Wu Yong has a high IQ, Song Jiang has a high EQ, and Wu Yong listens to Song Jiang.

Zhuge Liang has a high IQ and Liu Bei has a high EQ. Liu Bei is Zhuge Liang's boss.

Day 005. Yang Xiuzhi's death: The more capable you are, the more you have to admit it.

No matter the strong or the weak, be a man with his tail between his legs.

When it is time to bow your head, when it is time to admit cowardice, admit cowardice.

Day 008. A guide to getting along with narrow-minded bosses

Minefield 1: Never show that you are more capable than the leader. (Yang Xiu)

Minefield 2: Don't take the credit of the leader. (zhukov)

Minefield 3: Be careful what you say. (Jia Xu)

Minefield 4: Never make a decision for your boss. (Yue Fei)

There are three dangers between the monarch and his subjects:

First, I am strong and weak.

Second, Gao Zhen's works.

Third, the suspicion of the monarch and his subjects.

Day 009. Sister Bao teaches you how to easily resolve awkward conversations.

1. Silent avoidance: You can ignore other people's sour words, especially those with unhappy life and heavy negative energy.

2. Tacit counterattack: In public, you can appropriately counterattack and laugh at yourself. This will not be considered as a lack of ability.

3. Humor and self-mockery: lower your posture and resolve your embarrassment. Make people think you're joking.

Day0 10。 How to solve blx in the Monkey King?

1. Be patient, persuasive and forgive mistakes.

2. Trust, recognition and encouragement.

3. Good team, accompany each other.

Day0 14。 Helping others is perfect.

1. When you help, don't put on airs, don't run errands, give opportunities.

2. Don't condescend and protect others' self-esteem.

Don't pay the bill, don't always feel that people owe you.

4. Try to be perfect. (I think it should vary from person to person)

Day0 15。 Make a good plan for the middle-aged crisis.

1. Don't enter the comfort zone too early and enjoy the comfort.

2. Keep learning, make career plans in advance and deal with risks.

3. Find ways to release stress and talk to friends.

4. When there is great pressure at home, create small surprises to change the irritable atmosphere at home.

Don't take life seriously, take good care of your body for healthy exercise.

Day03 1。 How to give advice before others will listen?

A little effort pays off, and a little words can't convince people.

Wrong relationship, wrong level, wrong environment, wrong object.

Day 035. You don't have to kiss up to the leader.

1. Want to be in front of the leader.

2. Consider the details for the leader

Active reporting

4. Learn to recite the pot

Day 039. Parents, let's discuss it.

1. Children are not good at discovering deep love in action, but pay attention to adults' words. Pronunciation is the most straightforward and simple.

2. Freud said: "We have been dealing with childhood all our lives, and we are all making up for the shortcomings of childhood."

3. If parents don't talk well, it may also affect children's concept of mate selection.

4. If a child has emotional loss and trauma in childhood, when he grows up, he will be in a state of "hunger" for love, lacking discrimination, and only thinking about his only need and appeal: filling the inner hole.

5. strict father is not necessarily a dutiful son, and Yan Shi is not necessarily a disciple. If you refuse to have a good talk with your children, things will get worse as time goes by.

6. The attitude can be firm, but the mood should be calm and the tone should be euphemistic.

7. Give the same sentence to children, 10% is language, 35% is expression, and 55% is emotion. Different emotional states of parents have different effects.

Day 043. The less skills, the more face you have.

Reason:

1. obsessive-compulsive disorder. The greater the self-esteem, the smaller the ego. )

2. The narcissism complex is serious. (mourn its misfortune, anger its indisputable. )

Way out:

1. Learn to laugh at yourself.

2. cheeky.

3. Buy dignity with real skills.

Learn to be pessimistic in the face of failure

1. Have a positive attitude, work hard and do it seriously, in case you succeed!

2. Be prepared for failure. The so-called: Therefore, the sky will fall on the Sri Lankan people, and they must first suffer from their hearts, work hard on their bones and muscles, starve their bodies, empty their bodies, and mess with their actions, so they must be patient and get what they can't.

3. If you fail in the opposite direction, you can't become faceless and skinless. It doesn't matter. We must learn from our failures, sum up our experience and strive to lay a good foundation for the next time.

Summary: The loser wins.

Day 048. Borrowing is more reliable than trying.

Borrowing is not only a kind of ability, but also a kind of courage and wisdom.

Dare to borrow, learn to borrow, learn to borrow, and be good at borrowing. Lend a new world!

Benefits of borrowing:

1. Leverage enables you to achieve the desired results quickly.

2. Leverage can reduce a lot of unnecessary resistance.

Leverage to help you solve your urgent needs in the shortest time.

How to borrow it?

1. Know what your purpose or goal is;

2. Clarify the boundaries of your current capabilities and resources;

3. In the face of the problem, you must first make the necessary efforts, but after the efforts, the problem is still unresolved, and it is impossible to solve it by your own ability;

4. Find out who you should ask for help, and try to make the person who asks for help willing to borrow money.

Day 050. Don't get along with friends

1. Don't contact frequently. Friends are not exclusive to individuals and cannot be on call;

2. Don't say anything. A friend is not a safe and has no obligation of confidentiality;

Don't attach too much importance to mutual affection. Friends are not your placebo, nor can they always help you find psychological balance.

Day05 1。 Make a good impression.

First, you should show others a confident and energetic face.

Second, you should have a sense of time.

Third, you should behave appropriately.

Fourth, smile at the first meeting, don't flatter, don't please.

Day 053. Small-minded people have great wisdom.

First of all, narrow-minded people are very sensitive. Secondly, they think a lot, are easy to calculate, and are easy to walk into a dead end.

Narrow-minded people should face the reality and don't pretend to be generous.

It is not a bad thing to be narrow-minded, but it is a great advantage to transfer this sensitivity from people to things.

Day 054. Comfort is also a technical job.

1. Confirm whether the other party needs comfort.

Step 2 distinguish between comfort and help

3. Same reason, same reason, same reason

4. Taboo of comfort (don't say "I understand your feelings" easily; Don't compare people with others; Don't go along at will; Don't intensify contradictions; )

Day 055. How to extinguish the anger in your heart?

1. Calm down. When a conflict occurs, the most important thing is to keep calm.

2. Find out the problem and try to point out the crux of the problem.

3. empathy.

4. Request a time-out.

5. Look ahead.

Day 057. Be misunderstood. Calm down.

First, it is not true, and it is not the same thing as being misunderstood.

Second, don't be impulsive.

Day 059. You can't just open your mouth when praising others.

1. Praise people can't be without sincerity, but should fall into specific individuals and nuances.

2. Praise people should consider whether it is in line with the mood of the person being praised, not from their own point of view.

Day 066. What kind of leaders are welcome at lower levels?

1. Only when you have strong ability can you command your subordinates (you have the overall situation and professionalism, and you can solve problems)

2. Trust your employees (trust your employees, see the results, and pay as little attention to the process as possible)

3. Give a reward (nothing can't be solved by salary)

Day 068. Be a leader who can swear.

1. Compared with leaders who never criticize others, leaders who criticize others often give employees a greater sense of motivation when praising and encouraging them.

Their praise will be more precious and effective in the hearts of employees. This is the so-called "gap goodwill".

2. Criticism can make subordinates have a greater sense of identity and enthusiasm for this job.

In other words, you encourage him to be positive; If you don't encourage him, he may become less active.

Therefore, it is necessary to criticize subordinates. However, the severity and frequency of criticism must be measured.

You can't let your temper dominate you as a leader. You can criticize whatever you want. Subordinates have to listen. The consequences are: light can not touch the soul, but heavy is easy to produce resistance; Subordinates who don't lose their temper can't remember, and those who lose their temper think that the leader is just venting.

How should leaders criticize their subordinates? Major critics need to pay attention to the following three principles:

First, blame others first.

Second, the punishment should be clear.

Third, speaking out of turn is heavy, and emphasizing words is light.

It's not a good thing that life is too smooth.

1. Happiness and misfortune depend on each other, and we must have a correct judgment of values.

2. Know yourself clearly and keep a good sense of self, walking on thin ice.

3. Learn to control your emotions, keep a low profile and keep a modest attitude. Restrain behavior and improve emotional intelligence.

4. Actively jump out of the comfort zone in good times; Stay optimistic and positive in adversity.

Day 073. Why do people always make you angry?

Is an angry person a natural character? number

Character is a way of thinking. There is something wrong with personality, but there is something wrong with the way of thinking.

Angry people all have a common feature, that is, excessive self-awareness. Simply put, they always think they are the center of things.

How to control the angry mood?

1. Don't have too much self-awareness and don't think that you are the center of things.

Don't change others, and don't let others do things according to their own wishes.

Only you can really change. When you encounter an uncomfortable situation, you should first think about changing yourself.

The most effective way to change yourself is to change the environment.

Day 074. How to control competent Tatar subordinates?

What are the typical characteristics of competent Tatar subordinates?

1. Overconfidence.

2. Impulse.

So how to control it?

1. Find a good partner.

2. Establish a good opponent, the so-called way of checks and balances.

3. If you really can't get rid of the help of the Tatars, you can only make concessions and secretly train your own staff and employees who can replace the Tatars.

Do not eat thorns, for the sake of the overall situation, can only be completely eradicated.

Day 075. Don't let good intentions do bad things.

A 1。 If you want to help others, you should consider it from others' perspective. If this favor can help and we are willing to help, then try our best to help them sincerely.

A2。 Refuse if you can't help! Don't think too much.

A3。 I think it's better to offer less help. After all, your kindness may not be his will.

B 1。 Don't talk too much.

B2。 Don't judge others at will.

B3。 Don't talk to everyone.

Day 076. You're not that good. Don't lie to yourself.

"Being different" is the psychology of many people. Pretending to be the protagonist of the world is often conceited by reality.

Day 077. How to face a person who has a grudge against you?

Core: be strong and improve your strength.

1. Reflect on yourself and find mistakes.

2. If the other party is wrong, judge the situation and complain directly.

3. Persuade others with virtue through one's own morality and ability.

4. Ability is better than that of Fang Fang.

Day 082. There is no shortage of three points for help.

Day 084. What should I do if I face my teammates like a pig in the workplace?

1. Stubborn fool, don't pity him.

Don't put a fool in an important position.

In the face of indecisive leadership, don't waste your wisdom and energy and resign.

Day 085. Avoid being a minor figure.

1. Hide if you can: foresight.

If you can't escape, do it well: do your best to follow the fate.

3. Keep the evidence and protect yourself.

Day 086. How to flatter correctly

Ordinary people tend to pay attention to the shortcomings of others, while ignoring the advantages and strengths of others.

Therefore, it is a rare virtue in the office to find the advantages of others and give them sincere praise.

Ceng Shiqiang said: China people should be good at flattery, not flattery.

Day 089. How to deal with informers?

1. Stay away from narrow-minded people

Keep a low profile when dealing with everyone.

Don't be a bird, be careful what you say and do in front of your colleagues.

4. Be calm in the face of high density and fight back.

Day 092. Cheating ruined my life.

Day 094. The leader gave you the impossible task.

1. Use the demolition effect to deal with leaders

refuse

3. Recommend other candidates

4. Put forward the conditions of manpower, material resources and financial resources to complete the task.

Day 095. How to cultivate small groups?

1. Be gentle and strict.

2. Leaders are capable and responsible, making others feel reliable.

3. Persuade people with emotion, emotionalize people with emotion, and bring people's hearts with war.

Day 097. Manage one's boss

1. Learn not to be afraid of authority in the workplace.

2. Learn to interact with leaders.

3. Try to understand the pain points of leaders.

099. How to provide effective care

Really effective care is to stand in each other's perspective.

Don't emphasize that you are right, make your words artistic by hinting.

Day 100。 What if my subordinates can't give me satisfactory results?

1. If it is "total", it means that the leader does not "know people and be good at their duties"

2. Explain the work clearly and ensure that the subordinates understand it clearly.

Train subordinates

Day 103。 How to be the best middle-level leader

First, we should understand what our superiors say.

Second, I will lead the team.

Third, constantly improve personal coordination and organizational skills.

Fourth, it should be used for innovation and practice.

Day 104。 How to cultivate thick skin

"Thick-skinned" and "shameless" are two completely different meanings.

To cultivate "thick skin" means to be open-minded, tolerant, far-sighted, reasonable and open-minded.

1. Not afraid of rejection, humiliation, and even dare to laugh at yourself.

2. Learn to set goals, learn to be patient and stick to it.

3. Have a good plan, take the initiative and lead others.

Li Ka-shing said: Entrepreneurs.

When you put down your face to make money, it shows that you are sensible;

When you earn back face with money, it means you have succeeded;

When you can earn money by saving face, it means that you are already alone.

Day 106。 How can I convince others?

The views we hold with each other seem to be just one view, but they are actually like a big tree with a very complicated root system. Behind a viewpoint is a group of interpersonal relationships, past history, interest pattern, values and behavior patterns. Its complexity is far beyond our imagination.

At any time and anywhere, we can't rely on debate to make people with different life experiences, even ignorant people change their minds. Doing so may become futile and even lead to conflict.

If you want to convince others, try to do two things:

1. Like an entrepreneur, you don't convince people by arguing, but by the products you create and the money you earn.

2. Like a scientist, fix your eyes on yourself, improve your perception ability, and perceive the facts around you that are not in line with your cognitive category. How do you know it must be the other person who is wrong? You should look for an opportunity to subvert yourself.

3. Like good friends and relatives, and understand each other's feelings and positions. Position is much more important than eloquence. Only when we stand in the same position can we have a heart-to-heart conversation.

Professor Ceng Shiqiang said: When I listen to you, I must first listen to whether you and I are on the same side;

If it is not my position, I will also oppose you;

If it is my position, well ~ you are my man, and what you said is wrong, I forgive you.

Day 107。 Have a good fight

There are five different levels of interpersonal communication:

1. Pure greetings: Hello, hello.

2. Share information: It's hot today.

3. Values, rationality: All men in the world are assholes.

4. Emotions and feelings: I am really tired.

5. the secret of exchange: you want to resign, you want to divorce.

Have a good fight. De San reminds:

1. A good quarrel can lead to deep communication with family members.

2. If you are afraid of quarreling and hurting others, then this kind of injury will accumulate in your heart and hurt yourself.

Sadness is more terrible than heart death.

Quarrel strategy:

A 1。 calm down

A2。 pick one's words

A3。 If you can't solve it once, come twice.

B 1。 The rack can be noisy, but the pain point can't be poked (personal attack).

B2。 Don't just take out the old accounts and review them.

B3。 Breaking up is never a good way to make the other person admit his mistake.

B4。 No cold war (passive resistance, no communication)

C 1。 Cultivate empathy (empathy)

C2。 Learn to listen (listening is an important means to solve opposing emotions).

C3。 Correct expression (words are the outlet of emotion)

Day 108。 Treat procrastination well.

First, lower the goal.

Second, refuse to be frustrated.

Third, learn to bear.

Fourth, challenge yourself (long-distance running, extreme sports)

V. Core: Cognitive Awakening

Day 109。 How to face the bullying of others in the workplace

First, establish a strong image.

Second, be strong and stick to your principles.

Third, seize the weakness of others as a counterattack.

Fourth, take a direct counterattack.

Day 1 10。 Improve your adversity quotient.

First, know yourself and believe in yourself.

Second, learn from your opponent.

Third, look for vitality in uncertainty:

1. Change with the same, and ignore the uncertainty.

2. Exchange strength for time to reduce uncertainty.

3. Cultivate insight and sense uncertainty.

4. Increase flexibility and adapt to uncertainty.

5. Look for asymmetry and eliminate uncertainty.