At this time, how to get along with children has become an important topic.

As an old man, the happiness in his later years has a great relationship with the way his children get along. Smart old people have long understood these two words-let go.

Parents and children should learn to quit gracefully after all.

Learning to let go, quit children's life, let children make their own decisions and live their own lives is a compulsory course for parents.

I have to admit that when people are old, the highest level of getting along with children is to let go.

Protect children like flowers in a greenhouse, help them make decisions in everything, and never learn to let go, then your children will never grow up and live under your wings forever.

When you are too old to protect and help children, you may find that children have lost their ability to survive and strive for progress in this society as early as their own over-protection. ...

As the old saying goes, parents' love for their children is far-reaching.

The best fulfillment for children is not to check everything, but to let them go when they are young, let them learn to make their own decisions, learn to be responsible for themselves, and let them pursue the life they want when they grow up.

Learn not to let go and don't believe that your children can be great themselves, so for children, the love of parents is undoubtedly like a bird cage, which is a kind of imprisonment.

On the contrary, parents know how to let go and let their children find their own way after stumbling, rush out of their own world, and find their own value and sense of accomplishment on the road of exploration and growth.

For children, parents' letting go is the best fulfillment.

An old man in his fifties said that his two sons and daughters-in-law were reluctant to bring their children to him when he was doing small business.

Then he was also very open-minded, but he ended up at leisure. He said that his son and daughter-in-law are still very filial, and it is enough to bring his grandson back to him during the Spring Festival.

I have to say that compared with those old people who like to complain whether this is true or not, this old man is very clever and wise.

Never think that your children can't live without you. On the contrary, if they don't participate too much in their children's lives, help them when they need it, and quit gracefully when they don't. That's the biggest gift for myself.

When you reach a certain age, you should stop thinking about children. You should think more about yourself, set aside more time to please yourself, spend your energy on hobbies, things that can make you happy, making soup for your health, exercising and taking care of yourself.

Learning to let go of children is not only a kind of support for children, but also a gift for yourself. Two generations live their own lives, but the relationship is more harmonious and comfortable.

People will get old one day, and we can't stay with our children forever. After all, let children learn to face the storms of life and live their own lives.

Some old people are used to their parents, but they still like to take care of their children when they are old. Once they don't meet their expectations, they will talk endlessly. In fact, this is thankless, and if it is serious, it may arouse contradictions between the two generations.

When children grow up, it is best not to live together, but to live as close as possible. If you miss them, you can visit them more, but it is best not to live for a long time.

The so-called distance produces beauty, which makes sense. There is always a little friction under the same roof.

Old people should not interfere too much in the decision-making of small families and the contradictions between children and husband and wife. If the child asks, he will help to give advice, but it is up to the child to decide what to do.

Don't ask your child to do what he thinks, because it's not you who takes responsibility, and the child will have his own judgment.

When it comes to bringing up grandchildren, don't go against your daughter-in-law or pretend to be "experienced". The difference between the two generations is decades, and it is impossible without a generation gap. Only by turning a blind eye, ignoring it and being more tolerant can a family make money harmoniously.

We have given enough space for two generations in terms of living space and emotions, big and small issues, but interfering with children's lives is the best way for parents to "let go".

When you are old, you should be willing to spend money for yourself. You can spend money appropriately to travel and do what you want.

Lin Zexu once said: "If children and grandchildren are like me, what do they do with money? If they are wise and have read money, they will lose their ambition;" My children and grandchildren are not as good as me. What do you do with money? Being stupid and rich will benefit you. "

It means: if the descendants are like me, there is no need to leave him money, so as not to kill his fighting spirit; If future generations are mediocre, it is even more unnecessary to leave him money, so as not to aggravate his mistakes.

The best love for a child is not how much wealth he leaves and how much money he saves when he grows up, but the good habits and good character he has been taught and urged all the way.

Those are the foundations of his foothold in this society.

Otherwise, if the child is excellent, you don't need your money; No matter how much money you give him, he will lose everything.

As the saying goes, far-sighted parents are willing to be "cruel" to their children, let them earn money by their own labor, let them know that life is not easy, and thus know how to work hard and cherish.

Don't think about those parents in China who have been working hard for their children all their lives. Their first half of life is enough, and the rest of the road has to be left to the children themselves. Learning to let go and love them in another way is a better choice for yourself and your children.

A letter written by a father to his soon-to-be-born child once became a hit on the Internet.

Father said:

In real life, isn't this what Qian Qian's parents want?

In this life, we have paid a lot for our families and children, and what we expect most is nothing more than "health" and "reunion".

Children and grandchildren have their own blessings, so don't expect too much. Relax and let go, the child will surprise you when he grows up.

This article is very reasonable. I suggest you send it to all middle-aged and old friends around you!

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