When Rourou came to me, the whole five senses were wrinkled together and wrapped around her chubby face, tangled and depressed. We have known each other for more than ten years, and we are used to her laughing and slapping. It's really the first time we've been so depressed.

I teased her: What's the matter? This is, falling in love, but not having it? Lose weight, frustrated again? Or a sudden epiphany, life is boring?

With a wry smile, she slowly stirred the warm coffee in front of her and whispered, Don't tell me, I really think my life is quite hopeless. I just want to open my mouth to interrupt, she raised her eyelids and motioned for me to listen carefully:

I have been a big eater since I was a child, and all kinds of meals and snacks are welcome. When I was a child, my family told me not to waste, and I could eat all the food I ate. They also praised me for being obedient and blessed. I have always been a fat man. I can't say that I was bullied at school and at work, but there are many boys and girls laughing at me behind my back and in my mouth, but I am also very gentle and don't want to think too much, so I don't care.

I'm not pretty either. I have sparse hair, small eyes, swollen eyelids and a flat nose. Fortunately, my mouth is not too big. It turned out that although the skin was not white and finally smooth, with the growth of age, acne, various allergies and small freckles actually began to grow.

I've never been outstanding. I studied in secondary school, and was a monitor in primary school, leading several people to queue up for school and be on duty. As a group leader in middle school, helping class representatives collect homework; I finally got into an ordinary high school, tried my best, finally got into a junior college and graduated in a daze. Up to now, I have been working as a clerk, and I still spend two or three thousand yuan a month, eating, drinking and shopping, and I haven't saved much money.

Also, I have never been in love, and almost no boys like me or chase me. By the way, do you remember how we met? Tang Jun, the monitor of our class, has a crush on you. Later, when he found out that I went to school with you, he asked me to send you messages, snacks and love letters. In fact, you are a big star in the school, and I have known you for a long time, but I didn't dare to talk to you even if I met you every day. You walk with your back straight, and there are many girls around you hugging you and walking side by side. There are boys talking, laughing and fighting with you before and after you. You have excellent grades, love literature and art, and are very popular. Every time, I walked past you with my head down or deliberately slowed down.

Do not laugh at me. Tang Jun is my goddess. He spoke to me for the first time for you, and you are the goddess of his dreams. I spoke to you for him for the first time. At that time, you gave me everything back. Seeing that I was embarrassed, you smiled at me like an adult and said, well, trust me to stay and leave the rest to him. Then you said, I have seen you many times before. Are we on the same team? We can go together later.

I'm flattered, you know? To this day, I am very happy to make friends with you. There are countless humble and insignificant people around me, but you are different from us. I still recognize you every time I see photos of you partying with those boys and girls in those years. You are all more beautiful and outstanding. Even my friends don't believe that we are friends at all, because we are never the same kind of people.

Since Tang Jun, I have also secretly loved other boys, and of course I have liked many male stars, but I have never talked about real love. I'm 26, and I've been stupid before. Now I look back on the past and look forward to the future. I am a girl, poor, ugly and fat. What hope is there in my life? What should I do?

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Her tone was calm, but her brow wrinkled. I tried to interrupt several times, but I finally shut up.

I quit. What should I say? The coffee was cold, so I picked it up and put it down again.

I don't want to comfort my body. What kind of life has hope? Beautiful face, black hair, backhand touching navel, big chest and waist A4, living in a mansion, driving a famous car, traveling around the world, opening hundreds of millions of businesses, Song Joong Ki fell in love with us, and Wang Sicong forced us to play flash marriage? I think we have all fantasized about it, and now we should not expect it.

And "hope", I don't know when it started, I actually began to be afraid of such words, as well as "dreams" and "ideals". Those chicken soup articles and inspirational books don't seem to have such distant goals and guidance. You can't live without hard work. And most people I see are alive because of inertia. Even if they live as salted fish, who can say that they live easily?

People have different pursuits. We can pursue exquisite and high-end, and there is no need to despise ordinary and lazy.

Now, including myself, I often shout in the office: girls should be beautiful, independent, rich and exquisite. Even if more girls pursue this life, there will always be people left behind. So those girls who are poor, ugly and fat in the eyes of the world or even in their own eyes really have no good life to look forward to?

Among all the girls, some people have everything as easy as blowing off dust, some people can do it with all their strength, some people may not be able to do it with all their strength, and some people may be too lazy to fight for it even if they don't, or vaguely know that it is impossible to do it with themselves and the resources around them, so they are satisfied with their present life and state.

Whose fault is it? Who is the authority? When we advocate a single value, are we advocating being ourselves? This is like facing our home, some people pursue spotless and clean windows, while others just want to be relaxed, comfortable and relaxed.

Then, if girls are aware of or subjectively accept the so-called exquisite independence theory, and are willing to change and struggle, they can explore operational methods. If girls think that being able to wear, eat and live comfortably is a kind of happiness and enjoyment, it is unnecessary. Is it not necessary to make them feel how unbearable, outrageous and even hopeless?

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But in the end I didn't tell my dear Rourou. Always eloquent, I kept my posture and began to slowly stir the cold coffee: Rou Er, are you just venting your dissatisfaction with life because of any external pressure and stimulation or are you determined to change it?

In fact, what I want to ask you is, we have known each other for so many years, why have you never told me that I am poor, ugly and fat?

I was speechless for a moment and said softly, first, you are not as exaggerated as you are now, second, I have really considered your feelings, and third, I have never felt that these factors have seriously troubled you for more than ten years, and you are even happier than us. Isn't that the most important thing?

Then, I really want to change now. I am no longer as happy as when I was a child, even if I help a boy I like to send a love letter to someone I like. I want to fall in love, be thinner and more beautiful, and save some money to go out and have a home. If you were me, what would you do?

-Seriously, do you want it?

-you must tell me the truth with more than ten years of feelings!

If I were you … If I were you …

If I were you, I would change from now on, starting with losing weight. No gym cards, no big plans. Skipping rope, swimming, kicking shuttlecock, running, even square dancing and aerobics, the first day may be 10 minutes, and the next day you may want to give up, but you can do it at any time as long as you want to change. You can get up early and go downstairs for a walk, or you can leave work early for a stop. Gradually quit snacks, eat nuts and yogurt, as well as fresh fruits and vegetables, which are also good for the skin. When you gradually form a habit, plan systematically and use a professional and healthy way.

If I were you and worried about my face and skin, I would simply give up the thick foundation, let my skin breathe lightly, and use some natural and cheap things, such as honey, cucumber, coix seed and so on. In short, it suits me. I have a healthy and fresh diet and exercise, or I can go to see Chinese medicine to recuperate my body. If I have spare money, maybe I will consider making double eyelids, doing beauty and fitness on time, and learning some makeup to make myself more confident and beautiful.

If I were you, I would immediately take action on financial management and try to find room for promotion and salary increase. Pay a fixed amount of money every month to deposit or invest in funds, and pay more attention to economic and financial news. Plan your life more, and you'd better get used to bookkeeping. Summarize your expenses every month and make active adjustments. While ensuring work efficiency, I will slowly explore the advantages of operational value-added and distribute leaflets and the like. If I have a little talent for painting and love flowers and plants as much as you do, I might consider collecting a few children to teach me, drawing personalized T-shirts and mobile phone cases, and adding some decorative details to your fleshy children to sell.

If I were you, I might not fantasize about perfect love and lovers. I want to be beautiful and confident, open my heart to well-meaning suggestions and even introductions, attend more parties and communities, and accept the innocent shortcomings and imperfections of others. I am willing to accept the pursuit and not refuse to guide the people I like to pay attention to myself. I am not ashamed of my lack of love experience, nor proud of my innocence. Less worried, more sincere, not in a hurry to fall in love and get married, not waiting hard or giving up.

If I were you, I might not insist on all of the above. Actually, it's nothing. Enjoy my present life until I can't stand it as much as I can today and start over. Don't try to chase the exquisite beauty in others' eyes, but follow your own heart to live.

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I didn't finish my sentence logically and the meat didn't interrupt me. At this moment, she said, I know what you mean. To tell the truth, you are right. I used to enjoy life with a clear conscience. I don't think it is as beautiful as you, as smart as you, as cute as you, and I don't think it is obscure. Teachers and leaders think that I don't strive for progress and compete with the world. My mother said I was worthless and shameless. It doesn't matter. I'm not confident or at least I'm not humble. But now, I look in the mirror, touch my face and check my balance. Really feel poor, ugly and fat, very pessimistic. I thought you wouldn't understand people like me, even friends for many years. But after talking to you, I think you really understand something.

-Then why do you think I refused Tang Jun?

-because you insist on not puppy love and love learning! And you may not like him! And ... and ...

-There are many people who say that I am proud and lofty. I am saving a bunch of boys and refusing them one by one, right?

Do you know everything? !

As you can imagine, Tang Jun is tall and handsome, dominating one another. He has a good family background and a good personality for me. No matter how I don't give him face, he always helps me silently. What reason can I insist on refusing? But no one thought that maybe it was not that I was proud and lofty, but that I was fragile and sensitive. At that time, I was disgusted that I was poor and ugly compared with him. What else can you do except make some achievements?

So what I want to say is that many standards are set not only by others, but also by ourselves. The so-called life has never had any hope and despair, and it is not easy to struggle and persist. At that age when you thought I was radiant, I was actually bitter inside and pretended to be strong; But when others think that I am "too young and too old", I live very quietly and happily.

We are all young and have a long way to go. There are thousands of standards in the world, but only we know our inner feelings. It is enough to choose people and things that can make us feel at ease. what do you think?