Boredom and irritability always appear in life, which makes us miss the opportunity to enjoy life again and again. How does this disturbing emotion appear and how can we get rid of it? Say boring first.
There is a male deer. He walked faster and faster, and finally became a road (deer).
Boredom is a negative emotion.
Boredom is simpler than irritability, and the solution is relatively simple. Boredom belongs to a negative emotion, which can be expressed through the pedigree of negative emotions:
As shown in the above figure, anger and anxiety are two extremes of negative emotions, while boredom can be biased in the direction of anger or anxiety at the midpoint according to different people's understanding. I feel a little angry or unhappy because I am bored. According to this understanding, we can set the boring position to the left of the midpoint of the spectrum.
The cause of boredom
If we want to feel the external stimulus, the intensity of the stimulus must be greater than a minimum value, which is called the stimulus threshold. For example, the sound must reach 20HZ to be felt by us. 20HZ is the threshold.
Compared with the five senses, our emotions also have a "stimulus threshold". The minimum threshold for different personality types to cause excitement is different for everyone according to their own growth environment. Threshold because the stimulus did not reach the value we needed, our "starter" to control excitement was not activated, and we were bored.
A toothpick was walking on the road and saw a hedgehog coming. He waved and shouted, Hi! Bus.
Boring solution
Now that we know that boredom is caused by external stimuli not reaching the intensity we need, the solution to boredom becomes simple.
I. Stimulation
Since the stimulus is not enough to excite us, we can strengthen the stimulus intensity of the surrounding environment.
If you are bored in a very quiet environment, you can play some music for yourself, or watch an attractive Oscar-rated movie, so that the boredom will be swept away with the auditory, visual and psychological stimuli you receive.
I have to mention the difference between extroversion and introversion. Extroverts and introverts can be understood as extroverts and introverts. For extroverts, the threshold for them to get excited is relatively higher than that for introverts, so a noisy environment for introverts may make extroverts feel bored. Relatively speaking, extroverts need more external stimuli to continue their studies, while introverts need a quiet environment to calm themselves down.
Two. sports
Besides keeping healthy, exercise also plays a great role in improving our mood. If we go out for a walk or go to the gym, we will feel much better than before. Exercise stimulates the body to produce a hormone called endorphin, which helps to improve pleasure and happiness. So when you feel bored, you can choose to take a walk or exercise, activate your emotional state through your body, and let more things to do flood into your brain.
Three. change
Since boredom belongs to a negative emotion, it can be transformed into a positive emotion through certain methods. We attribute boredom to anger, and the positive emotion corresponding to anger is empathy, so we can turn boredom into positive emotion and kill boredom.
Empathy refers to our ability to feel the feelings and thoughts of others. It can make us feel the feelings of others, as if we are communicating with others' hearts, and let you realize each other's mental journey. The basic method of using empathy is listening. When you are bored, you can find an old friend of yours and listen carefully to him talk about his life and recent experience.
In a global survey, socializing is considered to be the most enjoyable thing besides sex, so socializing is a very good way to solve boredom, whether from pleasure or empathy.
in a flutter
Compared with boredom, the causes of irritability are more complicated and the intensity of emotions is much stronger. Since it is also a negative emotion, it can also be expressed in the emotional spectrum.
Because there are many reasons for fidgeting, it can be because others have done something wrong to make you fidgety, or because you are worried about something, so fidgeting can appear on any side of the spectrum according to different situations. Whether anger is dominant or anxiety is dominant, there are some general methods to solve it.
1. Make yourself happy.
In 1988, Professor Fritz Stulke and his colleagues made a study, asking people to judge the funny degree of Gary Larson's cartoon expedition in two different situations. A group of participants were asked to put a pencil in their mouth, but people didn't know that the pencil wouldn't touch their lips. The other group was asked to hold the end of the pencil only with their lips, which actually made them frown. The results show that people can really experience emotions related to expressions. Compared with participants who frown, participants who smile feel happier, so they also feel "expedition"
The stewardess practiced smiling by biting chopsticks.
Research shows that not only our emotions will affect our expressions, but also our expressions will in turn affect our emotions. Therefore, when we are upset, keeping ourselves smiling can relieve our upset mood a lot, thus bringing a stable mentality to solve problems.
If you think it is useless to make yourself smile by biting a pencil, then you can look at the smiling expression of Mr. Bean or someone similar. Our empathy genes determine our ability to automatically imitate other people's expressions, but when we see a smiling expression, we naturally make a smiling expression.
Legally high ~
Two. sports
Just like the effect of exercise mentioned in the boring solution above, endorphins can help us improve our sense of pleasure and calm our troubled mood. If there is no condition for exercise, eating a piece of chocolate can also bring the same effect.
sit still/quietly
Find a comfortable posture to sit down, close your eyes, focus on your breathing, let your breathing calm down, and let your thoughts spread with your imagination. As your thoughts spread, many scenes will appear in our minds. With the gradual deepening of communication, imagination will give us one solution after another. Since you still haven't got a solution after sitting quietly, it can at least calm your mood and help you solve the problem in the future. If you have studied yoga and meditation, you can do it through meditation.
In view of the anger dominates the irritable mood:
Anger is always a taboo word. Anger often brings many results that will be troublesome to deal with later. Therefore, in view of the anger-dominated emotion, we can't let this negative emotion continue. If we can't solve it in time, we will only invent more reasons for our anger, which will lead to uncontrollable results.
Facing the irritability caused by anger, we need to strengthen our self-monitoring ability. Self-monitoring can help us to see our state clearly when we are carried away by anger and make adjustments in time, just like when we are angry, we look at ourselves in an out-of-body state and tell ourselves, "No, this can't be done. How can I be so angry? "
Self-monitoring ability is a kind of ability that can be cultivated. Whenever we are angry about something done by others, we can take out paper and pen and write down:
1. What is the reason for being angry?
2. If someone makes me angry, what does he do?
3. Why did he do it?
Is there any motive that I didn't think of that led him to do such an act that made me angry?
If I were in his position, would I do the same thing?
Being aware of your anger in time and strengthening your self-monitoring ability can prevent the outbreak of anger in time and fundamentally eliminate anger-oriented emotional irritability when you are on the verge of anger in your future life.
Anxiety-type emotional irritability:
Anxiety has always been a harmful emotion that does great harm to the body, especially to women. Therefore, in the face of anxious emotional irritability, it is necessary to stop it in time. When we start to feel uneasy because we are worried about something, or when we can't sleep in bed at night, we can also take out a pen and paper and write down:
1. What worries me so much?
If this happens, what is the worst result?
3. What can I do to solve this problem?
What will happen if I solve this problem?
What should I do now?
When you write these down, you will give yourself a clear idea, and your brain will no longer be occupied by anxious thoughts, which will affect your thinking ability. When your mind is in a clear state, you can make the right decision about something you hate instead of being afraid of it.