Full of ideals and reality. Good wishes can only stay in thinking, and cruel reality always breaks the wishes of the elderly again and again.
I don't know when it started, but now there seems to be a gap between children and the elderly. When people are old, they will become cautious in front of their children, look at their faces and talk, not knowing that their words and deeds will make them unhappy.
Living with children, even if the old man satisfies the children, sometimes he will be rejected. When the old man really feels exhausted and miserable, he is worse than himself.
When you are old and alone, will you live with your children for the elderly? I heard the truth from people.
1. There are no more hard-working and competent free nannies to serve children's families.
I have always heard people say that when you are old, you must not take the initiative to live with your children. There will be many unexpected things that will affect the relationship between parents and children, even the relationship between young couples.
Qin Yi didn't believe it at first. She thinks her daughter is filial and an only child. Her own things are hers. How can it be bad for herself?
After living with her daughter for several years, Qin Yi really realized that she was a paid and free nanny in her daughter's home and could not get their understanding and care.
The daughter and son-in-law are busy at work, so Qin Yi understands them, does all the housework and is responsible for sending the children to school.
These chores are nothing to the capable Qin Yi. What bothers her most is the child's piano study, because every time the teacher asks parents to record the video of the teacher's lecture, then go home and practice according to the video, and then record the video and send it to the teacher for inspection.
Qin Yi doesn't know much about the use of this smart phone, and always records the teacher's teaching videos incompletely. Sometimes, when not recording, my daughter will blame Qin Yi for being careless, and she usually enjoys watching mobile video.
Qin Yi is tired at the thought of cooking and cleaning up the housework every day. Her daughter is ungrateful. She said so. She felt very wronged in her heart. She reviewed the lives of her sisters and her own days. She decided to go back to her hometown and live alone.
Daughter and son-in-law don't agree, Qin Yi ignored them and went home. I cleaned the house again, got together with my old sisters, went to the square to play boxing, took a walk, went home to read books, listen to music and catch up with TV dramas. My life is very happy, and I don't want to be a paid nanny at my daughter's house anymore.
When you are old and alone, will you live with your children for the elderly? I heard the truth from people.
Uncle Zhang said, don't give all your money to your children, leave more money for the elderly, and don't look at whose face goes back to your home.
Uncle Zhang and his wife work in the county, and their pensions are not enough. The only daughter works in the city and has a family. Life is tight, he has to pay off the mortgage and car loan, and he has a child to raise.
Uncle Zhang's old house needs to be demolished, because there is only his wife's account, so there are not many points. They didn't want to go back to life, so they all changed into money and gave them thousands at a time.
Uncle Zhang thought that his son's life was under great pressure, and his wife did not agree to repay the mortgage. She said that now she can help him pay back some money every month, and she can also help her son relieve the pressure. She can't give it all at once.
Uncle Zhang and his wife transfer 2000 yuan to their son every month, and their son and daughter-in-law are very happy. So when Zhang Shu's wife died, Zhang Shu could neither cook nor clean the house, so his son took him to live in the city.
The first few months were good. Later, the daughter-in-law became more and more cold. One day, Uncle Zhang heard his son and daughter-in-law quarreling quietly in the room. Her daughter-in-law said that your father's pension is not enough for him to buy his own medicine. Nothing can help us. It dragged people down. If we don't let your father sell the house in the county and pay the mortgage for us, our life will be easier.
The more Zhang Yue listened, the more he felt that his wife had foresight and left some money for herself. Although his pension is small, it is enough to live alone. If he meets a perfect partner in the county, it's not bad to find another one to live with him. He doesn't have to suffer here.
Uncle Zhang said that I have lived for two years now and have never met anyone who is comfortable. I won't give them any more money. I really can't walk any further. Go to a pension hospital.
When you are old and alone, will you live with your children for the elderly? I heard the truth from people.
Mei Jie said that even if she became an "invisible person" in the children's home, she would be rejected, looking for her own happiness and enjoying her old age.
When Mei Jie's wife is around, she is a chatterbox, especially talkative and enthusiastic. Since I lived with my son, I have had a carefree life and food and clothing, but I am not as happy as before. I always feel that the air in my son's house is too depressing.
My son is very kind to Mei Jie, but his daughter-in-law is very strong, and she is uncompromising at home. Mei Jie helps take care of children and do housework. She never said a word of thanks. She always talks about what other people's mother-in-law has done. She doesn't like that Mei Jie gives less and does less.
Sometimes, Mei Jie thinks she is rich in fish every day, so she will make some fresh vegetables, and her daughter-in-law will say something about Mei Jie on the grounds that her children are growing up. When Mei Jie begged to say a few words, she didn't look well. In short, Mei Jie has no say in this family.
Later, Sister Mei also figured it out. "How can people not bow their heads under the eaves?" Endure for two years, the daughter-in-law said it was true that it was not so difficult to obey, but Mei Jie was worried that she had been so patient. Is there something wrong with her health?
With nothing to do, Mei Jie went for a walk and dance in the park and met an old man several years older than himself. A few months later, they got together. Mei Jie said that although she didn't know how far she could go, she liked her present life. She can laugh happily without being depressed. She doesn't want to live with her son anymore.
When you are old and alone, will you live with your children for the elderly? I heard the truth from people.
Conclusion:
The concept of "raising children to prevent old age" is really out of date. If the elderly can take care of themselves, they might as well live their own lives in their own homes. Now, there are many differences between the two generations in thought, life, habits, diet, communication and ideas.
Life is trivial and complicated. Even if you live in a child's house carefully, you may not be grateful for helping the child. Try your last waste heat, and you will have no smiling face. Instead of living with children, there will be contradictions and quarrels, and finally it will end in discord. It is better to worry less about children and live by yourself.
Children have time to come back to see you, and the distance between "far fragrance and near enemy" is quite good. Why bother to find yourself suffering for a lifetime?
Old people must remember not to be paid nannies in their children's homes, and leave more pension money for themselves. They don't have to be "invisible people" in their children's homes. They have no right to speak, so they are wronged. They returned to their homes and lived a happy old age.
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