As a reader, you probably haven't really experienced this sentence, but mostly combine the literal meaning with your own experience to interpret it.
Say a subjective sentence, that is, when you meet hope, you are not given the experience of disappointment. It is absolutely impossible to understand how much helplessness, sadness and hope are mixed in the disappointment when the author says this sentence.
I am not Zhang Ailing. Like most readers, I can't recreate her thoughts, and I can't figure out the thoughts of a deceased person. When I meet someone who wants to be close, I hope to be disappointed and can't be understood why I did that. I just want to end my acquaintance with this sentence.
A series of unfortunate experiences will make you see the truth layer by layer like peeling onions. This process is either full of tears or spicy for many people, and only a few people can be happy.
Nothing is more thorough than a person's mental stimulation and despair, and so is an easy-going villain at first.
Trauma can only cause trauma to the body. If physical trauma turns into psychological trauma, it will produce extremely sad negative emotions, control your mind, and all psychological fears and worries will make you fantasize. When you meet someone you want to be close to and don't be understood by him, you will also derive your own past. Why is it so bumpy now and in the future? A classic sentence is born, just like Zhang Ailing, saying different words in different environments.
What does this have to do with easygoing people? Of course it matters.
Under what circumstances did Zhang Ailing say this sentence, which can make you a descendant of * * *. To borrow it, it means what kind of changes you have made after ups and downs, helplessness, sadness and disappointment when you are not understood. In the end, it is better to say that there is nothing you can do to make you easy-going.
This kind of person is usually defined as "please-type personality" by the society, commonly known as "nice guy", with no temper, understanding, strong self-sacrifice spirit to fulfill others, and also very painful, also known as "please-type personality disorder". Simply put, it is a kind person with psychological problems.
Everyone has psychological problems, and the severity of the disease is the standard of diagnosis. None of this matters. The important thing is that you are easy-going but not casual, with a bottom line and principles, and your style of doing things is another definition.
This kind of person is not really easy to get along with at first, but when you meet him, they have changed. If you had known him before, you might forgive him now.
Most of them are too disappointed and come back to life after despair. The mode view did not change when they traveled around the world, but crystallized between life and death. This is another kind of easy-going person, another kind of respect and cherish.
I often listened to Teacher Lu's radio station some time ago. The article mentioned an example. When a couple got married, almost all relatives and friends were surprised, surprised and surprised again. The reason is that the man cheated before marriage, and the people in the theater thought that the woman would break off her marriage. Who would have thought that she only said one sentence: "Do you still want to live with me?" If you want, break the messy relationship outside. If you don't want to, break up now. "
This kind of thing is an unacceptable result for many women. It represents the purity, loyalty and unswerving commitment of feelings. Cheating is that this relationship is tainted, and your clothes are also tainted, which is acceptable. Most of them are not generous, indifferent and easy-going, but cherish and see through.
See through what? Refrigerator, an thoughtless electrical appliance, has a warranty period, not to mention that people, a creature that can change at any time, will not have a problem.
Desperate Love is about people who obviously don't want to break up but want to make each other pay the price. Such easygoing is a coping style. If everyone is happy, don't kill a larger foe. If there is a problem, cooperate to solve it. You don't have to cry twice and hang yourself three times to prove your existence. Smart women will choose to settle accounts with softness.
You may say that such calculated love will definitely not last long. There is no trivial quarrel, just like a stagnant pool. Then you may have made the experience of entering a dead end, and people will be flexible. The problem you said can only appear in the kind of person you said. Every example or sentence can't represent everyone, only some or most people.
For example, when you get along with your friends, they may remember your occasional shortcomings and well-known faults. What you said today stung his heart. What you did yesterday made her a little embarrassed. You owed her five dollars the day before yesterday ... If so, it doesn't matter, it's no big deal.
But not you, someone else. He lent you five yuan yesterday and didn't pay it back. The day before yesterday, she embarrassed you, and the day before yesterday, she poked your wound. Compared with your trivial things, what they did was embarrassing. They don't care, but keep accounts. This is the sorrow of easy-going people.
One day, when you sit down and chat with everyone, they make fun of your brainless jokes and scold you for having a bad memory. You always pretend to be a good guy, but you obviously care but don't say anything. You smile and don't talk.
Suddenly, when the conversation turned, the joke with no lower limit stepped on your bottom line and flame, and you began to think that silence was a rare way to keep fit, but if you want them to shut up, you can only count the old and new accounts together. I shook it from beginning to end, and the friend sitting next to you asked weakly, "You usually have a good temper. Why are you suddenly so angry today? "
People around the pile followed suit: "Do you remember Sesame for so long?" Everyone is joking, so serious, I can't afford to joke. "
You smiled coldly in your heart: "I'm joking, too, mutual."
In fact, for me, it is really difficult for others to burn their anger inside, because what I care about is not things, but attitudes. Don't step on the bottom line and principles, everything will be fine.
Respect is also mutual. You can joke, but you should be measured. This is not a dispute, but a quality. Cherish, doesn't mean it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter, it just gives you a step down in another way.
Such people can endure what ordinary people can't stand, cherish everything that is hard-won, and value things that are difficult to harvest and repair more than things that are easy to get.
Many people don't understand why I can do it. Even the ex's infidelity can be indifferent, and she can calmly climb out when she is overwhelmed by gossip. Even relatives can accept it calmly and feel normal.
As a teenager, I experienced many indescribable setbacks. Coupled with the sentimental mood, I understand that it is impossible to change others, so let me change it. If I don't want to live so tired and miserable, I can only learn to care bit by bit.
LM is my junior high school classmate. Although so many years have passed, I still keep in touch and occasionally talk about the past when I am caring and attentive.
I remember last summer vacation, I met her sitting in a teahouse on the street. She was a little happy to see me back. She walked out of the tea shop, talking and laughing. A passing girl bumped into her, looked at her and turned away without apologizing.
I thought something was going to happen, but she said, "Children are in such a hurry to walk now."
I almost thought I mistook one for another, or was it the same woman who didn't have enough to eat in the cafeteria and scolded her aunt for cooking?
I asked her how she became so soft now that there was no original Queen Fan.
She smiled and said, "Big deal."
Simple five words can change a person's mentality, and no matter how big things are, age can't solve them.
There is not so much in life that is yours. You can change it. It must have ended this way. When you see thoroughly and the truth slowly emerges, you won't force others to do it, but do it yourself.
At first, you were like everyone else, but what you experienced later made you realize that you must be tolerant, and you don't want to care so much, so inertia is defined as easygoing by people who know you later.