Although married into a rich family, it is insulated from happiness. Marrying into a rich family is a marriage envied by many women, but superior material life does not mean that marriage must be happy, because marriage life is not as beautiful as fairy tales. Although married into a rich family, it is insulated from happiness.

Although married into a rich family, it has been insulated from happiness since then. A superior material life, a good husband without temper, and a mother-in-law who pays more than her efforts sound good, but I am not happy. ...

Come to the door and tell me to back off.

I never wanted to climb anyone. My job is enough for me to support myself, but my husband's family background is much more prominent than mine. If he hadn't been single, I would have hesitated.

My mother is a farmer, and my father became a worker after land acquisition. I didn't go to college, and my job as a makeup artist is to learn while working. I like my job, and I feel a sense of accomplishment when I look at the ordinary girl dressed as a beautiful bride in the mirror.

The first time I realized that my job was nothing, it was when I went to their home to be a prospective wife. I will always remember that day.

That day, I deliberately wore a suit to look solemn, put on a delicate light makeup and bought a beautiful bottle of perfume lily at the flower market.

As soon as I entered their door, I couldn't help but freeze. This room is very big. Traditional calligraphy and painting are hung in the hall, not ordinary decorative paintings. A middle-aged woman is playing the piano.

It was a capable woman who opened the door for me. I thought they were relatives of their family. I didn't expect her to look imposing. She turned out to be a nanny. Nanny's eyes are sharp, as if she can see through me.

The middle-aged woman who later became my mother-in-law stood up and greeted me gently. My job is often in contact with people, and I can see people's expression language. Her expression clearly told me that she was deliberately keeping her distance from me.

My sister-in-law startled me as soon as she appeared. She followed me in and walked in as if she didn't see me. She said to her mother, "I don't know who bought that vulgar perfume lily."

The smell in the elevator is bad. "I stood there holding the bouquet of lily perfume, not knowing how to react. When all this happened, my boyfriend's current husband, Jiang Mumu, was not here. He went to buy a cake.

My mother-in-law invited me to English afternoon tea, and my son bought her sushi cake, which was very pure. In this way, I fell into a room full of strangers.

Sitting awkwardly on the sofa, my mother-in-law sat opposite me. She didn't ask about my family background, but I can see from her greetings that she knows me like the back of her hand.

I felt a little stage fright after my first visit. Although Jiang Mumu is very kind to me, I feel that there is a gap between me and his family. It seems that even their nanny thinks,

I took a fancy to Jiang Mumu, because their family is rich. In fact, before agreeing to Jiang Mumu's proposal, I always thought that he was an ordinary civil servant.

We met through a friend of a friend, but didn't tell me that he has a father who runs a company abroad and has relatives in several countries. I met him, just a man with a salary of several thousand yuan, dressed in ordinary clothes and shy, which gave me a very practical and real feeling.

When it comes to appearance, Jiang Mumu is not outstanding. In the crowd, his figure still seems a little heavy. He doesn't spend much money. When we are in love, we just watch movies and eat in a small shop. Nothing special. He is a man who doesn't give people pressure, so our relationship is very smooth.

I introduced my family, and he didn't say anything. He didn't mention his family, and I didn't ask. After accepting his proposal, I realized that the gap between us was so great.

Mother-in-law's face at the wedding reception

I was a little timid when I met his mother. I told Jiang Mumu that we might not be suitable. He was anxious and came to me again and again, which showed that he was just him and his family would not affect our lives.

What moved me was that he took me to see our future wedding room. This is a mid-range residential area with two bedrooms and one living room less than 90 square meters. The decoration is neat and generous, and there is the warmth of home at a glance.

He said, this is our home. If you like, we will move in. If there is something that scares you here, I will take it away. He is really a thoughtful man, and I can't refuse.

When preparing for the wedding, two adults met, and his mother set the meeting place in a high-class club. Parents walked into such a place for the first time.

I saw the embarrassment when I first entered the door from them. His mother is still gentle, saying that she respects my parents' opinions, and Jiang Mumu is the eldest son and grandson of their family, and overseas relatives will also come, and all the money for the wedding banquet will be paid by them, which is perfect.

As soon as she spoke English, the atmosphere became stiff. After sitting for a while, my parents said, "Whatever." The wedding reception was really chaotic.

Our relatives wear everything. Western-style buffet, red wine and small bands are not the scenes they are used to. Their relatives all wear formal dresses. When they meet, they hug and speak English. Our relatives watched with interest.

At the wedding reception, her mother-in-law greeted her relatives with a big smile. My relatives are also very excited to talk. They used to make a lot of noise, and five or six children ran around.

There will always be some trouble. My mother-in-law came up to me and said calmly but sternly, "What's the matter? Do you know how embarrassed I am?" This is the first time I've seen her wipe her face. It's chilly.

In a blink of an eye, she smiled and greeted the guests with restraint. I looked at Jiang Mumu, and he obviously heard his mother's words and whispered to me, "She loves face, so don't pay attention to her." Yes, my own wedding, of course, I can't ruin my mood alone.

It's not my fault that some relatives talk loudly, although it's a bit impolite. My background and family are like this, and I have never concealed it.

My sister-in-law is a capable woman. She is more like a man than her brother's shyness. She came back from studying abroad to study for a doctorate.

Being in an important position in a multinational company seems to be that I married her brother, which has nothing to do with her. When she saw me, she didn't call my name, she just called me "ah". She is nearly forty, unmarried and lives with her parents.

Once, I was sitting alone in the living room. She looked at me and asked me rudely, "Which school did you graduate from?" I don't know, she added, "You should pay attention to further study in this kind of work, and you must travel in places like France and Italy."

Otherwise, it is easy to be eliminated. "Then turned and answered her phone. I don't know how the same parents can give birth to two completely different children.

When I got married, Jiang Mumu's father came back once, and he hardly talked to me. Jiang Mumu saw him, but he couldn't even speak. Jiang Mumu told me that he grew up with average grades, nothing like his sister, and he was not interested in family business. His parents took good care of him and had high expectations, but he let them down again and again.

He said: "I just want a simple and warm family life. In a sense, you are my savior. " However, for Jiang Mumu, parents are irresistible orders.

After I got married, I didn't intend to have children in a hurry, but my mother-in-law called me home alone. She said, "You are the best child-bearing age now. You don't have to worry about financial problems after giving birth. I will fully support you.

After pregnancy, if you lose your job, I will ask my father to pay you according to the standard of a normal clerk. Our family will be responsible for everyone. "Although what she said should be well-intentioned, this way of speaking seems that I am her nanny and my responsibility is to have children.

I think Jiang Mumu must have been called back by her mother-in-law. She started talking to me about children, and I didn't resist having children. It wasn't long before I got pregnant.

My mother-in-law was very angry that I didn't resign after I got pregnant. She thinks I'm irresponsible to my children. But there are many pregnant women working, and my work is not dangerous at all.

I didn't use the nanny she arranged, so I left my mother to take care of me. A series of problems brought by the newborn made my anger more and more serious.

Jiang Mumu is a good man, but he knows nothing about housework. At night, the child cries and snores by himself. I told him to get up and nurse the baby,

He picked up the bottle in the refrigerator and put it in the child's mouth; When the child was taking a bath, he ran away and asked him to get a bath towel and prickly heat powder, but he never got it right. I complained to him, and he said, "Let's find a nanny."

With children and a lot of housework, Jiang Mumu can't do anything. He is actually quite idle at work, but he can't help at all. When I stay at home, when I am busy,

Can you not be angry when you see him sitting there watching TV? Ask him for help, and he will either bump into something, or help me more and more, or break me down. My mother went back after the confinement.

I didn't go to work. I take care of the children wholeheartedly at home. Besides, I have to buy food, cook and clean up the housework. Jiang Mumu doesn't do any housework, but his only advantage is that he has a good temper and won't get angry even if he is scolded.

Now, the child has been 8 months old, and I find that my mood has become very unstable, and I get angry easily and cry easily. My mother-in-law didn't come to see us, but she often called Jiang Mumu and asked him to take the children there.

Two days ago, Jiang Mumu told me that my mother-in-law was going to give us a car so that we could walk on both sides. I'm angry again. I don't know why, but I feel like one of their employees.

Taking care of Jiang Mumu, an old child who may never grow up, a superior material life, a good husband who has no temper, and a mother-in-law who has paid more than her efforts, sounds good, but I feel farther and farther away from happiness.

I began to use my physical reaction as an excuse not to go to their house. When I was five months pregnant, my mother-in-law came to our house for dinner for the first time. I cooked a good table, and she hardly ate it. When she left, she left 30 thousand yuan, saying it was for my living expenses.

I asked Jiang Mumu to pay her back, but Jiang Mumu put the money into my credit card. Of course, other people's grandmothers will prepare some material gifts for their grandchildren, but it really makes me uncomfortable to come here so cold and leave without money. I don't hate money, but I always have some self-esteem

Although she is a makeup artist, Simin doesn't wear makeup. Her face is slightly black and yellow, and she looks very haggard. She said that all women please themselves, and now I'm not in the mood.

After giving money, the whole family seems to be at ease. His sister never called to say hello, while his parents went to Hong Kong.

When I entered the due date, their phone number increased, not mine, but Jiang Mumu's. His mother's birthday is coming. She is busy with a party. Jiang Mumu is often sent by them. I live in an expensive VIP delivery room.

I have read about this kind of VIP room with tens of thousands of dollars to give birth to a child in the newspaper. I'd rather live in an ordinary delivery room and communicate with other parturients. I can be brave, too However, as early as my physical examination found that I was pregnant, my mother-in-law arranged everything, and I could only obey.

Living in a VIP delivery room, the environment is really good, but it's boring. Sometimes Jiang Mumu doesn't come for a day. I called him and asked him that he had been with his parents, preparing for his mother's birthday.

Our son is also very interesting. After waiting for several days, he was born on his mother-in-law's birthday. Having a baby for the first time, who can not be afraid? My mother was supposed to come, but suddenly she caught a cold and had a fever. My mother-in-law thought it would be contagious and politely refused to let her come.

Lying in a luxurious and deserted ward, I suddenly hate Jiang Mumu. Maybe my wife is not as important as my mother, but isn't the birth of a child better than an ordinary birthday party?

I called my mother. My mother heard that I was going to have a baby alone, and she was so anxious that she comforted me one after another. Listening to her simple words, I couldn't help crying.

Although Jiang Mumu left the birthday party in a hurry, I was exhausted when he arrived. The baby was difficult to give birth, and I tried to give birth naturally, but I failed.

After caesarean section, frugal parents came by car from the suburbs. They saw the birth of their grandson, and their mother-in-law didn't appear in the hospital until the next day.

She planted a beautiful flower, and the nanny at home followed her politely. She stood beside my bed like a friend and then went to see her grandson in the incubator.

Although married into a rich family, it is insulated from happiness. 2 being questioned by the blind date to drive a luxury car and refusing to develop with me.

Is money good or bad for women?

Letters from readers:

These two months, I stepped up the pace of blind date. Actually, I'm only 26 years old, so I don't have to worry at all. But my parents in my hometown were anxious and ordered me to bring a boyfriend home this Spring Festival.

The third time, I finally have a man who is interested in it. His family conditions are similar to mine, at least I won't climb him. His job, like mine, is marketing. He is also humorous and tall. It just suits my eyes anyway. Going out should be the right thing.

When we met, we had a good talk. We ate a meal for two hours and finally sat in a nearby coffee shop and made an appointment to meet again next time. When I left, I found that he didn't have a car and offered to send him back. When he saw me driving out of the garage,

Look at me straight and ask me, "Is this your car?" I said yes. It's incredible that he still looks like that after getting on the bus. He said, "This car is worth a suite for me. Is it yours or a friend's? " I said mine, and he asked if my parents bought it.

I said that my parents are ordinary people all their lives and won't buy such an expensive car. I know he's wondering where this car came from. I'll tell you the truth. Last year, I signed a big bill of 2 million for the company and got a reward from the company. He said, "Is there such a generous company?" It seems that he doesn't believe it at all.

It was a good blind date, but it was a bit awkward in the end. Moreover, he also closed the second meeting he made later, and he never contacted me again.

I am so angry! We met through a member center in Changsha and got married there. I called my customer service and she said that the man didn't want to develop with me. The customer service also said that the man suspected me, either because he was a liar or because he had done something improper before. My lungs are bursting with anger! What did I lie to him about?

At this time, the customer service advised me: Don't drive your Mercedes-Benz in the future, it's so eye-catching, and it's really doubtful that a woman driving a luxury car will go on a blind date!

I just want to ask, what kind of divine logic is this? I'm in a hurry. Why? I deserve it!

Ge Yu replied:

Is money positive or negative in a woman's mate selection?

Obviously, money is an absolute plus factor for men, especially in choosing a spouse. However, money is not necessarily for women.

In terms of initiative, the richer a woman is, the lower her motivation to get married.

Women who have a house and a car, especially those who can repair toilets and install light bulbs, find that they really don't need men except beds. Of course, sex toys can also be used in bed now.

Once a woman has money, she will narrow down the scope of mate selection and scare away some men who are weaker than you. Therefore, from the scope and breadth of choice, money is definitely reduced.

I wrote in the novel Foreplay: When you have your own house and car, you will find that you don't need men more and more.

At the same time, we will find that rich women are not very popular emotionally. Why?

The answer is: women are too rich, which makes men feel inferior, makes them feel psychological pressure, and makes them lose the innate "masculinity" of men.

Chen Lihua, the rich woman, and Zhong Rui Chi, the Tang Priest, had a good life, didn't they? Well, Chen Lihua is rich enough, and Tang Priest lives happily like this. But more reality is that men feel inferior in front of rich women, and after their self-esteem is damaged, they eventually divorce.

Yes, men have high self-esteem. I care about face most. For men, face is a man's chastity.

The woman drives a Mercedes to go on a blind date, and the blind date man doesn't have a car. This is definitely a problem. But if the blind date guy drives a Ferrari or a Bentley, that's fine.

The poor usually feel inferior, have self-esteem and are extremely sensitive in front of the rich. Traditionally, women are weak. Once women become richer than men, men will feel great oppression.

What does a person use to prove himself? Ability to make money, sexual ability.

The combination of men and women in the traditional sense means that women look up and men look down. When women look up, there are fewer and fewer men at the top of the pyramid. When men look down, there are many women at the bottom of the pyramid.

Women have to worship to be happy. Men feel a sense of accomplishment because they are worshipped.

Therefore, a man who is not very rich will lose the feeling of being worshipped and the innate sense of superiority in front of a rich woman.

This goes back to what our elders often say, "Suit each other", because it means the same living habits, values and consumption concepts.

If you have money, it costs10000 to buy a bag and 2000 to open a SPA. Go to the Vatican to feed pigeons and make a fool of themselves. People born in poverty will think you are extravagant, show off your wealth and even boring. This is a question of values. All Cinderella married into a rich family and all men in gray will face such problems.

Of course, after all, this is a material society and a society with great pressure. When a woman is rich, she doesn't lose points when choosing a spouse, but she also scores points. Why? Because men nowadays are also very realistic.

A good friend of mine, born in 1980, took a son after divorce and is still very popular. Men are chasing after him to marry him, but she is not in a hurry because her son has one. She said: "Now men are also very realistic, it depends on the conditions of women." Well, she is gentle and virtuous. The point is that she has money and a career. This is a man's treasure, a strong and gentle woman.

So, what should a rich woman do? She can't turn herself into a poor woman and go back to before liberation.

First, keep a low profile even if you have money.

These days, men are also under great pressure, depending on women's economic ability. Don't show your trump card yet If a woman wants to have love, money can only be a bonus. If you put pressure on the other side, it can only be a topic of reducing points.

Second, try not to find a man weaker than yourself.

There is nothing wrong with women being rich and excellent. But if you stand in front of a man who is weaker than you, a man who is not confident enough to make progress, you don't have to do anything, even if you are gentle and kind, but what you have is wrong for this man.

Yes, self-esteem, well, we all praise self-esteem. In novels or movies, those poor Cinderella are always praised and proud.

His self-esteem is always hurt, just like Tao Yuanming's "Don't bend your back for a bucket of rice". But this, if put in real life, is easy to get hurt. How tired you are.

Both sides are exhausted. Because you can't concentrate, you must be careful what you say and do. In the end, contradictions will definitely break out, ending in parting ways, and finally leaving a sentence: I've had enough!

A friend of mine, a director of a TV station, has three houses in Beijing. At the age of 30, he was in a hurry to get married. At that time, he just got pregnant and married a man who worked in a company.

After marriage, the child was born, but various practical problems came out. The man is not capable of doing things in his career, and then she gives all directions. Finally, the man became more and more inferior and had to conquer her in bed until she was a little abnormal. Finally, she was afraid to sleep with him. It ended in divorce.

Third, find a man who grew up with you.

Maybe he is not as good as you at first, but he is definitely a blue chip, which can fulfill each other and grow together. However, the risk of this kind of cooperation is that after the other party's wings are hard, they will dump you.

It's equivalent to making wedding clothes for others. So I advocate that * * * grow together and fulfill each other, not that you sacrifice yourself to fulfill it. The latter is too expensive and risky.

At the beginning, Hong Tao married Xú Zhēng, who was not as famous as Hong Tao. Now Xú Zhēng is a hot director. Think at the beginning, when Ma Yili married the article, he was still a fledgling teenager, and now the article is already a hot actor.

Being rich is both positive and negative for a woman, depending on what kind of man you meet.

Instead of falling in love with a man weaker than you, it is better to be single proudly, and it is better to compete with many other sisters for Gao Fushuai.