme, and they will rely on and strengthen Ponzi scheme as their inner support. Therefore, when the Ponzi scheme collapses, many old people will collapse immediately, not only because of money, but also because money is just a manifestation. More importantly, the string that the old people have been straining inside is broken.
Then, why is this happening-it is said that old people are like children-let's think about it. When I was a child, did I obviously suffer losses at school? After my parents found out, I went to the teacher to find my parents, but I was still unhappy and even quarreled with my parents? The reason is that my main life circle is in school, where there are established rules and patterns of existence, which have a great impact on my daily life. Although my parents' intervention is to find a place for themselves, it will also pull me out of this life circle. The same is true for the elderly. In the circle of Ponzi scheme, they have the expectation of profit from investment, the enthusiasm of mutual encouragement and the sense of accomplishment of winning envy, which are full of positive energy for them. Before there was a clear break, this life circle gave parents a strong attraction. If you want to save your parents from the game since childhood, it is better to think about a positive problem.
What makes these "positive energy" enter your parents' hearts?
In most cases, the underlying reason is the neglect of children's companionship.
My children don't talk to me, but the salesman of Ponzi scheme is willing to listen to me.
My children always argue with me, and the salesman of Ponzi scheme always smiles sincerely.
My children often find fault with me, but the salesman of Ponzi scheme thinks I have a good eye.
Even some old people are willing to invest money to buy fraud even if they know there are loopholes in Ponzi scheme.
Just like all diseases come from unhealthy habits related to daily life, and once the lesions are formed, they will never be cured. Just like that, don't try to get parents out of Ponzi scheme through forced intervention. From the psychological point of view, Ponzi scheme means the dissatisfaction and empathy of the psychological needs of the elderly. It's no use telling the truth, but there is an urgent need to regain the spiritual position. As parents, their immunity to children is actually very low. As long as the children are kind to themselves, many grievances will dissipate and their hearts will soften, and they will want to do something to give back to their children-forget it, the family will be tidy, even if they don't earn some money-so the opportunity to try to pull their parents out of Ponzi scheme really appears. Although the direction of this practice is not clear, parents may want to give you some other feedback, but on the whole, the probability of success is much higher than getting straight to the point.
The discussion in this paper is limited to psychology, so please consider a multi-pronged approach for specific cases.
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