Whether children can become talents or not, the competition between them is actually the companionship of parents.

I remember that there was an issue of "Youth Talk" with the theme: "Can you put down your mobile phone?"

Ye Zijian, who was in the fifth grade at that time, began to spit out his parents as soon as he came to power, complaining that they spent too little time with him, and even wondered if he was his own.

He said: "When I was a child, I always thought that mobile phones were my parents' children, because every time I looked up at them, they were playing with their mobile phones seriously. I can't figure out what's in the phone, so they keep an eye on it so closely. Mobile phones are even more important than me. Sometimes my parents want me to be quiet and even give me my mobile phone to play with, hoping I won't make trouble. "

When he said this, Ye Zijian had already become a crybaby.

"Mom and Dad, please put down the phone and stay with me, ok?" This simple plea, mixed with the broken heart of the child, sounds very sad. As parents, don't you have a little time to spend with your children?

Nowadays, the pressure of survival is great, and parents are running around day and night for their livelihood.

I'm tired of working hard outside during the day, but I just want Ge You to lie down and play with his mobile phone to relieve fatigue when I get home from work.

Children want their parents to spend more time with them, even if they just chat with them, they also have many excuses. ...

-"Mom is too tired from work. Go and do your homework. "

-"let's talk about it tomorrow. Dad is busy! "

-"Learn to play alone when you grow up."

Parents take the initiative to accompany their children, but the reasons for not accompanying their children are always the same.

Although it is understandable in reason, from a moral point of view, this is the behavior of parents and their selfishness. Because children lack the spiritual care of their parents, many parents have no concept at all.

Although some parents are ostensibly "accompanying" their children, they are actually "accompanying" their children and "playing with their mobile phones".

"I will accompany you!" The absence of such people is the deepest harm to children.

Writer Mo Yan said: The Excellence of children is soaked in the sweat of parents.

As a parent, when you envy other people's children for being so excellent, you might as well ask yourself, "Would you like to be with their parents?"

In the circle of friends, parents are sorry for their children:

"I'm sorry, son. I don't want to work with you, but I can't afford to support you if I leave work. "

Is this a true portrayal of many parents?

I remember that there is a photo of a father and son in Chaotianmen, Chongqing. As you can see in the photo, Ran Guanghui is carrying a hundred kilograms of goods in one hand and pulling his three-year-old son in the other.

The left hand is work, and the right hand is companionship.

One side is life, and the other side is survival.

Ran Guanghui often needs to go out for work reasons. With this kind of work, he can't spare too much time with his children, but he doesn't want to miss every growth of his children. Finally, he decided to take the children and watch them grow up bit by bit.

Ten years later, when the media interviewed Ran Guanghui and his son again, the child smiled and said, "My father is a superman, and I am proud of him. He works hard and earns money by his own hands. I want to grow up quickly and let my father not work so hard. "

From the words, we can smell that Ran Guanghui's son is not ashamed of his father's work, but in the process of drifting with his father, he feels that his father's hard work is because he loves himself.

In order to live, parents have to choose.

Many parents will choose this way: "Give up company and gain time."

Parents try their best to create better material conditions and educational environment for their children, but these are not what children want most. What they want is the "luxury" company of their parents.

Some parents may say, "They are too young to understand ..."

But several parents have seriously asked their children what they really want. Maybe you try your best to give it to your child, which is not what the child wants.

I have a friend who is a kindergarten director. She shared a story about children with me.

On one occasion, the kindergarten set up a link in the activities of Children's Day-"Make a wish". Children tell their parents their wishes, hoping that their parents can help them realize them. What gifts do you think children will ask their parents to buy for themselves and what amusement parks they will take? None of them. I hope my parents can spend more time with themselves.

"I hope mom and dad can play with me for a while ..."

"Mom, can you accompany me to work after breakfast?"

"Dad, don't work overtime, ok? Go home early! "

It turns out that children are not eager for material satisfaction, but only want their parents to spend more time with their children, even if they just read story books for a while or just have breakfast. This is the voice of children.

Life is bitter, even if there are all kinds of helplessness, as parents, they can still bring sunshine and warmth to their children, care for their hearts and care for their growth.

True companionship is not only the consideration of time, but the protection of this parent-child relationship with love and companionship.

No matter what happens in the future, your parents will always accompany you, witness together and grow up together.

The best companionship of parents is the biggest "make up lessons" in children's study.

There are top students in Zhumadian, Hebei who have twins. They are Chen He.

The twin brothers were admitted to Peking University and Tsinghua with 676 and 679 respectively. Everyone is curious, what kind of family can educate such top students?

Excellent children are inseparable from their parents' company.

Back in those days, the father of the twins in "No.1 Scholar" wrote an educational experience of health preservation in "No.1 Scholar", and the key word was "companionship".

Professor Li Meijin once said, "A child should be with him before he is three years old, no matter what happens. If you take good care of it for decades, you can't take care of it for more than ten years. "

Indeed, children's success and self-confidence are often inseparable from the high-quality companionship of their parents.

Chen He's parents are people's teachers, and they are usually very busy at work. But they all agree that no matter how busy they are, they should spare some time to accompany their children, study, communicate and play games with them. Even after children go to high school, there is less companionship between parents and children. As long as Chen He has something, they will talk to their parents at the first time, and they will definitely take time to accompany their children to solve problems.

The companionship of parents is in exchange for the success and confidence of children.

Chen's father once wrote in this educational experience: No matter how good the soil is, if it is not molded and cultivated, it will not become fertile farmland after all.

Children's success can never be separated from their parents' company.

Parental companionship is the best nutrient for children's growth and the best "shortcut" for children's success.

Professor Carol Dwek of Stanford University once said: "In the future growth, the most important ability of children is growth thinking."

On the road of children's growth, there will always be thorns and stumbling blocks, and there will be various tests. Whether the child can finally break through and win is actually the competition of parents for the cost of companionship.

The protagonist of investment is parents; The object of competition is children; The chip of competition is companionship.

With the company of parents, children can be more confident and more emboldened to walk on the road of growth.

This kind of growth thinking is not innate, but more cultivated and given by parents.

In fact, it is not the importance of companionship itself, but the process of parents accompanying their children, so that children's perception of love can be improved to varying degrees, and at the same time they can gain confidence and success.

Psychologist Wu Zhihong once said, "Love and companionship are far more important than education. Harmonious and intimate parent-child relationship is definitely the cornerstone of children's personality. "

No matter how busy you are, parents should not forget to accompany their children and try not to be absent during their growth.

Because real education is: it begins with companionship and ends with education.

From companionship, let children fully perceive the love of their parents.

Finally, education will help children gain more confidence and happiness.

Education for children is not only material satisfaction, but also the transmission of positive energy to children.

Excellence is the hope of parents for their children. Every excellent child can't live without the high-quality companionship of his parents.

The child's future can be expected, and parents should accompany them with their hearts and harvest them.

Parents, let's cheer together!