You can't have everything.
The most private letters are about universities.
One day, a reader asked me: Chen, I take everything seriously. Why am I always inferior to the people around me? Why are you always busy, or do you feel that you have wasted your time?
Actually, it's a very common problem.
You are in college, and at your best age, the most important thing in life is all kinds of possibilities.
You told yourself on the first day of school: this is my best promotion period, and I want to be a better person.
With a stroke of your pen, you launched a plan with great pride. You should study hard, develop yourself, get high marks in every subject, live a wonderful life, keep fit, write, cultivate new hobbies and be a shining person.
You listen carefully in almost every class. You secretly feel that you have worked hard and praise yourself in your heart.
You have joined many clubs, so busy that you can't even attend to the trivial things of eating. When I sigh in my heart, I am so bitter and dedicated.
Occasionally, you go to the gym, rush to find the light and angle, and punch in the circle of friends. Friends say that you live a beautiful and active life. You smile gently, and you feel the same way.
At the end of the term, you study hard one week in advance, read the borrowed review materials over and over again, and sit in the study room without heating every day 1 1 afternoon. You think you are so hard, so hard.
During the summer vacation, you went to practice, crowded the subway every morning and evening, read articles praising your dreams in the middle of the night, and fell asleep in the office for nine hours. Before coming off work, you send a chicken soup selfie in Weibo, proclaiming that you can endure today and achieve greatness tomorrow.
The days are so shaky that I am in my junior year. I thought I would be calm and complacent, but you suddenly panicked.
Looking back on the past two years, what have you done?
You are not the kind of person who stays in the dormitory all day. You have been very busy. But are you busy with something?
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Looking back, those who concentrate on their studies from the beginning have made great achievements and ranked proudly in the class; Those who have worked in the club for a long time have climbed to a good position; Those who keep silent and keep fit rarely send a message in the circle of friends, but they also have a delicate figure.
But you have done all these things. Are you really nothing like others?
You who have doubts seem to have forgotten one thing.
Those who concentrate on their studies will not listen in class in the end. How much money did they donate to the library in their spare time? You don't know, because you went to something else.
By the same token, you never know how long it will take someone else to do something "best" in your opinion.
I have always felt that many people are too greedy and want to be the best.
This is not impossible, of course. At least the writers of Time Management and Success are also tirelessly instilling in you the infinite possibilities of life.
But no matter how eloquent they are, no matter how brilliant their achievements are, they will lure you to buy their lifestyle. The person who really wants to practice is yourself. Even if the inertia is overcome to the greatest extent, we must face the pressure of time allocation.
You can think of 24 hours as 25 hours and do 5 things for 5 hours each.
But the cruel thing is, you can't compete with those who only do one thing, 10 hours a day.
In fact, it's quite basic, but in college, many people seem to be confused. We have all seen too many people who share weal and woe or run around the world, thinking that they can live such a colorful life, like the protagonist in any big-aperture youth film. In the end, I often experience enough, but I don't really get anything.
Youth is full of fallacies. It is the freshest and most vigorous heart. At the age of looking at the world, I want to strive for a little sense of superiority and exhaust all possibilities in life.
But time and energy often don't allow us to cover everything.
For example, I have always admired those people who can study quietly in universities for four years without being disturbed by some bustling things, who are better than running around, and many people see themselves as rich and diverse.
Who says it's not good to do only one thing? How good it is to do one thing to the extreme within one's own ability, like the lack of craftsman spirit in modern society.
Everyone knows that four years of college is precious. Only once, you want to catch it too much.
-but don't let yourself become superhuman powers.
If you care about your grades, you will learn from scratch; If you want to exercise yourself in the club, you should spend more time with others. If you want to stay healthy, just calm down and punch in every day. If you want to do everything, it doesn't matter if you try, but accept the fact that you may not be able to do it.
To put it bluntly, what you get will be lost. Life may be vast, a Ma Pingchuan, but we only have two hands.
Grasp what you think is most important and don't care too much about which day others choose.
Even if you are young, you can't want all kinds of life.
Inspirations of Aesthetic Youth: Old classmates are unforgettable times and lifelong love.
Meet in the most beautiful years, accompany in the charming time, and the richness of green leaves us with distinct personality and surprise. The great ambition of Honghu Lake makes us passionate. We witnessed each other's miracles and forged a lifelong love.
That beautiful past and profound friendship are all in our blood and treasured in our hearts. Your concern, your concern, my greetings, my thoughts, poured into my heart like spring water and brought warmth like spring breeze.
No matter how far apart the mountains are, no matter how long apart they are. The friendship of classmates will always shine with sincerity and purity around us.
The endless reverie in youth, the smell of parents' soil under the blue sky and white clouds, and the laughter and laughter of partners all make us dream. On the way to school, I feel very happy with my classmates, no matter how hard I work. It's still warm and happy when I think about it now.
At that time, no matter how good my deskmate was, I could turn my face in a word, but afterwards, I had to rack my brains for how to make up for it. I also try my best to make you look at me again without being seen through. Tossing and turning at night, because I can't remember English words, I am also uneasy about how to pass the exam. The great events at that time may not be worth mentioning now, and the most painful things at that time can now be said with a smile.
But these have become classics and cannot be copied. We performed our wonderful story in the green, ignorant and incredible youth.
Time has changed its face, time has passed away romance, and reality has shattered nightmares. But the friendship between classmates has become more mellow and profound. At first, I just wanted a shade, but I harvested the whole forest. I just want to get a breeze, but I am embraced by the whole spring.
The friendship of classmates nourishes our lives and warms our hearts. My classmate, when you need help, you are the first person to appear. My classmate, you are the first person to reach out when you are in trouble. It's you, my classmate, who listened to me when I was confused. We have been integrated into each other's lives. With the communication between thoughts and hearts.
After many years, are we still classmates? Don't! We are not related by blood now. We are lucky to have each other for life.
Although it has been so long since today, we are still young and beautiful. A happy future awaits our common development, and a beautiful life awaits our common creation. 20 16, let's hold on to the cable of the ship of friendship and start a new voyage together.
Inspirations of Aesthetic Youth: Sing a sad song and sigh the farewell song of youth.
The world, from the other side, who promised who the third fireworks? On this shore, the years have passed, and the old face has been heartbroken. On the other side, the paradise of dreams, I carved it into the shape of hell with my heart. On this shore, sporadic promises are full of waiting. On the other hand, the fleeting time is easy to turn, and in a blink of an eye, it has already become the glory of the sunset. On this shore, I built a wall with my life, but the past was destroyed just because of one look. On the other hand, the fireworks in my last life, I have been wandering all my life, but I still have endless worries. This shore, I also refuse, even if I sink into the horizon, I can't refuse myself. I use this shore to pay homage to the time on the other side. I'm still on this remaining lost road. -inscription
Not because of the vicissitudes of time, I can't understand the beauty of fireworks in an instant. It's not that I've been through too much. More is the disappointment of that paper.
I believe that time has created a group of people who are smart in accidents. I also believe that we have all thought that I want to be such a person. I care too much, too much, but I'm insensitive. For those who are full of sympathy, I can only turn off the fire from another world, watch all kinds of shows and smell all kinds of injuries in the world, and gradually find that this big stage is not suitable for sentient beings and righteous people. Sometimes cool thin's carelessness doesn't hurt himself.
There are some years, we have had gentle years and amazing times; Some flowers are blooming, fragrant and beautiful. Seasons change, years go by, and the warmth from the bottom of my heart can always stir up ripples in my heart; Those encounters that touch the soul will always be the tenderest touch in my heart when I think of them. In everyone's eyes, there is a face that never grows old, sometimes clear and sometimes trance. Everyone's years, there are always some unforgettable fragments, which will never be forgotten and will not disappear on the quiet river bank. Those times that touched our hearts will stay in the past forever. The smarter you are, the more blurred you are. There is always one thing that I can't forget, but I will never mention it again. There is always a time in my life, and I have been looking for it all my life. Did we kill time, or did time not take care of us? Will the memories I often think of in my life live in a lonely heart forever?
Life is a lot of vicissitudes and helplessness. I dragged my tired body and continued to wander in the confused world with those wandering steps. I don't know how many storms, frosts and pains we will encounter ahead. ...
The lonely figure on the path is me, or you, transparent, with the illusion of deja vu. If you really travel with me. Why hide, is this world helpless, or you and I belong to the Tao. I seem to be prosperous and quiet, as if the dust had settled. Occasionally the wind blows, and the petals slip quietly like tears. That amazing story, brewed in ordinary tears, a vague word passed through the curtain of tears and still stayed on the last petal of late spring. Life is like a flower, and it plays the bitter drama of life again and again, always at midnight.