Recently, a word "tears incontinence constitution" has become popular on the Internet, which literally means: unable to control tears; Baidu Encyclopedia explained: Every time I quarrel with someone or feel a little excited, I can't help but want to cry. Obviously it's nothing to cry about, and I'm not too wronged. I just argued, but when my voice was high and my emotions came up, my voice slowly turned into tears. The lines were already ready, but I couldn't say them, and the momentum was gone. The whole person describes what is called cowardice in situ. When this statement came out, it caused a heated discussion. Many people thought that "it is right for me." Weibo of the Central Committee of the Communist Youth League organized a topic for everyone to talk about their experiences. Speaking of "tears incontinence constitution", I often laugh one second before crying the next.

Is "tears incontinence" a coward or a disease? This situation is about to attract attention.

Xiao Wang belongs to the customer service department in the company and often faces the appointment of consultants and the investigation of consulting effect. She is usually outgoing, steady and polite. She has a good reputation among consultants, but her colleagues call her "Wang Daiyu" because Xiao Wang often cries after returning to the consultant, and may have to receive seven or eight consultants' return visits and cry seven or eight times a day. Soon after, this crying phenomenon developed to work meetings and even colleagues. As long as colleagues raise objections to Xiao Wang's work, Xiao Wang will cry and refute.

Xiao Wang's "tears incontinence" has completely affected her work, so is "tears incontinence" a mental illness? What kind of people are prone to "tears incontinence"?

For Xiao Wang's situation, judging her "tears incontinence" is the early stage of bipolar disorder, which is one of the early manifestations of bipolar disorder. After the psychological counselor's treatment of Xiao Wang, Xiao Wang's "tears incontinence" has improved, his mood is stable, and he can basically live and work normally.

To judge whether "tears incontinence constitution" belongs to mental illness, we can consider it from the following three aspects:

First, is there a reason for this crying? If this kind of crying is caused by objective facts, and you are very clear about this emotion, and the reason for crying is in line with the logic of most people, it is not a mental illness.

Second, the extent and duration of crying. If you cry as long and as much as most people, it is not a mental illness.

Third, whether it affects social functions. If it does not affect the normal life and work of individuals, then it is not a mental illness.

Who is prone to "tears incontinence"?

From the psychological point of view, the depressive quality in people's temperament classification is closer to the "tears incontinence constitution" mentioned above.

Such people are quick-thinking, delicate-minded, imaginative, deeply emotional, unconfident, pessimistic, introverted and unsociable.

Crying is a manifestation of human physiological emotions.

According to psychological research, about half of crying is because of sadness. Of course, anger, sympathy, fear and even happiness can also make people cry.

Crying can vent emotions and release stress, which is conducive to maintaining mental health. For adults, crying is still a way of interactive communication. You can tell each other your bottom line, requirements and current psychological state by crying.

The expression of normal emotions is helpful to physical and mental health, but it is not necessarily a good thing to go too far. In fact, it is a way to change this "tears incontinence constitution".

1, don't abandon this crying trait. Accept it as a part of yourself and live in peace with it.

2. Know the reason why you cry every time, especially the deep-seated reasons. For example, because of fear, worry or anger, "tears are forbidden", and only by investigating the reasons can we find a solution.

3. Exercise your endurance for the reasons you find.

4. Learn to say or write these emotions.

In short, crying is not a crime or a disease, but it may be a disease if you are incontinent.

Psychological decompression method

Learn three things, three sentences, three kinds of fun, but not three things:

1, learn to close the door

That is, learn to close the door of yesterday and tomorrow, live today, live today.

Step 2 learn to calculate

That is, learn to calculate your happiness and what you have done right. Calculating happiness will make you happier, and calculating the right things will make you more confident in yourself.

Step 3 learn to give up

I especially recommend a very good word in Chinese, which is "willing". Remember, "giving up" comes first, and "getting" comes last. Things in the world are always won by giving up, or will be won by giving up, while "not giving up at all" or "wanting everything" will be counterproductive or accomplish nothing.