The first article of inspirational diary: Youth is not called capital, but it is good at learning.
I used to know a netizen who was 12 years older than me. Because the internet was not very extensive ten years ago, people at that time liked to release their strong desire to chat online. In addition, I like listening to other people's stories since I was a child, so I naturally became his good audience. Between the ages of 20 and 30, he told me most of his stories, and I want to share them with you.
As I don't know his name, I'll call him Moon Shadow. He is from Chongqing. After graduating from high school, he didn't go to college, so he hung out with a group of best friends all day. Because everyone is the kind of young people who drop out of high school and do nothing all day. However, young people always tend to start self-reliance, so he also began to go out to work. He doesn't have much education, and he doesn't have the brains of a businessman, so he can only do manual labor. He was 20 years old that year.
He told me that the first site he went to was in Guizhou. People who leave society at the age of 20 are not only simple, but also with a group of simple but full of social atmosphere, which will inevitably lead to a lot of discomfort. For example, around the construction site, there are often some local hooligans to bully outsiders. These hooligans are very witty. They don't come when there are many people, and they choose new faces when there are few people. The moon shadow has unfortunately experienced this. He told me that it was hard to stop being beaten outside for the first time. In addition, he couldn't stand the manual labor on the construction site at first, so he gave up and went home.
When I got home, my parents saw that the child's nature was very distressed, so they let him rest at home and tried to avoid going to work so far away.
"So how long did you stay at home?" I asked.
"Almost half a year." The moon shadow answered.
"Isn't it boring to stay that long?" I keep asking.
"Ah, it's boring to come back at first, but on second thought, I'm still young and have more time. However, after being carefree for half a year, I feel that I can't stand it. " At this time, his family began to urge him to go out and learn something, and then he found a local master to learn interior decoration with his family.
Young and eager to learn was his teacher's evaluation at first, but after three months, when he earned thousands of dollars, he was no longer so eager to learn, and always wanted to skip the master and take business outside. But businessmen always don't recognize young people with less hair on their faces, and it's not so easy to make a list for them. He didn't have the eloquence and courage to convince people, and he survived under several orders he received occasionally. At that time, moonlight became popular among office workers, and as a migrant worker, he was the moonlight among the moonlight clan.
Because he works near home, he has more opportunities to go out to play with his best friends, and they also invite him to go out to play at work from time to time. In this way, he spent two years.
Maybe he still has a dream in his heart. When he left me a message to finish these stories, he said in the last sentence of the message that he planned to go far away next year and work hard again, so he couldn't let go of himself. He wrote: fortunately, I am still young and have capital. He was 24 years old that year.
He told me his story completely again. He is 27 years old. He said that he fulfilled his promise to go to Xinjiang at the beginning of the year and also went to a construction site. He was fine in the first half of the year, and suddenly he couldn't pay his salary in the seventh month. In the eighth month, he couldn't stand it anymore, so he went to the office of a construction company with the young people he went with to ask for a salary. At a young age, they believed the lie that the boss told them to pick up the next day. When they went the next day, the boss had already left. There are only a few young girls at the information desk at the front desk. They were very angry and made a scene there. Several young people smashed tables and chairs, and even threatened several little girls not to go back until they found a boss. Several little girls were scared to death by them at the scene.
"I felt like an asshole for the first time and always thought I had a good personality." He told me.
"What happened later? How to solve it? " I asked.
"I didn't ask for money that day, but after that day, it seems that the little girls also called the police. The boss of the company may also be afraid, so let others give us some money to let us go. We felt that we couldn't get the money at this rate, so we simply quit. Take a little and count. " He replied.
After getting some money, he went home again and lived a muddled life. After spending all the money he found, he began to live a ghost life of eating, drinking and having fun at home.
"Didn't you learn anything?" I asked.
"I want to learn a lot, but I find myself on pins and needles. But I often think that I still have some capital. " He said.
"What capital do you have?" I asked.
"27 years old is not too old." He smiled back.
From the age of 27 to 30, he went to Qingdao, Kunming and even Guizhou. He still feels young, and he can still learn something if he wants to. Before leaving at the age of 27, he said that his family had a bad year. On the evening of the 30th, his family played mahjong well. Suddenly, because he asked his parents for some money, his parents wouldn't give it to him. He was angry and felt humiliated in front of his friends. He said a few words to his parents at that time. Unexpectedly, his father yelled at him at that time. He was so angry that he left immediately on the evening of the 30th.
"For the first time, I felt that I couldn't ask for money from my family, and I began to reflect on what I had done over the years." He told me.
After wandering abroad for several years, I didn't earn much money, but my speech obviously changed a lot. He is no longer a person looking for some money to spend some money, and begins to regain his focus for many years. Besides, he has a girlfriend. His girlfriend is older than him, and I knew at a glance that he must have found someone who could crush him.
He went home when he was almost 30 years old. With the help of his girlfriend, he married her. With his family, he has obviously become much more stable. During that time, I saw the selfie he sent, and he was obviously thinner than before marriage.
After years of no contact, one day I tried to ask him:
When I was about to turn 20, what was your biggest advice?
Three days later, he sent me a message: my biggest mistake for so many years is that I always thought I was young, not too late, so I got what I deserved. So don't think that your youth is capital. Youth is not capital. Those who can settle down to study when they are young will have capital in the future.
Think about my peers, some of whom are doing well now, but I haven't heard from them for many years. Later, I learned that they went out to eat for a few years and concentrated on learning a technology, unlike me.
Article 2 of the inspirational diary: The so-called efforts are not used to touch yourself.
All human behavior is to pursue happiness and avoid disaster.
I often receive private letters from many people, and the content is similar. Most of them said that they worked hard, how much time they spent doing homework every day, staying up late reading until dawn, staying in the study room, how long they didn't go out to play, and how long they didn't relax. There are also people who lose weight and keep fit. They haven't had a good meal for several days, how sad they are to see what they want to eat, and they are still so thin after buying a gym annual card, and so on.
I have worked so hard and sacrificed so much, why is the result so small?
At this time, I am very confused.
The so-called effort in your eyes, who are you comparing with and who are you showing?
Are you tired from hard work? Tell the truth.
I'm so fucking tired.
Your efforts can make you feel painful, but in the eyes of others, it sounds painful, but what is the truth?
The real effort is not to finish the work before the deadline, because I didn't finish my lazy work before, so I stayed up all night in a hurry. Can you tell others how hard you made me work? For this project, I stayed up for three days just to finish it in time!
What have you been doing before? Do you know anyone who can finish ahead of schedule and is several times better than you? Is this your effort?
The real effort is not to soak in the library for a whole day, brush Weibo for two hours, brush Zhihu for two hours, browse Taobao for two hours, chat with a person on WeChat for half a day, then read a book for ten minutes, and then stop reading. So you picked up your mobile phone and said, it's really tiring to soak in the library and read books. I've been in the library for a week. Why did I still do so badly in the exam?
It's not like you go to the gym every day, run for more than ten minutes, panting, and scribble a few strokes on each instrument. I don't work hard with a little sweat, nor do I work hard without eating that cake and buying that bag of potato chips today. Either the card to the gym is used to take a bath every day, or you are diligent. It's not that you think it's particularly hard to cook vegetables for three days. There are many people who practice muscle and lose fat seriously. With such a small amount of exercise and such a short time, how dare you say that you have worked so hard and have achieved nothing?
I have seen countless people who have to sit in the front row in order to save face, but they didn't listen to a word.
I've seen countless people bring books home in winter and summer vacations, but I haven't actually seen them.
I've seen countless people say they want to memorize words. At most, they will be impatient after reciting abc, and the next round will start with A.
I've been calling for three years to lose weight, and I haven't lost half a catty. Now I talk about losing weight every day.
I think I'm working hard. I think I'm struggling. Why can't I succeed when I work so hard?
This is your self-deception, your stupidity and your self-consumption.
What is there to boast about pain?
Not exactly. Are you working hard to achieve your goal, or are you just trying to look at it and finally move yourself?
I have never been a particularly clever person since I was a child. I've always felt that what you learned in one hour took me three hours to learn, so it took me three hours.
But do these three hours prove that I work harder than an hour? Not exactly.
Studying hard is not just telling yourself and others: you see, I have worked hard.
So there's no x except that you think you're great.
All your efforts are a waste of time and life.
Those who really work hard, they don't expect short-term efforts to get huge returns immediately, nor do they expect to spend a lot of time in exchange for the pride when talking with others.
They chose the right direction, poured water with concentration and enthusiasm, and moved slowly and peacefully in a correct and wise way.
Always remember that no pains, no gains. But the real effort is not to let you finish your work all night, nor to make you lose a few pounds a month, nor is it because your procrastination leads to high efficiency at the last minute. The real effort comes from a person's deep heart, that is, for those things that can't be rewarded immediately, you can still maintain your enthusiasm and concentration for ten years.
I especially want to be the kind of person who is getting better and better in the years. All their efforts are not for others to see, but for their real pursuit. And these valuable efforts have really reached their hearts bit by bit and become their real abilities.
I hope I can enjoy my present life while working hard. Efforts are not to touch ourselves or others, but because we are all ordinary people.
The most difficult and meaningful thing in life is that you can try to be an ordinary person when you realize that you are an ordinary person.
The third part of the inspirational log: Why didn't you get paid for your hard work?
On the desk beside my bed, there is an English line engraved: teach if you can't do it. If you can't do it yourself, teach others to do it. I have always regarded this sentence as a wake-up call since I became a teacher. This is a great irony for those who can explain the truth clearly, but can't.
I have a friend, who is called "the king of truth" in Jianghu. He quotes classics and teaches and dispels doubts, comparable to Dong Fangbubai. He can analyze everything from ancient Egyptian civilization to bitcoin, and he can also talk about entertainment gossip and married life. In addition, he looks good, everyone who chats with him is like a spring breeze, and girls hate not committing themselves to each other.
At that time, I drifted with him in Beijing and lived in a small house of more than ten square meters in Zhongguancun, one of the most prosperous areas in Beijing. Although the house is small, the monthly rent is not low.
One afternoon, I sat by the window with him. He held a cigarette between his fingers in his right hand, took a sip, and then slowly spit out a big smoke ring. "Ellie, I recently carefully studied a book about financial management. You said that the money in the bank is depreciating every day now. If you want to succeed, you have to get along in Beijing, find a way and be a clerk in the company. Even with a little salary increase every year and a promotion every five years, there is no future in this life. If you want to get ahead, you must take a different path! Let's chip in some money for precious metals investment ... "
Later, for work reasons, he moved away. But every once in a while, he will call me and tell me that he has changed his job, entered a new industry, or found a way to make a lot of money in a short time. However, neither the new industry nor the new investment method persisted in the end, and he became a long-term user of regret medicine. Out of the goodwill of my friend, I also tried to remind him: "Apart from those reasons and analysis, are practical and effective methods and actions more important?" After a pause, he continued to say confidently, "Look, the stock I mentioned last time has really gone up. If I had bought it at that time, I would have a suite now. " In fact, up to now, he has changed jobs four times, and his monthly salary has increased by 1050 yuan, and his position has also risen from junior clerk to leader of five-person sports. Maybe one day he will really be hit by good luck, and then I will have the cheek to say, "I have money and forget everything."
In this world, there are people who love to reason, and there are even more people who love to listen to reason. There will always be many followers who get the truth they want, need or feel they must get through various channels.
However, are these truths really that useful? After listening to the lecture on English learning, I immediately vowed that I would get gre and TOEFL in half a year and offer from a famous American school within one year, but the number of people who get scholarships every year will always be a minority; After listening to the speeches of famous entrepreneurs, even just seeing an inspirational golden sentence made my blood boil, and I began to fantasize that I could become a ceo, marry a wife and climb to the peak of my life as long as I worked hard; After reading the sharing of emotional expert Weibo, I decided to be a woman who "does not forget your initiative, and the years are quiet", waiting for Gao Fushuai to save her ordinary self with colorful auspicious clouds. ......
Just by reading the truth, you try to understand life, which means that most people can't realize their fantasies. Even, you have to understand that some famous married people will take down the ladder after going upstairs by themselves, and then tell you who want to climb up hard: I flew up through hard work, so can you.
A year has passed, but you still haven't been able to study abroad, and even your graduation grades are not excellent. When interviewing for a job, I found that too many competitors hold CET-4 and CET-6 certificates, computer certificates and are student cadres. Your imaginary Prince Charming appears at the Haitian feast, or the girl you think is a "green tea bitch" resigns blindly around. After a trip, you have to go back to the original point and start from the bottom. Your former colleague has been promoted to be your boss.
How many people gave their personality to the constellation, gave their efforts to the chicken soup, gave the exam to koi fish, and then said to themselves, "After listening to a lot of truth, they still failed." .
Young people always want to talk to the world, but the world doesn't want to talk to you. Even if your skill points are all full, your health and mana are all full, you can't resist the deep ruthlessness of this world. It is easy for young people to doubt themselves, then doubt life, and then embark on that mediocre road. But life is wonderful because there are always miracles. The key is that you should master the key to the miracle in the right way.
When I was in middle school, my father told me, "It is better to know a method than to know a hundred truths;" A hundred tricks are not as helpful as one trick. " So far, my small success is largely due to my understanding of this sentence.
Almost everyone is afraid of public speaking. Like many people, I have been eager to express myself well and freely in front of everyone since I was a child, but no matter how hard I try, I can't seem to meet my expectations. I am also a neurotic person, and I am a little weak in character. Later, when I became a teacher in New Oriental, I had to face hundreds of thousands or even tens of thousands of students. In order to practice my skills as a teacher, I read almost all the books that can be found to explain the ways and skills of speech. For a time, I even became a god who can't say good things, but can teach others to say good things.
One day, while I was simulating a speech in an empty classroom, a colleague came in and looked at it for a while and said, "Do you realize your problem? If not, it is useless to say it ten thousand times. "
At his suggestion, I adopted the method of "deliberate practice". "Deliberate practice" is a set of practice methods put forward by k. anders ericsson, a psychologist at the University of Florida. The secret of the method lies in repetition and feedback.
First of all, practitioners need to build knowledge and be familiar with the correct methods. As far as speech is concerned, we must really understand what a good speech is, and to do this, it is not enough to rely solely on abstract books. So, I found almost all the famous speech videos and watched them again and again, trying to figure out the mystery. If I have the chance, I will also go to the scene to listen to some celebrities' speeches and feel the atmosphere of cheers and applause from thousands of people.
Next, I practiced? Feedback? Cyclic training of practice. Deliberate practice is an error-centered practice. Practitioners must establish extreme sensitivity to mistakes. Once you find that you are wrong, you will feel very uncomfortable and keep practicing until you correct it.
Whether it is a simulation exercise or a lecture in class, I began to intentionally record the video of my speech. Go home and watch these videos repeatedly. It will be very uncomfortable to see yourself in the video at first, and you will find that many places you thought you were doing well before are actually not. Like most people who have not received professional training in broadcasting and physique, when it comes to excitement, I will wave my arms hard, and I can't see my face on the camera. I only see a hand waving around, and my body will shake and I have no strength. I often repeat the phrase "that is to say, that is to say", which means "so" in English. So what? That? That? " ; For familiar content, I will habitually speak quickly and have a weak sense of rhythm. The most terrible thing is that I don't have a sense of camera, and I can't let the audience feel that I am paying attention to them and caring about their feedback.
I wrote down these problems that need to be improved in my notebook and corrected them constantly, and compared them with the video of the next public speech. I won't cross this question off my notebook until it disappears completely.
After numerous "deliberate exercises", I not only became familiar with the classroom teaching in New Oriental, but also became a lecturer, standing at the scene of the series of lectures on "Dream Journey" in New Oriental, together with thousands of audiences.
Gladwell, the author of the best-selling Alien, said: "The genius in people's eyes is not outstanding talent, but continuous efforts. As long as it takes 10000 hours of training, anyone can change from ordinary to extraordinary. " Naturally, I'm not a genius. My feeling about the progress I have made through hard work is that there is no only secret of success in the world. When you learn to do the simplest things to the extreme, success is not far away.
Along the way, although I am biased against listening to "so many truths", it doesn't mean that I don't study, understand and care. But I understand that no matter how much truth is, it is also the experience of others. Only through the transformation of methods will it become my own thing. It's always the seemingly small, hard-working me who takes me forward.
Sometimes, the more you know the truth, the more you bind yourself. There are often contradictions between different reasons and conflicts between different suggestions. If you eat too much chicken soup for your soul, it tastes different: some are salty, some are sweet and some are spicy. Eat too much, the stomach is bad, the pace is slow, and the brain is confused. Sometimes, put chicken soup and truth aside, take a step first, and then constantly sum up and correct in practice. Only in this way, we will not become the person who knows more, knows less, and finally has little change and accomplished nothing.
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