Breaking up in love is very common. Breaking up means we chose the wrong person. We need to adjust our mood quickly after lovelorn. We need to know whose emotional path can't always be smooth sailing, and how to accept and resolve ourselves. What can I do if I am lovelorn? 1, accept the fact of lovelorn. Psychologically speaking, people suffer because they can't accept the reality. So many people will try to paralyze themselves briefly with alcohol and tell themselves that all this is not true. But after waking up, they are lovelorn or lovelorn. The fact has not changed, and the pain will be doubled. Emotional things cannot be forced. When a relationship is over, no one can force another person to turn back. In this world, there are very few people who can make the first love a positive result. Losing love is a normal thing in life, and it is not a shameful thing. Sometimes our lovelorn pain is not the pain of lovelorn itself, but the change brought about by lovelorn: what will others think of me after lovelorn? What will people around me say about me? The correct way to treat lovelorn is not to escape, not to get drunk, not to give up on yourself, but to accept it bravely. Accept the fact that you are lovelorn. Tell yourself after accepting it: I'm single again, it's no big deal. In the future, the person who loves me will appear again. From now on, be yourself, wait slowly and wait for that person to appear. 2. It is a kind of life wisdom to divert attention from the present. Life, except life and death, is a trivial matter. Nothing can't be overcome. After being lovelorn, we can divert our attention. You can travel and experience the great rivers and mountains of the motherland. You can sign up for a painting class to cultivate your own sentiment. When you meditate on the beautiful scenery in front of you, your heart will be suddenly enlightened and you will not be so entangled in the pain of lovelorn. 3. Try to improve yourself. Although lovelorn is painful, being single is the best appreciation period. When you are lovelorn, some people give up on themselves, while others choose to improve themselves. When you are lovelorn, if you choose to give up on yourself, you will find that life is really a chicken feather and you can't continue. But if you choose to improve yourself, when all this goes on, you will suddenly find that lovelorn is not so terrible, and suddenly find that you have achieved a better self for so many days. Lovelorn place 1, Shangri-La, China, some people are on the road with longing for love, and some people have to travel with a sad heart. Leaving is to forget that people often need to exile themselves in lovelorn love and travel around the world sadly, but on the long road, they have tasted another taste of life. There are many legends about Shangri-La, but no matter which version, it is inseparable from the mysterious, beautiful and auspicious praise of Shangri-La. People say that Shangri-La is beautiful because it has vast grasslands, majestic snow-capped mountains, pines and cypresses, flowing water, snow-white snow lotus, green Haizi, exotic Tibetan medicine, angel black-necked cranes with thick butter tea, spiritual trips, pilgrimage to Meili Snow Mountain and hiking through Shangri-La. Facing those ancient city walls, Angkor Wat in Cambodia tells your sadness and secrets. Just like Zhou Muyun in In the Mood for Love, at the end of the play, he stood there quietly and told the secret buried in his heart. Forgetting is for a better start. It is said that Angkor Wat is synonymous with Cambodia. I believe no one will object. Most people go to Cambodia for Angkor. Cambodia's national flag is also marked by Angkor Wat. 3. Is there a more melancholy city in Prague, Czech Republic? Experience the unbearable lightness of life here. As Nietzsche said, "when I want to use another word to express music, I only find Vienna;" And when I want to use another word to express' mystery', I only think of' Prague'. The lonely and disturbing beauty of Prague is exactly what you need to share with another person who has a heart in your heart at that time. At a stop on the Silk Road in Dunhuang, China, westerners came over and were deeply impressed by oriental Buddhism and sculpture. In this small natural basin surrounded by mountains, the snow water of Danghe River moistens fertile soil, and the shade of green trees blocks the black wind and yellow sand; Grain, cotton, drought and flood guarantee the harvest, melons and fruits are fragrant all year round, the wonders of the desert are mysterious, and the Gobi is strange since ancient times; Cultural remains are world-famous and talented people come forth in large numbers. The beautiful Dunhuang, the hometown of Tian Fei, is a pearl in the world art treasure house. This is a rich, magical and charming land. How to get out of lovelorn 1 quickly and adjust the mentality of love is indeed a very important part of life. If you are lovelorn, it is really impossible to say that you don't want to stay at all, unless you are still distracted. However, we can try not to define love as life or the whole of life. Without love, does life really work? As it turns out, this may not be the case. Our work, study and life ... have to go on. In the face of temporary lovelorn, we may need to gradually cultivate such courage: in this world, whoever leaves can still live well, or even live better. Try not to hate, after all, it was our own choice, and we began to work hard for our own lives. Time will gradually dilute those pains, and what we need to work hard is to make ourselves better during this time. 2. Try to talk about being in a lovelorn period, and some negative emotions are normal (such as depression, loneliness, irritability, etc. If we want to live a good life, we must find ways to alleviate and adjust these negative emotions. Talking may be one of the effective methods. Many times, what we need may be someone who can "listen to me". After spitting out those unpleasant things, the mood will be much easier. You should choose the person to talk to according to everyone's actual situation. Besides face-to-face chatting, keeping a diary and sending Weibo may also be useful ways to talk. 3, move, don't be idle, this is another effective measure to deal with negative emotions. Often, the more free time we have, the easier it is to recall the past unconsciously, and there will be no struggle when we are focused and busy with the work and things at hand. In fact, we use actions to divert our attention from past events. Specifically, the range of action is very wide, as long as you can concentrate on yourself: hard work, study and recharge, social activities, travel, shopping, fitness, beauty, food, singing K, watching movies, playing games, eating chicken ... 4. Prepare for the next relationship. After all, the moment of lovelorn is temporary, not necessarily a bad thing. You may meet someone more suitable in the future. Then you must work hard to prepare yourself for the future ta, or you will miss the opportunity when that day really comes. The specific strategy requires us to take action with reference to article 3. Besides distracting attention, it can also make us live better, healthier and more chic. What's it like to be lovelorn? When you are in that environment, you will feel that your daily life is particularly bad. During that time, your feelings actually controlled your reason, and you couldn't do anything else at all. You were in pain every day. If you have deep feelings for that person, the pain will be more serious for you. When you wake up every morning, you will feel that time has passed a long time. I can't sleep well every night. Maybe you paralyze yourself with tears every day, because you can't control this pain at all, and there is no reason to tolerate your pain. Solution to lovelorn love 2 Four things you can't do after lovelorn love, and immediately put into new feelings. It is always said that the best way to forget someone is to fall in love with another person at once, but the result of this is that you don't know your feelings, and you just choose to give yourself a short retreat on impulse. In fact, most of such love endings are short-lived, and sometimes it is very likely to meet inappropriate people, which is not worth the candle. This is unfair to another person, because there is only so much space in your heart. When you are still pretending to be another person, how much room do you have for another person? Crazy Work Many people think that crazy work will stop the operation of the brain in some way and temporarily anesthetize the pain of lovelorn. Of course, this is indeed a good way to work hard, especially some things that I gave up because of love or things that I always wanted to do but didn't do, which can achieve twice the result with half the effort, but it is easy for them to go to the other extreme, that is, they will never believe in love again, or even refuse love, thus missing many beautiful marriages. Overeating because of the psychological trauma caused by lovelorn, many people have adopted a similar way of self-harm, that is, unscrupulous overeating, and temporarily forget the pain through overeating. But this seemingly rewarding method is not only harmful to the body, but also reminds yourself of the past, so it is actually an inner torture, plus the weight gain after overeating. Forcing a smile is the way many people who want to be strong adopt. They look as happy as before, even happier than before. However, who knows that what is hidden under their happy appearance is actually deeper pain, which obviously cannot be redeemed by Lacrimosa after a simple person, so it is very likely that they will collapse in an instant after a long period of disguise. How to get rid of the pain as soon as possible after lovelorn 1, the pain comes from the unwilling heart, in fact, she may not be suitable for you. Your pain mainly comes from two points: first, for this relationship, no matter what the facts are, you are unwilling, because you feel psychologically unbalanced because you have not paid back the money; Second, you may not be convinced and pay little, but being rejected is a frustrating experience after all. Why? What you can't get is the best. You don't believe it. Therefore, there will always be some reluctance before a new relationship comes. 2, even if it takes only half a year to feel bad about being lovelorn, it is of course a negative stimulus, which is easy to cause all kinds of physical and mental adverse reactions. However, psychological research has found that in the process of human evolution, there is always a process of not adapting to new and different stimuli. No matter how great the surprise, such as winning the lottery, or how painful it is, the general adaptation period is six months. At this time, regardless of happiness or pain, psychological feelings have returned to the same level as before. Therefore, when you are lovelorn, suicide and murder are the most irrational and uneducated choices. As you can see, no one has killed anyone or attempted suicide because of lovelorn love. After half a year, no one did not regret the original choice. Even if life abuses you a thousand times, you should try to be calm and calm, and wait at least half a year to find out! 3. Recite words when you are lovelorn. So what have you done in the past six months? The human brain is divided into two parts: reason and emotion. When one side is excited, the other side tends to be depressed. When lovelorn, the perceptual brain dominates, which makes people feel painful and confused, and then the rational brain is suppressed; If the rational brain is awakened at this time and the emotional brain is suppressed, then the pain will be alleviated. Therefore, the solution to the pain of lovelorn is to wake up the rational brain, such as reciting words and doing exercises at this time. If you can devote yourself wholeheartedly to it and restrain emotional brain activity, you will be less sad. In addition, research shows that people in a negative emotional state will do better if they do meticulous and patient work. Therefore, it is a common phenomenon in our university that people will easily pass Band 6 when they are lovelorn! Of course, lovelorn is also a crisis period of bad habits: some studies have found that the brain regions related to physical trauma of subjects who suffer from interpersonal rejection are active at this time, that is to say, isolated people will really suffer physical and mental pain. So they will use anesthetics and stimulants to relieve this pain, and these initial functions are used to stop bleeding and relieve pain. This is the psychological reason why many people want to get drunk after falling in love. Besides, there is a simpler way to awaken the rational brain and suppress the perceptual brain, which is easier than memorizing words. Therefore, others choose to indulge in games after falling in love.