We once had a saying: women's fashion is always missing one. Lesbians always feel that clothes are not enough, and fashion is always missing. But by the same token, a man's tie is always indispensable. In fact, it is very important for men to wear ties on more important occasions. For example, we wear suits. Generally speaking, the suits and suits worn by gay men are mainly blue pure wool suits, which are general work clothes. You don't have to change your work clothes every day. You changed your shirt and tie. For example, a gay man works five days a week. If he is smart enough, he will change his tie every day and give others the feeling of changing clothes every day.
What is more important to wear a tie? First, the matching clothes are exquisite. Professor Jin has a very vulgar saying that it is impossible to wear a suit without a tie. Because I wear a suit now, I have to wear a tie. If you wear a suit without a tie, this suit has no taste. On the other hand, you don't have to wear a tie when you don't wear a suit Our comrades often make some common-sense mistakes. For example, we often see comrades wearing short-sleeved shirts and ties. I want to tell you that if you wear a short-sleeved shirt instead of a uniform, you don't need to wear a tie. Short-sleeved shirts belong to casual wear. Technically, it's almost like a trouser vest. Can I wear a tie with a trousers vest? So in the opinion of experts, if you wear a short-sleeved shirt and tie, it will give others a sense of seriousness. I sometimes feel a little uncomfortable when I take part in some business activities, such as a signing ceremony, which is widely valued internationally. When foreign guests come, no matter how hot the weather is, they are all in suits and ties. It's just that some comrades here are afraid of the heat, so it's neither fish nor fowl to wear a short-sleeved shirt and tie for you.
You need to wear a tie, it has a lot to pay attention to. For example, the color of the tie is exquisite, the fabric of the tie is exquisite, and the style of the tie is exquisite. If you don't wear a uniform, you'd better not wear a "one-pull" tie, which is the kind with a zipper. People in uniform use it to save trouble. On formal occasions, if you wear a high-end suit, if you tie this one, the grade will come down. Because that thing is not high-end, it is equipped with a uniform. In fact, two details are very important to see if a gay man can wear a tie. The first very important detail, you must pay attention to the style of the tie. Two years ago, a style was popular, called "men's dimples". What do you mean "a man's dimple"? In fact, it is to press a groove under the bow tie. You can call it a pit or a ditch, "a man's dimple". Everyone watches TV and news broadcast. Pay attention to European and American fashionistas. This is a daily - happened thing. A comrade said to me that day, "Lao Jin, I have read your" Men's Dimple "for a long time, but I found nothing interesting." I said, "To tell you the truth, on the one hand, this is fashion." Second, it is equivalent to telling you in disguise that I am wearing a high-end tie. "Because only the silk tie has good softness, the grooves and pits pressed out can persist. If you take a nylon tie and press it into a groove, it will go back soon. It can't support it. Of course, you have to know a little about this knowledge. If you don't know anything about it, you are in trouble.
A comrade came to chat with me that day and said, "Professor Jin, are you busy?"
I said, "I've been busy recently."
He said, "Look, you are too busy to tie your tie. Let me help you. "
I didn't expect him to come over and put this dimple on my tie.
He thinks I didn't play well.
In addition, there is a second important detail about whether a gay man can wear a tie, that is, whether he uses a tie clip. Fashionable people generally don't need tie clips. Some of our comrades have a misunderstanding because no one has taught them. He mistakenly thought he had to wear a tie clip, but he didn't have to. There are only two kinds of people who wear tie clips for suits: who is the first one? A man in uniform. Industry and commerce, taxation, police, soldiers, Mr. Air, have you noticed? Their tie clips are all made in a unified way, with signs, such as national emblem, police emblem, military emblem and airline logo. They are complementary and belong to CIS, namely corporate identity system. We knew what they would do when his tie was caught. Who is the second kind of person? Big shots-leaders, big bosses, they have more social gatherings. Now have dinner with foreign businessmen. To tell the truth, I can drink soup without foreign businessmen present, and I can drink it backwards. But with foreign businessmen present, don't I have to pay attention to my manners in public? I have to drink with a spoon. Think about it. Do I need a tie clip here when I drink water with a spoon? Otherwise, my ties are everywhere. I have soup here. I didn't clip my tie. When I bend over, who do you think will have soup first? Ties. So the tie clip is an important person, used by people in uniform, but not by ordinary people. I want to talk about an important feature of dress etiquette through this simple example, which is standardization.
Clothing, as its name implies, can be divided into two parts: clothing and decoration. Let me choose the main points to explain. First of all, let me talk about the etiquette of persuasion. We have said that clothing has three functions: the first function is practicality. The second function represents status and identity. The third function is to express aesthetics. Is your taste, your artistic attainments. Generally speaking, clothing etiquette has four points:
First, it is in line with identity. To put it bluntly, men should be like men, women should be like women, children should be like children, and grandma should be like grandma. We often see such comrades, whose clothes are old and young, and they are a bit superfluous.
Suppose I am a 60-year-old man and a homosexual, then I have to pay attention to my dress. I can't wear children's clothes. The children's clothes I wear are like crayons. Not appropriate. By the same token, as a lesbian, if you are over 60 years old, it is not appropriate for you to dress up as over-age Britney Spears. Therefore, we must pay attention to our identity in dress. For example, let me give you an old-fashioned example here. Skirts are usually worn by women. Of course there are exceptions. In Scotland and England, men wear skirts, and so does Prince Charles. But in Chinese mainland, it is impossible for a man to wear a skirt, unless there are some shopkeepers to attract guests under special circumstances. Otherwise, if Professor Jin wears a skirt to the street now, will others suspect that it is a man? Not normal. You must pay attention to your identity when you dress. We generally emphasize the differences between men and women, between young and old, between occupations and between identities. We should also add a national difference to these four people in international communication. There must be a difference.
The second point is to foster strengths and avoid weaknesses. Dressing up, in general, one thing to pay attention to is to foster strengths and avoid weaknesses. Each of us has advantages and disadvantages. Some people are fat, some are thin, some are black and some are white. So you should pay attention to the problem of fostering strengths and avoiding weaknesses. For the simplest example, I wear a suit. In general, I usually wear blue or gray in the workplace. This is a classic work clothes. Usually, if I want to emphasize my personality, I like to wear a brown suit. To tell the truth, if one day you want to see me in social situations, you will notice that I usually wear a brown suit. Have you seen the program of Phoenix TV? There is a famous host in the program of Phoenix TV. Many people know him, Wendu Tao, a handsome young man. Have you noticed his habits? He used to like wearing a vest, but recently he changed into a flowered shirt. For two or three years in a row, I remember that he has been changing vests and shirts, which is actually his style. But you must pay attention, style is style, and you have to foster strengths and avoid weaknesses. For example, I once said, if you have a short neck, you won't wear turtle neck. I wear u-neck or v-neck clothes, show my chest and pretend to be my neck. I wear turtle neck, I have no neck. My legs are short and thick. I try not to wear miniskirts, or others will see me. Is that a leg? Dressing is actually very important, so we should foster strengths and avoid weaknesses.
The third point is to distinguish between occasions. In terms of dressing, in fact, we will encounter a very complicated problem, that is, a person faces various occasions. Many of us ordinary people have a small shortcoming, that is, we dress regardless of the occasion. For example, some comrades dress casually at work. You have seen such people, whether in the office or in the company, wearing casual clothes, such as slippers and sandals, open-toed sandals, navel dresses, miniskirts and hurdle vests. It seems a little idle. In the workplace, you only need to put on a suit and a uniform to show seriousness, neatness and seriousness. On the other hand, some of our comrades made another mistake, but they paid attention when they shouldn't have. They went to Badaling and the Summer Palace in suits and dresses. Is it interesting? Climbing the Badaling Great Wall in high heels is boring. I can't get up or down. It's hard. Dress must distinguish between occasions. From dress etiquette's point of view, there are actually three occasions for dressing.
The first is the office. Office space refers to the time when we go to work, and its basic requirements are four words: solemn and conservative. It is not acceptable to dress casually in the office. In the office, you are required to be solemn and conservative. What should you wear? Wear a suit, a skirt and a uniform. Wearing long-sleeved shirts, trousers and long skirts without suits, dresses and uniforms will make you look serious. On the other hand, it is very inappropriate to wear fashion and casual clothes in the office, so we must pay attention to this.
Second, social occasions. Social occasions refer to the time to socialize after work, that is, the time to socialize with friends and acquaintances after work, such as banquets, dances, concerts, parties, home visits, etc., and are typical social gatherings. Eating alone is called eating, and eating with friends is called banquet, which is actually entertainment. What are the basic requirements for dress in social occasions? Four words: fashion personality. If there is no personality in the workplace, it can't be fashionable, and social occasions should have personality fashion. What clothes should I wear? Wear fashion, dresses and clothes with national characteristics. To tell the truth, the tuxedo worn by western men doesn't suit my figure. The tuxedo is inverted trapezoid, which is suitable for people with wider shoulders. People in China are generally H-type. Unlike them, their shoulders are wider. Therefore, when I attend social occasions, I prefer to wear our own Hanfu, Zhongshan suit, Tang suit and even double-breasted coat, which is more appropriate.
Clothing for social occasions usually pays attention to individuality. Let me tell you two jokes:
I have an international student who came to my home to visit and chat with me after graduation in the mid-1990s. Chatting, he suddenly said to me, "Professor Jin, I want to ask you for a gift as a souvenir of my graduation."
I have brought many international students, and I have never heard of anyone asking me for anything. I'm surprised. After gnashing my teeth, I said to him, "Thank you for your compliment. Professor Jin's house is not small, but there are not many valuable things in it. If you want to attach importance to it, I will welcome it. Take whatever you like except your wife and children. " But you can only take one piece, not more. "
Guess what he saw? At that time, I lived in the military compound, and I didn't meet him when he came to my house. I am an acquaintance. I'm wearing army pants and an old man's shirt. It's very hot. He took a fancy to my army pants. He said I want this. I am very happy. I said, "I'll give it to you, buy you a new one, and give you a military coat." I dare not take the clothes of active duty soldiers. I have old-fashioned military uniforms, and some are obsolete. Do you want it? "
He said, "Yes."
I said, "Where's the belt?"
He wants it all. He took it all. The next day, their classmates reported to me that he wore the clothes I gave him and went to Tiananmen Square to take pictures. He thinks it's cool, but what he really wants is personality.
When I deal with foreign friends, I like to give them national costumes as gifts. Send a tie-dyed dress and a silk shirt, all of which are very distinctive.
I have a friend who is a county magistrate in other places. On that day, a foreign businessman came to discuss business with an entrepreneur there. He wants to see the county magistrate, and the state supports private enterprises. The county magistrate heard that the enterprise made this request and went. It turns out that the county magistrate is in the construction site, farmland infrastructure construction site, dressed casually, jacket. As a result, I went temporarily, and suddenly remembered when I got on the bus, and I didn't have time to change my suit. Time is limited, and foreign businessmen have to catch a plane. The county magistrate took a fancy to the driver and the tunic suit he was wearing. He asked each other, "How tall are you?"
The driver said, "1.74 meters."
"What's the waist circumference?"
"Two and a half feet."
"Well, we are the same. Pull over and we will change. "
He put on the driver's Zhongshan suit in the car, because the car was narrow and the buttons were not fastened properly. Probably the first button went to button the second eye. There is a pocket cover inside and one outside. It's just a little awkward anyway.
After he arrived, he talked with foreign guests for more than an hour. This button has been wrongly fastened, with one pocket inside and one pocket outside, but no one noticed.
When he left, the foreigner said to him, "Oh, dear! Thank you for your leadership: First, it shows that your leadership supports this enterprise. Second, I also learned how to wear a Chinese tunic suit. "
Only then did the leader discover his own problems. Why did the other party say that? Because this is our own costume, Hanfu, national costume, I can wear it how I want, and we can understand its personality and characteristics.
Why do many people in China look uncomfortable in suits and dresses? He can't wear it. In fact, it is most accurate for you to wear your own clothes. You are knowledgeable and experienced, and it is the best choice to wear dresses, fashions and national costumes in social occasions. Of course, the last thing you should wear in social situations is a uniform.
Third, leisure occasions. What is leisure? Leisure occasion refers to the time for personal activities after work. Probably refers to these situations: First, sleep at home. Second, exercise. Third, sightseeing. Fourth, shopping. We call these occasions leisure occasions. What are the basic requirements of dress for this occasion? Four words: comfortable and natural. In my words, as long as it doesn't violate the law, as long as it doesn't violate ethics and morality, as long as it doesn't affect stability and unity, I can wear it casually. This is the last place to dress up. You can wear underwear, vest, jeans, jacket, slippers, sandals and bare feet, as you like. However, we often have comrades make a fool of themselves. Once I went to a meeting in the United States, an American friend told me, "The people wearing suits and ties here are all from your mainland." This makes me very angry. Of course, this kind of person is an individual, but if you go to international exchanges and are seen by others, your image will be affected. Therefore, the dress should vary from occasion to occasion! On official occasions, pay attention to solemnity and conservatism. Social occasions, pay attention to fashion personality. In leisure, it pays attention to comfort and nature.
Fourth, follow the routine. You must consciously abide by the established dress code. Let's talk about the rules of wearing a suit and a skirt respectively. I've said it once, but the main points must be made. There are some rules you should pay attention to when wearing a suit. For example, the two pockets under the suit jacket, experienced people know that these two pockets can not put things. Smart people don't open the thread of that pocket when they buy a suit. Who can put things without opening them? Some of our buddies are old-fashioned at first glance. A box of cigarettes here and a bunch of keys there are like opening a grocery store, which affects the overall shape of a suit.
The most important game rule of wearing a suit, we call it three threes. Why is it called three three? There are three issues that need attention. Every question has a three-character, so it is called three threes. Which three threes?
The first "three" and three-color principle. As we have said, exquisite men know that when wearing a suit, the whole body color should not exceed three, including coat, bottoms, shirts, ties, shoes and socks, and the whole body color should be within three. This is the tricolor principle.
The second "three", the trinity rule. What is the Trinity Law? When you go out in a suit or suit on important occasions. Shoes, belts and briefcases should be the same color, and black is preferred. To tell the truth, this man and woman are different. In fact, men have little choice in clothing. Unlike lesbians, all the beautiful clothes are yours. What choice do we have? That is, suits, jackets, jeans, one button, two buttons, three buttons, no buttons, black, gray and blue, so men emphasize details. You know, what do you think men and women wear? Women wear fashion, men wear brands. The former pursues fashion, while the latter pays attention to it. It's about a grade.
The third "three", three mistakes. We once said that there are three kinds of mistakes that can't be made when wearing a suit. The first mistake is that the trademark on the sleeve has not been removed. After buying a suit, the trademark must be removed, indicating that the suit has been activated. If the trademark is not removed, it will be redundant. The second mistake is to wear a jacket, shirt and tie on very important occasions, especially in international communication. This is inappropriate. It's ok to wear jackets, short-sleeved shirts and ties for internal activities, but the external communication is not formal enough. The third mistake is the problem with socks. On important occasions, white socks and nylon stockings don't go with suits. So this must be paid attention to. This is the rule of a suit.
Let's talk about dress taboos in professional occasions first. In professional situations, men and women have six taboos, as long as they are at work.
The first taboo is too messy. Wear it indiscriminately. For example, when we see a comrade wearing a very high-grade suit and skirt, it looks like a professional dress, and you always think that she is not tasteful enough. Why? The wind burns the head and broom feet. For example, gay men wear suits and shoes.
I asked a man that day, and I said, "Why are you wearing a suit and a pair of cloth shoes?"
He told me, "Comfortable."
I said, "You dress comfortably, but we don't look comfortable."
There are also some lesbians who wear very advanced dresses and sandals and are barefoot, which is very inappropriate. Attention should be paid to important occasions, and standard leather shoes should be worn in suits and skirts. Standard leather shoes, men refer to black lace-up leather shoes, women refer to boat-shaped leather shoes, black high heels, semi-high heels, with uniforms. This is a very important rule of the game. Too messy is not allowed.
The second taboo is too bright. Uniforms or suits, all need to abide by the three-color principle. What is the tricolor principle? As I said just now, there are no more than three colors of the whole body, and men's and women's uniforms and suits must abide by this rule. Not too bright, and pay attention to the pattern. On important occasions, uniforms should be as free from patterns or standardized geometric patterns as possible. For example, my tie is striped. What else can I wear? Plaid, very light, but not too fancy, I can't print three words on it: I love you. I love you. Do you love me? Some comrades are not stable enough to watch cats, dogs, pandas, Mickey Mouse and Donald Duck. This is unacceptable.
The third taboo is overexposure. Generally speaking, we don't show our clothes on important occasions: first, we don't show our breasts, and second, we don't show our shoulders. To put it bluntly, we don't wear sleeveless clothes, you wear sleeveless clothes. Of course, gay men generally have no chance to wear sleeveless clothes, and lesbians mainly wear sleeveless clothes. You can wear sleeveless clothes for fashion, social wear and casual wear, but you can't wear sleeveless clothes for work, because sleeveless clothes will show armpit hair and maybe a circle of underwear, which is not formal enough. Do not expose the chest, shoulders, waist, back, toes and heels. This so-called formal occasion is not exposed.
The fourth taboo is excessive perspective. Pay attention to important occasions, underwear can not be seen by others through the coat, what color, what style, whether it is long or short, and whether there are patterns, which is very impolite.
The fifth taboo is too short.
The sixth taboo is too tight.
There are six inaccuracies in workplace dress, which are too messy, too bright, too exposed, too perspective, too short and too tight. It is the most basic norm of workplace dress. That's all we have to say.
Let me briefly tell you about the etiquette of decoration. Jewelry, in more important occasions, whether gay or lesbian, the decoration on the body is more important. We actually use two kinds of decorations. The first one is practical. Like gay watches, pens, lighters. We have a private saying that it is more practical to call men's three treasures. In fact, in a sense, many homosexuals now take this mobile phone, which is both practical and decorative. Sometimes expensive mobile phones can be used as small mirrors to show off. Most accessories are practical. As we said, on important occasions, men look at watches and women look at bags. This watch for men and the bag for women are very practical, but more ornaments are decorative, and it has no practical nature. The second kind is decorative. For example, what are the practical properties of lesbian earrings? What are the practical properties of brooches? The practical essence of earrings is to make the ears hear more clearly? This is not a hearing aid. If you wear a string on your anklet, what practical properties does it have? Lose weight? No way! So it is actually a decorative attribute.
Let me briefly talk about the basic etiquette that should be paid attention to when wearing and using jewelry. Generally speaking, we want to talk about the following four points:
First and foremost, the less, the better. Whether at work or in life after work, the fewer accessories you use, the better. As far as jewelry is concerned, lesbians wear rings, necklaces, earrings and brooches, which are the best of the three kinds of jewelry in ordinary occasions. No more than two pieces of each kind are the most formal. You can wear a pair of earrings and bracelets, but you can only wear two of each. There are no more than three kinds in the whole body, and more than three kinds have the feeling of self-defeating. Of course, to be honest, some people can make exceptions, and so can the bride, because the bride only comes once in her life. If you wear too many accessories, you will be in trouble. You can imagine a lesbian wearing four rings, three bracelets and two bracelets. If you say hello to someone, bracelets and bracelets will sway like hula hoops.
Second, homogeneity and color. What do you mean? Colors and styles should be coordinated. I said it once last time. I said, for example, I want to wear a gold brooch now. I'm going to wear a cheongsam skirt to the reception. I am wearing a black cheongsam and a gold brooch, which is very eye-catching. I want to wear a gold brooch. My ring or necklace should be made of gold first. I want to wear glasses. Gold-rimmed glasses will look better with my gold brooch. The texture and color should be the same. It is popular to wear platinum jewelry now, so I wear a platinum ring, and the necklace should be platinum first. Without platinum, I wear silver, without silver, I wear stainless steel. Even if it is important, it is still harmonious. So the second principle of wearing jewelry is homogeneity and color.
Third, it conforms to the custom. Ask questions when entering the country. Do as the Romans do! Now that everyone's economic conditions are good, fewer people wear gold and platinum, and now more people wear jewelry. And in the north, he prefers to wear jade. Dai Yu, a northerner, has a particular attitude, that is, men wear Guanyin and women wear Buddha. This is a matter of custom. For another example, I told many of our comrades who applied for the country. I said, "You don't care if you want to be in China. You have to go to Europe and America, especially Catholic countries. Be careful not to wear the pendant of the cross often. " If you know Christianity and Catholicism, you will know that the cross is an unlucky sign. The thing you are wearing that Christ Jesus was crucified is a bit neither fish nor fowl.
For another example, our ancestors had a habit. This is a folk custom. Ancestors generally stipulated that rings should be worn on the left hand. Don't wear the right hand, because the right hand is easy to collide, lose and wear, and the left hand is generally not good. At present, in most places at home and abroad, people wear rings on their left ring finger, which means they are married or engaged.
Once I went to a game, a foreign reporter came up to me and asked me, "Kim SLR, what do you think of that girl's name?"
I can't see clearly. I feel a little dizzy. I said, "Isn't that a woman?" You can call her miss. Don't call her big sister. Beijingers don't like being called big sister. Big sister looks old. You should call it miss. Of course, don't call others big miss. Hong Kong and Taiwan call Miss Rich. Ironically, now you call Miss Da, so you call her Miss. "
He said, "I dare not scream."
I said, "Why don't you dare scream?"
He said, "You didn't see it. She is wearing four rings. "
The foreigner also asked me, "What does this mean?"
I want to tell my own people that this is uncivilized, foreigners are here, and our family's dirty laundry can't be publicized. I played a game with him, and I said, "This is still meaningful in our mainland, and this is what it generally means ..."
I don't remember what it means. I can't even make it up. There was a domestic reporter next to me. The reporter spoke quickly and saved my life. He told foreign reporters: "This is meaningful in our mainland, and the general meaning is to show wealth."
I never thought that the other person really believed me, so I took out my book and said, "No wonder I met several people with so much money."
This is actually not rich, this is uneducated. Therefore, it is best to wear jewelry with poor quality and consistent color, which is in line with the custom.
Fourth, pay attention to collocation. Coordinate with your clothes and other jewelry. For example, if you are wearing a high-grade diamond ring, if you are genuine, the high-grade diamond ring is the most fashionable. Then at least they will complement each other. If you wear jeans and beggar clothes, people will think that the diamond ring you are wearing is glass slag. Besides, wearing a high-grade diamond ring, tens of thousands, how to take a car and take a taxi? Wearing a diamond ring when riding a bicycle, others may think, is it genuine? It's simple. At the same time, it actually has the problem of matching with other ornaments. For example, I want to ask two small questions to the comrades present here and in front of the TV. If you wear tulle gloves, sleeveless cheongsam skirt, tulle gloves and high sleeves, if you wear a ring, do you wear it inside or outside the gloves? If you wear a miniskirt, will you wear pantyhose and anklets? Is the ankle bracelet hidden inside or outside the socks?
Both are actually a matter of collocation. Specifically, where do you wear the ring when wearing tulle gloves? The standard practice is to wear the ring under the glove. You might say, "No, I often see people wearing them outside." Next time you stare, you can see who that kind of person is. That's the bride. When the bride got married openly, she announced her promise. Wearing gloves is tantamount to swearing that she is married. Abstain, abstain from its behavior, and have constraints. Most people don't need to wear a ring outside their gloves, that's a show off.
Then, when wearing stockings, should the anklet be worn inside or outside the stockings? Standard practice, wear it outside. Who wears an anklet? A nice woman with beautiful legs in walking posture. There are bells and pendants on the anklet. We experienced people all know that women wear uniforms, suits and skirts without anklets. At work, I provide professionalism and well-trained service, not beautiful figure and beautiful thighs, but social occasions are another matter. Social occasions are to highlight my beauty. The anklet is hanging outside the socks, which is equivalent to telling others: Look, we are so beautiful. Can I wear it under stockings? This is called varicose veins, so the problem of wearing jewelry is as important as the coordination of makeup we mentioned earlier. This is a matter of education and taste. If a person's clothes are used properly, it will add beauty to the beauty of your clothes. Of course, if a person's dress is not in place, it will be self-defeating and ridiculous. Introducing dress etiquette here today is to hope that everyone can beautify themselves, life and society with their own clothes.