I was kicked out by my son! A few days ago, 58-year-old Lao Wang suddenly said this to me.
I asked him why, and Lao Wang said he was ill. In recent months, he has been coughing, and his daughter-in-law is afraid that he will infect his children. Then he asked his son to kick him out and move back to the old house.
Lao Wang said that he went to the hospital alone because of chest pain. There is something wrong with the lung, and there is a treatment plan, but I can't afford 30 thousand yuan. Because of this, Lao Wang found his son and wanted to use this 30 thousand yuan to treat his son.
At first, the son promised him, but within an hour, the son told Lao Wang that the 30 thousand yuan could not be borrowed because his wife was in charge. The daughter-in-law also said that the family couldn't afford the 30 thousand yuan, because the children needed money to study and the living expenses at home were relatively rich, so Lao Wang asked others to borrow money. Moreover, the daughter-in-law also said to Lao Wang: "Lao Wang must have left the pension money for so many years, so don't let Lao Wang drag them down."
Hearing these words from his son and daughter-in-law, Lao Wang's heart suddenly cooled, and he was disappointed with his son's choice. Because his wife left early, he raised his son alone. Because he is afraid of his son's lack of maternal love, Lao Wang loves his son very much, so long as his son's requirements are met. Lao Wang took out all the savings in the wedding room when his son got married, so Lao Wang can't take out the 30 thousand yuan at all now.
It was also at that moment that Lao Wang was really desperate. People used to say "raising children to prevent old age", but now Lao Wang realizes that raising children does not necessarily prevent old age. It was also at this moment that Lao Wang regretted it. If he hadn't given all his money to his son to buy a house, he might not have asked for his son, nor would he have felt his rudeness, and naturally he wouldn't be heartbroken and disappointed.
Later, Lao Wang still received the treatment fee, which was lent to him by Lao Wang's old friend. An old friend told Lao Wang that he had asked you to scrimp and save, leaving a way out for yourself, but you just wouldn't listen. Now you finally know that you regret it!
After that, Lao Wang asked me, "Do men really have to leave a way out for themselves to be happy in their later years?"
Bian Xiao has something to say:
In fact, I very much agree with my friend Lao Wang. The only people who are really reliable in their later years are themselves, even children, and sometimes they are not reliable, because they also have their own families, their own concerns and difficulties.
Therefore, I often warn the men around me: after 50 years old, I should leave myself a "retreat" just in case! And this "retreat" is to save money for yourself immediately.
Because after 50 years old, men's physical functions are declining in all aspects, and they are about to face the pressure of retirement, so saving money has become their biggest thing. Because you are older, you are naturally more likely to get sick, and it costs money to see a doctor and treat a disease.
And at this time, most people's children have grown up, and even many of them are married, so you don't need to worry about it at all. They are in their prime and you are old, so at this time, what you need to worry about most is yourself, not your children.
Another advantage of saving money is that you can choose the life you want, because money is your confidence. Even if your children don't want to take care of you, you won't be so down and out. You have the capital to live a good life.
In other words: even your children are very filial. When you are sick, they won't give up on you and will try their best to treat you, but can you really be pleased?
Because when your child gets married, he has his own family. Even if he is willing to help you, can you be sure that his other half is willing to help you? Are you really not afraid that their relationship and marriage will break down because of this?
In my opinion, in old age, the most qualified parents are not to drag their children down, so only when they are rich and self-sufficient can they really be good to their children.
So remind men: after 50 years old, you should leave yourself a "retreat"! Because only in this way can you face your procrastination more confidently without worrying about the misfortune in your later years. People have lived to this number, and it is time to think more about themselves.