Under this budget, children can only receive moderate living conditions and educational consultation. As for super-quality life and super-class educational resources, the price can be high! That's it. The hard work is not over, and children can be healthy and safe until they die.
If you lose your child in middle age, it will be a human tragedy to lose your independence in your later years. This tragedy was met by Sheng Hailin, so she chose to give birth to twin daughters at the age of 60 to ease the pain.
The loss of independence in old age is worrying.
It is the last thing that all parents in the world want to face, but if it does happen, they will have no choice but to bid farewell to their children with tears in their eyes.
1, loss of only child
Sheng Hailin was born in 1950s and 1960s. She is an ordinary and ordinary woman. Getting married, having children after marriage, everything is going step by step. Because his daughter was born late, at the age of 30, Mr. Sheng Hailin married a daughter. After the birth of the daughter, the husband and wife are afraid to melt in their mouths, hold them in their hands, and take good care of them. They only hope that she can grow up healthily and happily. Later, when my daughter grew up, her future life plan was to be a laid-back old lady. After her daughter got married, Sheng Hailin and his wife lived a happy retirement.
Daughters are filial and sensible, so they don't have to worry. I and my wife have high retirement wages, so I don't have to worry about economic problems at all. The daily life of husband and wife is to wake up naturally, buy food, cook and eat, plant flowers and raise birds for a walk.
However, such a comfortable life did not last long. When Sheng Hailin was nearly 60 years old, an accident happened. When the daughter and son-in-law returned to their hometown, the daughter unfortunately lost her life because of carbon monoxide poisoning. This is like a bolt from the blue for Sheng Hailin. She never thought that she would suffer such a disaster in her later years. As a mother, she hopes this will happen to her, and don't let her daughter lose her young life! My daughter just turned 30! Her life still has a long way to go!
After the incident, Sheng Hailin stayed in Lacrimosa almost all day. She saw traces of her daughter's life everywhere, as well as the shadow of her daughter before her death. These unforgettable memories and indelible familiarity made Sheng Hailin miserable.
Decided to have twins at the age of 2.60.
Sheng Hailin lamented that the fate was unfair. People finally got their beloved baby in middle age, but they had to take it away again and again in old age. Slowly, she gave birth to a crazy idea. She wants to have another child of her own, and she must be a mother to protect her children's safe and healthy growth!
At this time, Sheng Hailin is 60 years old. She stopped visiting during menstruation a few years ago, indicating that her body no longer has the conditions for childbirth. Sheng Hailin, who knows well, has not stopped begging for a child. She is determined to have a baby, and no one can stop her. It is useless for anyone to dissuade her.
She knew that if she wanted to have a baby successfully, she had to use modern medical methods, so she remembered her friend who was a doctor in Beijing. Sheng Hailin dialed a friend's phone and told her her actual situation and thoughts. After some dissuasion failed, in order to help old friends realize their wishes, they could only mobilize their social relations and contact well-known obstetricians and gynecologists for consultation with Sheng Hailin.
After Sheng Hailin went to the hospital, the doctor educated her about the risks of childbirth according to her own situation. She agreed that it was too dangerous to give birth at such an age, so don't make a move, and advised her to think twice before you act. However, the doctor's persuasion and enlightenment are useless. Sheng Hailin still insists on having children.
Later, Sheng Hailin went to the hospital in Nanjing to ask for experts' help, and the doctors in Nanjing directly refused after understanding the situation. Finally, it was the doctors in the PLA 105 Hospital who saw that Sheng Hailin was eager to have a child and lost her independence in her later years, so she agreed to give it a try.
In the face of hard-won opportunities, Sheng Hailin cooperated very much. Injections, medicines and infusions were all done at once, for fear that he would not take good care of himself and his wishes would come to nothing. Many things happen. After three months of physical conditioning, Sheng Hailin is menstruating again at the age of 60! On June 5438+1October 65438+March, 2009, three successfully conceived embryos were successfully implanted into Sheng Hailin through IVF.
The tortuous road to having children
Although the embryo has been implanted into the mother, it is only a small step in the long March, and the more difficult is yet to come.
1, very old pregnant woman
Pregnant women of normal age generally have different degrees of pregnancy reaction during pregnancy, or morning sickness, dizziness, lethargy, edema and so on. , depending on physical condition. The symptoms that these young pregnant women still feel unwell will only be doubly uncomfortable for the 60-year-old Sheng Hailin. Sheng Hailin experienced systemic pain and edema before and after pregnancy. The most terrible thing is that she has experienced several times of massive bleeding! Every uncomfortable reaction seems to be a warning from the body to Sheng Hailin!
But Sheng Hailin, who is bent on satisfying her wishes, won't care about these. In her opinion, as long as the child can be born, she is not afraid of anything!
The birth of a child is just the beginning.
After many difficulties and dangers, Sheng Hailin finally met two girls in Hiuke on May 25th, 20 10. Because the baby is born prematurely, it is small, the big one is 3.7 kg, and the small one is only 2.9 kg. Two weak babies were put in an incubator at birth.
Sheng Hailin's successful delivery broke the record of the limit childbearing age in China, and she became the oldest parturient in China. Just because the baby is born doesn't mean everything can be let go. On the contrary, the birth of a child is just the beginning! From the first time a child opens his eyes to the last time he closes them, parents have endless responsibilities and worries.
Sheng Hailin, 60, has passed the age of going out to work. She used to live a rich and carefree life. Now the birth of two children is undoubtedly two gold-swallowing beasts, and the pension of the old couple is simply not enough for the children's expenses.
Coupled with old age, mental and physical strength is getting worse and worse, it is time for children to grow up day by day. Sheng Hailin and his wife often feel powerless, and many things are beyond their ability!
In order to make their two children live as well as possible, Sheng Hailin had to go out of the house in his old age and give lectures everywhere to make money. As for the children at home, they can only be entrusted to their wives and nannies. Later, Sheng Hailin's wife was unable to move because of illness. Sheng Hailin can only take care of her children and her husband while trying to make money.
Now Sheng Hailin's home is full of children's laughter and endless sadness of the old couple. Later, a reporter followed Sheng Hailin's recent situation and asked her what she would do if she could choose again. Faced with this question, Sheng Hailin just replied with a straight face: If there is still an opportunity, I will seriously consider it.
3. Old children must not be impulsive.
In the face of such a dilemma, Sheng Hailin's inner suffering is only known to herself. In addition to physical challenges during pregnancy and childbirth, elderly women are more likely to encounter many difficulties after childbirth.
The first is the economic problem. Raising children is extremely expensive and time-consuming, and it cannot be completed overnight. The second is education. I am an elderly woman, so I am old. Many children's ideas cannot be understood because of the age gap, and improper handling will have serious consequences. Being too rough will hurt the child's heart, and being too fond will spoil the child.
Secondly, it is the problem caused by the age gap between parents and other children. Children may be reluctant to get close to themselves when they grow up, and even the sharp contrast between gray-haired parents and other young parents will hurt their self-esteem. Finally, it is a matter of energy. Because I am old, many things will be ignored. For example, older parents don't get enough sunset light, but their children, like newborn seedlings, need sunshine and care. This happens not because parents don't love their children enough, but because children are old and don't love them anymore.
Therefore, it is great to be a parent, but think twice before you act. After all, bringing a child into this world without his consent is responsible for the child's life!