A friend wrote on his blog the day before yesterday: My son is four years old and is learning roller skating. This is what he saw other children playing and offered to learn. But after studying for two days, I stopped learning, saying that I was very tired. Yesterday was the third day, and my family went to Chun Qing Square. There are many children learning roller skating, even younger. As soon as the car stopped, the little guy started running, and the aunt followed behind, unable to catch up. Later, his mother took a shortcut and blocked him at both ends before taking him over. He was put on roller skates in tears. I don't know whether to let him study or forget it. Forcing him to learn feels like forcing him to do something he doesn't want to do. If he doesn't study, he feels like giving up halfway. What should I do? Almost every parent has encountered the "three-minute fever" of their children. Do you insist or let go? It's really a problem. Ask the opinions of psychology and education first. Keep your promise since childhood. "4-year-old children already have their own preferences, and parents should encourage their children to stick to their interests." Dr. Xu from the Department of Psychology, Tongde Hospital, said. Only one child in the family is spoiled, which leads to many parents' educational methods being responsive. If children don't learn, they won't learn, resulting in the bad habit of "anticlimactic". Dr. Xu said that children should keep their promises from an early age. If the child's requirements are met and then he goes back on his word, then parents should put pressure on the child to stick to it, thus developing a good will to overcome difficulties. Easy to learn, you should stick to it. Wang Hong, the principal of Caihe Primary School, thinks that roller skating is a game compared with piano. As long as you have a good balance, it is not difficult to learn, and the pressure is not great. Don't give up halfway. Children often do things like fishing for three days and drying nets for two days, and parents have a headache when they meet them. Let the children choose for themselves, even if they don't want to learn, they will still escape when they encounter difficulties, which will have an impact on their future study and life. "I suggest that parents should treat it differently according to the difficulty." President Wang said that some studies, such as violin and other musical instruments, have been studied for a period of time, and children have no special skills and are bored. It is better to give up early and let children find advantages in other fields. Parents help their children adapt to the environment. After studying for two days, their interest disappeared. Professor Ma Liang from the School of Public Administration of Zhejiang Gongshang University does not believe this statement. He said that the child's interest was gone, and he must have not adapted to the environment, and his interest was suddenly dampened. For example, there are no children I know in the training class, or the coach is too fierce. "Some children are willing to study again when they find a study partner they know." Professor Ma said that as long as parents help their children adapt to the environment and children are interested, they will stick to it. When the internal or external causes are found, let's talk about it again. I was in high spirits two days ago, but now I don't want to learn. Xu Yun, director of the Institute of Applied Psychology of Zhejiang University of Technology, said that this matter is quite complicated, and internal causes and external causes can be distinguished. Interest driven by internal factors will generally not give up halfway, while interest driven by external factors will often be anticlimactic. For example, roller skating, if forced by parents, children will not last long. In that case, forget it if you don't learn. However, if you really like it (internal cause), parents should sort out ideas for their children and help them build this interest. Four-year-old children are developing, so "three-minute fever" should be encouraged. Experts also have different opinions. Feng Gang, a sociology professor at Zhejiang University, made a surprising remark: a four-year-old child is not a "person". Then Professor Feng explained that 4-year-old children are too young, 7-year-old children understand sentences, and 1 1 year-old children understand the social meaning of words. "At the age of 4, you should let go and develop freely. Just like a sprout, can you trim it? " Professor Feng said that children at this time are curious about the outside world. If they want to play and learn, let them choose. If you are not interested in studying for two days, then don't study and find someone else who is interested. It is in this kind of "anticlimactic" that children can find their real interests. Yesterday, the little boy tried his best to play roller skating, and his father shouted at him. Later, I asked a circle of friends, and most of them supported "continuing to learn" on the grounds that "learning roller skating is not bad anyway, so let him be responsible for what he said" and "let him stick to a stage anyway. The training class is over, whether it is slippery or not depends on your interest. " I told my dad your opinion yesterday, but I didn't expect a dramatic change. Dad said, "That's strange. The little guy didn't want to eat or take a nap today. His mother also bought a pair of roller skates for fitness and took her son skating in the park, resulting in many falls. The son was in high spirits at once, imitating the coach's voice and telling his mother,' Keep your balance!' Get down! Go home or continue to play. The child's mind is really elusive. "