Why do children have poor self-control? Self-control is very important in children's growth. Doing something seriously is inseparable from self-control, but many parents find that their children's self-control is very poor. Let me share why their children have poor self-control.

Why is the child's self-control poor 1 1 and immature?

Usually, children's poor self-control ability has a lot to do with their age. The development of children's nervous system in early childhood is not yet fully mature, and it is easy to get excited and difficult to suppress external stimuli. These are the main reasons for children's poor ability to resist temptation. In normal life, parents can often easily attract their children's attention with a novel toy or delicious food, which is a manifestation of their poor self-control ability.

2. Parents spoil

Many times, parents' incorrect educational methods are also one of the main reasons why children's self-control ability is difficult to enhance. Education experts remind that it is understandable that children occasionally have poor control, but if they do this for a long time, they need to consider their own problems at this time. For example, reflect on whether you have provided a healthy growth environment for your children. Nowadays, many children are only children, which can be said to be the "center" of the family from birth, and even the whole family revolves around him.

3. Parents are role models

All infants and children are in the stage of imitation and curiosity in childhood. At this time, what they like best is "following the trend". Therefore, in this case, parents must pay special attention to lead by example, because parents are the people who have the most contact with their children in their daily lives, and children in the imitation period will naturally follow their parents' words and deeds. At the same time, please think about it: Do you show anxiety when you take your children out to play in traffic jams? And whether you are often impatient when playing games with your children.

4. Don't pay attention

Now, most parents have their own jobs. In this fast-paced society, everyone has a busy job. Doing this for a long time will inevitably ignore the concern for children. If children are neglected for a long time, it will lead to the lack of parent-child communication from childhood, and it is difficult to control their behavior.

How to correct children's poor self-control ability

1, guide children's behavior through the power of example.

Whether children or pupils, they can learn how to treat others from the way their parents treat others. Parents should properly express their feelings, guide their children not to suppress their emotions, and do not express their feelings by losing their temper. For example, parents and children share their feelings. In this kind of feeling, parents teach their children a lot, and children can see how parents express depression, excitement, sadness and pleasure. In a subtle way, children gradually learn to express their feelings correctly.

2. Help children grow up through effective communication.

When parents communicate with their children in a friendly and respectful way, they can not only make them obey, but also help them deal with things around them, help them solve contradictions and let them learn self-control and cooperation. When communicating, parents should pay attention to their children's advantages and encourage them in time. Such encouragement will make their children more active.

3. Cultivate children's willpower through training.

Parents can let their children learn to play chess and draw pictures, and let them learn these skills hard to exercise their concentration and patience. In addition, parents should cultivate the habit of children doing things from beginning to end. Other people's conversation and noise outside the door will make children interrupt what is going on. Parents should help their children overcome difficulties and obstacles, urge him to complete an activity within a certain period of time, and let him feel the joy of success.

Why do children have poor self-control? What if the child has poor self-control?

1, parents should pay attention to cultivating their children's self-control from the beginning.

When the baby is two years old, he will begin to have his own sense of autonomy. He will start to express his ideas and try to make some "rebellious" moves. So, when you tell him that this won't work and that won't work, he may not listen, but he will still act arbitrarily. These are all because the baby's mind is still immature.

Step 2 Establish rules

Rules are made to cultivate children's awareness of rules. At home, parents can make "three rules" together with their children, such as eating on time and sleeping 10. Parents should strictly supervise their children to obey the rules. If children feel unfair, you should identify yourself and communicate with them. Then you have to tell him that adults also have some rules to follow, and you have to follow them. If you persist in this way for a long time, children will naturally gradually restrain themselves.

Don't spoil your children.

Parents should not spoil their children too much, but should always be around them to help them do everything well and give them whatever they want. This will only make children more unscrupulous and have no self-control. Li Tianyi is a typical example.

4. Parents' educational ideas should be consistent.

On the principle of educating children, family members should unify their concepts. We can't just talk to the children here and turn around and complain in grandma's arms. The education concept of the older generation is different from that of the younger generation, so parents must communicate well with their elders and educate their children with unified principles, otherwise it is not difficult to cultivate their self-control ability.

5, persuasion and education+timely praise

When children make mistakes, parents should patiently persuade them, not just reprimand or suppress them. Of course, in the process of persuasion, you can't just say it, but also let the children say it, let the children express their ideas, and then you can point out what the children did wrong. So that the child will understand what he has done wrong. When children show good self-control behavior, parents should not be stingy with praise, but should encourage and praise them in time to establish their self-confidence.

Causes of children's poor self-control ability

1, physical and mental development is immature

Due to the characteristics of age, children's nervous system is immature, easily excited and uncontrollable by external stimuli, and their ability to resist temptation is poor. This is why it is easy for parents to attract their children's attention with a novel toy or something delicious. Moreover, children's cognitive ability is limited, and they are not particularly clear about right and wrong, so it is normal to be impulsive and have poor control ability. As children grow older, their self-control ability will gradually increase.

2. Parents' doting parenting attitude

Although it is understandable that children occasionally have poor control, if children often do this, parents should reflect on whether they have provided a healthy environment for their children to grow up. Many children have become the "center" of the family since they were born. The whole family revolves around him and gives whatever they want, which makes the children develop the habit of "saying nothing". Children just do things according to their own preferences and can't control their own behavior.

3. The influence of parents

Children are in the period of imitation curiosity and like to "follow the trend". Ask parents to think about it: Do you show anxiety when you are caught in a traffic jam when you take your children out to play? Do you often get impatient when playing games with your children? Do you often get angry and take it out on your child when you are in a bad mood? Your casual behavior and emotions in life have a direct impact on children. Parents lack self-control, and children will also perform poorly in this respect.

4. Family members have different educational methods.

Nowadays, many families are in the "four two one" mode, so many adults surround a child. Moreover, the different educational concepts of adults will inevitably lead to their different educational methods and the different educational concepts of two generations, which is also one of the reasons.

How to help children strengthen their self-control ability

1, guide children to focus on the most important things.

You should deliberately create a scene for your children. Every night when children come home from school, they watch cartoons. You can let him study textbook knowledge 10 minutes first, read books, do homework, review and preview. After that, he can watch TV or do his favorite activities. After a while, he gradually extended his study time to 15 minutes and 20 minutes, and then gave him something he liked, so good study habits were gradually formed.

2. Respect children's interests, but don't indulge.

Why do children get distracted when they study, but not when they watch TV? It's simple. He is interested in TV and should respect children's interests. Of course, this does not mean indulgence. For example, if you choose an interest class, you must ask your child's opinion. If your child is interested in football, encourage him to play football. From sticking to what you are interested in to the end, cultivate your child's character of not giving up.

3. Guide children to eliminate failure psychology.

In fact, any positive person is often worried about winning or losing, and giving up halfway is also a form of escape. But don't worry about the consequences. It is often the best to do what you want wholeheartedly. In other words, we should guide children to believe in themselves, not to doubt their potential, and believe that they will improve the quality of all activities and concentrate.

4. Anti-interference exercises

When self-control and concentration reach a certain level of improvement, it is necessary to achieve the goal of continuous consolidation and improvement, and deliberately design some interference to test him. For example, he plays some music, TV, talks and plays while studying.