Zeng Guofan said: "Choosing friends is the most important thing in life. The success or failure of a life is related to whether a friend has virtue. "
A good friend will help you when you encounter a trough and walk out with you;
When you are depressed, encourage you to regain your confidence and continue to meet the challenges of tomorrow;
When you reap success and happiness, you are full of joy and really happy for you.
On the contrary, some "friends" hope that your life is bad and you must not be better than him.
If he gets stuck in the mire, he will definitely drag you to hell.
When you meet these people, you must keep your eyes open and stay away from them.
People who keep consuming you.
Xiao Bing seems full of energy and confidence recently. Compared with before, he looks like a different person.
I asked her what happened, and she said it was because she gradually lost contact with her best friend Xiaoyan.
Xiaoyan especially likes to complain to Xiao Bing about all kinds of unpleasant things. She was abused at work and felt troubled and uneasy in her life. ...
From work to life, everything goes wrong with her, and she talks to Xiao Bing almost every day.
Whether it's lunch break or evening, Xiao Bing will try her best to accompany her whenever she looks for it.
Her negative energy is like temperature. When Xiao Bing is in a good mood, she can always take a cold bath.
On one occasion, Xiao Bing chatted with Xiaoyan and slept very late. The next day, she was criticized for her mistakes at work and wanted to seek comfort from Xiaoyan. Xiaoyan is lukewarm and doesn't care at all, complaining that Xiao Bing wasted her time.
Xiao Bing finally realized that he was just Xiaoyan's emotional trash can, and slowly lost contact with Xiaoyan.
Gradually, Xiao Bing used her all-night chatting time to recharge her batteries, exercise, read and run, and people naturally became sunny.
People like Xiaoyan are emotional vampires, who only draw energy from others, but never know how to repay them.
Their negative energy will slowly consume your temperature, absorb your nutrients, and make you full of small emotions about life.
Everyone's time and energy are precious, so we should do meaningful things in our limited life.
Stay away from those who keep consuming you in your life and stop loss in time.
As Liu Yu said, "Stay away from those who consume you, and don't consume others."
Only in this way can our life be more meaningful.
People who like to gossip behind others' backs.
My colleague Lingling is called PHS.
She seems to have "clairvoyance" and "clairvoyance", and she knows all the gossip of her colleagues.
At first, everyone chatted with her only because she was rich in information, and it was interesting to talk about her parents' shortcomings.
But then I gradually alienated her, because she was not telling jokes after dinner, but gossiping.
Colleague Xiao Liu got a promotion. She told everyone that Xiao Liu bribed the leader. She saw it with her own eyes and described it with her nose and eyes.
But Xiao Liu is poor and usually works hard. Everyone can see his efforts. Xiao Liu is by no means such a person.
She slanders others behind their backs like this, which will only make people feel that she is a bosom friend.
Today she talks about Xiao Liu. Who will she talk about tomorrow?
People who like gossip like Lingling can be seen everywhere in life. They talk about other people's right and wrong everywhere, but they are actually stirring up trouble.
Be careful when you meet such people, because one day, they may have nothing to say about you.
You should also be careful about the rumors you hear, because your breath is like a sword, killing people at any time.
The ancients said, "gossip begins with mediocrity and ends with wisdom." Those who say right and wrong must have right and wrong. "
The biggest difference between a gentleman and a villain is that a gentleman never speaks ill of others behind his back.
On the contrary, the "little people" are best at personal attacks and gossiping behind their backs.
Therefore, to stay away from "little people" is to stay away from right and wrong.
Nietzsche once said: "The correct way is not to judge others indiscriminately, not to judge others easily, not to gossip behind others' backs, and not to think about others."
Remember not to talk nonsense about others!
A jealous person who can't hide the kindness of others.
One year after Xiaolan resumed her studies, the college entrance examination finally applied to her favorite school, but she never waited for the admission notice. Students whose grades are worse than hers are all admitted to this major.
She was anxious and confused, and finally brushed out the admission situation on the Internet and was not accepted.
She and her family were puzzled and called the admissions staff. The result shocked her. She didn't apply for that major at all!
But Xiaolan clearly remembers that she saved the screenshot. How did she become another major?
Finally, Xiaolan went to the Public Security Bureau to report the case, only to find out that it was Xiao Ke, the best friend, who changed her mind.
Xiaoke said, "I did it for her own good. It's really a pity to go to this university with her ability ... "
Xiaolan and Xiaoke are friends of old classmates, and they usually have a very good relationship. Xiaolan never imagined that Xiaoke would do this.
The most dangerous thing in the world is being envied, and the most dangerous thing is being envied by acquaintances.
Because the people closest to you are often the hardest to guard against.
Francis Bacon once said: "Jealousy always destroys the beautiful things on earth in secret!" "
There are always people who can't sleep when their friends succeed, even at night. When a friend fails, he will gloat, even when he is depressed.
There is a cloud in the Book of Changes: "People in the wild, constant and beneficial to mountains and rivers, beneficial to gentlemen."
It means that like-minded people get together on the Lantern Festival and thrive, which is conducive to crossing the rapids of rivers and helping gentlemen stick to the right path.
It emphasizes the importance of finding like-minded friends. If you want to succeed, you must find like-minded people and make friends with people who pursue the same goal.
Therefore, it is best to be careful of jealous friends and stay away from them.
A person with no moral bottom line
When Qi Henggong was in power, there was a favorite named Yi Ya.
Once Qi Henggong said to Yiya, "Your Majesty, I have eaten everything except human flesh."
At dinner, Yi Ya served a plate of meat. After eating it, Qi Henggong praised its delicacy and asked, "What kind of meat is this?"
Yiya replied, "It's my son's meat."
Qi Henggong was greatly moved, and he became more elegant and prized from then on.
On his deathbed, the Prime Minister Guan Zhong repeatedly told Qi Huangong not to go near Yiya. He commented on Yiya like this: "People naturally love their sons, but sons still don't love them. How can they be sincere to the king? "
It's a pity that Qi Heng recognized Yi Ya as a loyal killer of his parents and children.
Qi Huangong's three treacherous court officials, namely, Vertical Diao, Fang Zi and Yi Ya, all trusted them.
I feel that the prescription is for him, and his parents still don't go back to mourn after their death;
Vertical Diao would rather hurt himself and be a eunuch for him;
Yiya cooked her own son for him and thought they were all loyal.
But in the end, it was the three of them who launched a palace coup, locked the palace door and starved Qi Huangong to death.
It is human nature to love parents, wives and children. People who can even abandon their parents, wives and children for pets must be ungrateful, selfish and heartless. Such friends are "poisonous friends".
No matter how good they are to you on weekdays, they will show their true colors and their terrible minions when you are useless.
As the saying goes, hypocrites are more terrible than bad people.
Some people who make friends with you on the surface are actually the most insidious, and they will hurt you for the benefit.
If you have such people around you, you must stay away from them.
Be careful when making friends, but be more careful when choosing friends. It is wise to clean up your "toxic friends" regularly.
It's hard to be sincere when you meet countless people.
In my lifetime, I hope we can meet sunny friends and warm each other in the alternate time of light and shade.
Friends who meet like running water, experience the ups and downs of life together, and never have any bad feelings.
When you meet a friend who is like air, you will be accompanied by him at every important moment of your life and become bosom friends of each other for life.
About the author: Ximumu, a columnist of Fu Shu, is willing to write a fleeting time. I hope time slows down and my old friends don't leave. I will accompany you to live up to the years and upgrade your life consciousness with 3 million people. The new book Good Life is selling like hot cakes.