As a man, self-cultivation needs generosity. With generosity, the heart will be wide, the heart will be wide, and the road will be wider and wider. If you are a man, if you are narrow-minded, care about others everywhere, be serious with others everywhere, or even walk into a dead end, then this road will get narrower and narrower, and there is no way out.
In real life, some men are always furious when they play the big man's temper at home. From family to work to society, they are also willful, and will not talk well with others, nor will they get along well with others. And some men have learned to restrain themselves, pay attention to self-cultivation, be kind and polite to others, and give people a good impression of humility and courtesy from family and society.
Once upon a time, there was an old friend. Although he didn't read much, he got a few words from his life experience, which is quite reasonable. He said: "A gentleman has the ability and no temper; Middle-class people have the ability and temper; The last person has no ability and a big temper. " This may be a wise saying.
Being a man, especially a man, should be a mature and successful man, generous, cultured and tolerant. It is important to pay attention to self-cultivation and control your temper.
To cultivate one's mind and cultivate one's nature, one must first Xiu De; Self-cultivation, first of all, we must control our anger. As the saying goes, "endure a calm moment and take a step back." A man, whether in society or at home, if he can be generous and patient, he can naturally stay away from right and wrong and live in harmony with others and his family, and he will be happy, carefree and happy.
There is a cloud in The Analects of Confucius Wei Linggong: "If you can't bear it, you will make great plans"; Sima Qian said in Historical Records: "A little unbearable, but it hurts the righteousness"; There is also a folk saying that "forbearance can give birth to a hundred blessings and a thousand blessings". "Nothing is difficult in the world, and nothing is impossible to a willing mind." These are all wise sayings that teach people to control their emotions and pay attention to self-cultivation.
The Song of Endurance written by Zhang Gongyi in the Tang Dynasty said: "The benevolent can endure what others can't endure, and the wise can endure what others can't endure. Think carefully before you put up with it, and pretend to be deaf before you put up with it. The word forbearance can be used all over the world, and forbearance can be adjacent. Endure indifference to nourish the soul, and endure hunger and cold to stand up. Endure hard work, endure debauchery, and have no illness. " This song of forbearance tells the ways and methods of forbearance, and the benefits that forbearance can bring to people's cultivation.
Lin Zexu, a famous minister in the late Qing Dynasty, once wiped out opium in Humen and served as the governor of Guangdong and Guangxi. He hung the words "control anger" in his lobby, telling himself not to lose his temper. Once, when he was dealing with official business in the lobby, he couldn't control his emotions for a while. In a rage, he dropped a teacup on the ground and it smashed to pieces. After he dropped the teacup, he looked up and saw the word "anger control" in his lobby, and he realized that his old habit had been broken again, so he immediately refused to let the servant clean it and cleaned the broken teacup himself to show his regret.
A man, whether at home or in society, if he doesn't have a certain degree of generosity, pays no attention to self-cultivation, doesn't control his temper and temper, doesn't distinguish right from wrong when he gets along with others, and often loses his temper and fights with others when he doesn't talk, then this is not only a sign of lack of self-restraint, but also an immature performance, which is harmful to people.
If a man is always too angry, then he should learn from Lin Zexu. He should have self-knowledge, consciously strengthen his self-cultivation, pay attention to "controlling anger", calm himself down, convince others by reasoning, and don't always indulge himself. He shouldn't always let the nameless fire in his heart hurt others, hurt his body and hurt his image in the eyes of others.
Sometimes, there may be a reason why people can't control their temper for a while. However, in this life, who can do things smoothly? Who can not encounter things that make them feel unhappy and angry? Then if this happens, you must learn to look at the problem from another angle: the person who hurts you has honed your mind; People who trip you enhance your ability; Those who cheat you increase your wisdom; Those who scold you teach you patience.
With such a good attitude and a different way of thinking, maybe the sad things will disappear. Therefore, when something happens and you are frustrated, as a man, you should be resilient. If you can endure the humiliation of your legs like Han Xin, learn to be patient and bear it. After bearing all the humiliations you have encountered one by one, you can use it as a powerful motivation, so that you can make yourself stronger. At that time, I may feel more gratified when I recall my original humiliation. You may treat the humiliation of your legs like Han Xin, and return good for evil to those who insult you.
From this point of view, a mature man, a man who wants family harmony or success, should relax his heart at any time, learn to control his emotions and cultivate his temperament, no matter what happens, which may help him to tide over those difficulties.
In this life, the key road is often only a few steps. When you need to turn or divert, if you are relieved, in a good mood and get along well with others, maybe the road will be wider, and you will be able to experience all kinds of hardships, succeed and reach your ideal happiness.