If we compare life to a river, then harmony is a boat, temper is a wave and atmosphere is a shore. When sailing, only wave ships can reach the other shore smoothly and orderly.
Whenever someone is angry, the exhorter will always say "harmony is precious" People who know harmony are people with great wisdom, so it is easier to get what they want.
Kindness is sometimes considered weak and easy to be bullied, but only kind people know how beneficial it is. Although it may make people feel a little disadvantaged at first, in the long run, whether doing business or teaching friends, kind people are the longest.
I have seen many good things to make money, and the most impressive thing is Zhuo Jie, the proprietress who runs snack bars. Dozens of snack bars have been opened in one street.
Sister Zhuo has been here for almost a year, and his business, whether online or offline, is the best-selling store in the whole street.
If it's only a day or two, it's okay, but since the opening, Zhuojie's business has been particularly good, and the surrounding shops are jealous.
Those bosses saw that Li Jie was making money and their shop business was bleak, so they went to Zhuo Jie's shop to steal teachers. They also did what Zhuo Jie did, and whoever Zhuo Jie pulled out would be promoted.
But it is not a good thing to follow suit. Their store sales have not changed much. Finally, watching Sister Li's business booming, the bosses of the two houses next door were jealous for a while and made irrational things.
When they deliver swill every day, they always accidentally spill some in front of Zhuo Jie's shop. When they go out to take out the garbage, they will always accidentally break the bag or fall too full, and they will all fall in front of Zhuo Jie's shop.
Every time ZhuoJie word, tidy up yourself. A friend told Zhuo Jie that she couldn't stand it. How do you put up with them? I'll call the police.
Sister Zhuo cleaned up the garbage at the door, propped up the door frame and said, you don't know they are giving me money! Every New Year's Eve, our hometown sweeps the garbage in, that is, pulls money home. So they won't give me money or anything. Can't you see that my business is better?
Later, when the surrounding bosses heard this, they stopped slandering him and dumping garbage at the door.
Although there may be resentment from time to time, there are mountains and valleys in my heart, and it is inevitable that I will eventually make a profit.
Harmony is not only reflected in business, as the saying goes: "Home and everything prosper!" "
It can be seen that harmony in the family can make a family more prosperous, warm and orderly.
Please look at Yingying, the representative of home and everything. Yingying has been married for ten years. At the beginning, she also took the attitude of liking everything and married Avi directly without listening to her parents' advice.
A poor boy, this is Yingying's parents' evaluation of Avi, but Yingying doesn't care. After they got married, the two of them worried about daily necessities.
Yingying once wanted to quarrel with Avi for money, but she thought that this was the man she chose, and she would live together all her life. The quarrel hurt her harmony, so she stopped arguing. Slowly, the couple encouraged each other and helped each other, and their work got smoother and smoother, and their promotion and salary increase got closer and closer, which was followed by enjoying life after economic relaxation.
Only kindness can be harmonious and beautiful. If we are kind to others, others can be kind to us. If we are tit for tat, we can only lose both sides.
Everyone has a temper more or less, but if you have a temper, you can't just lose your temper. No matter how much the other person annoys you, if you are on the right side, there is no need to argue about the length. If you are on the wrong side, you should not argue.
Although Zeng Guofan's family instructions have become many people's reading materials and learning models, in his early years, his temper was not as good as we felt in the book.
During his tenure in Kyoto, he argued with people more than once, which offended many people. Zeng Guofan once had an argument with his fellow villagers. Although things are trivial, he still can't control his temper.
Zeng Guofan wrote in his diary, "At that time, I was rude. If I didn't agree, I would fight with others and be mean and abusive. Today, I write it down here as a warning.
Because of this temper, the early Zeng Guopan was not smooth in his official career, which not only affected his career, but also affected his friends. Those princes and nobles are unwilling to associate with him.
Later, Zeng Guo, who thought it unwise to do so, changed his temper and everything began to improve.
No matter how big or small the temper is, many people don't care. I don't think it's a big deal to be a little grumpy or almost.
But in fact, temper determines the success or failure of your work. If you look closely, you will find that those people with good temper are getting smoother and more successful in their careers.
The more successful people tend to be more peaceful and have a better temper. People with poor abilities have the biggest temper.
If you can't control your temper, then you may be in trouble and keep coming to you.
In addition to good temper, you need to have an atmosphere in your chest. The word atmosphere is somewhat abstract, but everyone you come into contact with can realize whether you are atmospheric or not.
People with great atmosphere can endure grievances, endure hardships and enjoy happiness. A simple word can be used to describe them as "flexible".
Flexibility is what people often use to praise someone for eating hard and getting angry, and finally turning over to become a winner in life.
For Sun Bin, we are all familiar with the story of "Tian Ji Horse Racing", but few people mentioned that Pang Juan was jealous of his talent and framed Sun Bin.
Sun Bin was framed by Pang Juan and lost his legs. He still has tattoos on his face. Tattooing on his face was extremely insulting at that time, but in order to save his life, Sun Bin began to play dumb.
Patience is effective. Sun Bin returned to the State of Qi alive, returned to Sun Bin, and finally defeated Pang Juan in Maling Island, leaving a classic battle to save Zhao from Wei.
How big a person's mind is, how big the pattern is, and how big the atmosphere is, how much things can be achieved.
Life is like a chessboard, and we are the players. If you want to win, you have to control the rhythm of the whole chessboard, follow yourself, follow a rule and come out.
And this rule is inseparable from easy-going, good-tempered, and large-scale.