/Good at nostalgia/
Nostalgia implies people's "retrogression" psychology, which is a psychological defense mechanism. When we are faced with conflicts, the brain system will start a nostalgic mentality. Seek security through memories of the past. In old age, people realize that there is not much life left, and they feel faint panic inside, so they repeatedly recall the past time to comfort themselves and beautify themselves. It is normal to maintain a moderate nostalgia in life. For example, recalling the glorious image and achievements of our youth can inspire our enthusiasm for life, but if we always stay in yesterday, people will gradually lose confidence in life.
Face up to today
When you encounter temporary difficulties, you should dare to face them, but you can't escape. Every detail of life is trivial. As long as we can truly live today, step by step, we can build a beautiful life and stand out from the sadness of nostalgia.
Accept today
Social change is historical progress, and it is normal for social status and economic interests to be impacted. Don't be too depressed, relax and change yourself appropriately, so as to adapt to the environment flexibly.
Be kind to today.
As time goes by, so do our years. We should not bemoan the past years, but live every day well. Yesterday was an overdue check.
Cherish today.
Today is real and can be owned. Everything in the past is a reality that we cannot change. Everything in the future is like bonds that have not yet been issued. Only today can be grasped, so we must cherish today.
/Be good at adjusting your inferiority complex/
In old age, not only the various organs of the body are gradually aging, but also the ability to take care of themselves and adapt to the environment, especially the psychological endurance. For example, I am afraid to associate with people, I am timid when encountering things, and I lack fighting spirit in my life. I always use these self-hints of "I am old and dying". So, how should the elderly adjust this inferiority complex?
Be optimistic about yourself.
Optimism is the source of motivation for us to deal with things. Years of experience, tempered will and valuable life experience are the background and "nuclear power" for the optimistic, happy and happy life of the elderly, which can make us more "resilient" in the face of setbacks and difficulties.
Cultivate your mood with an open mind.
You don't know your destiny until you are 50 years old, and you will spend most of your life when you are old. I want to achieve my destiny, meet things, feelings, scenery and wealth, be open-minded and have a natural and peaceful mind; Be kind to people, be calm, be generous to people, and there will be no trouble. Open-minded personality and psychology will inevitably cultivate a calm state of mind, carefree and happy.
Enrich one's old age with a regular life
When I was young, I worked day and night for work, family and career, and my life lacked regularity. When you get into old age and return to society, you can have more time for yourself. You must not indulge yourself and make your life irregular. You can try to re-plan your life and time, gradually implement, cultivate and establish new hobbies.
/Be good at adapting to the old mentality/
"Old horse, ambitious. In the year of martyrs, go forward bravely. " In just 16 words, the meaning of the word "dissatisfied with the old" is vividly interpreted. However, time and tide wait for no one, and the internal changes of physique are not transferred by human will. Therefore, we should balance the attitude of refusing to accept the old from the following aspects:
The goal in life should be small, not big.
Although many old people say that they should not be complacent and make a difference in their later years, their life goals in their later years should not be too ambitious and their demands on themselves should not be too high. They should set goals and requirements within their abilities.
Sports power should be stored and not infiltrated.
Don't run if you can't run, don't jump if you can't jump, don't lift if you can't lift, don't throw if you can't throw, and don't try to be brave. Physiologically, you can overdraw when you are young, just like banks charge interest. When you are old, you only have old capital. Speaking of interest, there is no interest. Therefore, exercise should be moderate and "take it easy".
Be brave, be brave, and be careful not to get up.
Jianghu is still there, but people are old. Without brave capital, we must always show weakness and be good at surrender. No bluffing, no boasting, no talking about what it looks like.
/Be good at comparing/
Bill Gates, the richest man in America, said, "All men are born unequal." Since inequality, the gap between people is obvious in comparison. Watching others compare with themselves often makes them feel resentful, sad and even self-pitying, thinking that they are useless, thus losing a good mood and a state of mind that should have enjoyed their old age.
Admit the gap frankly
Everyone's ability, background and physique can't be exactly the same. We must admit the gap, accept the gap and enjoy the happiness we have. Although you are not as rich as others, you have a healthy body; Although your children are ordinary people like you, they are very filial; Although you have lived in a house for a long time, you have a wife who loves you; Wait a minute.
Seek happiness at leisure
The pursuit of happiness is everyone's right. True happiness has little to do with wealth and status. In real life, some people live in luxury, but they are not happy; Some people live on bread and water, but they are happy; As long as we find happiness, we will forget to compare. When you learn to love yourself, care about yourself and devote yourself to happiness, you learn to enjoy life.