How do preschool teachers adjust emotional stress and negative emotions?
30-year-old Jiang Han (pseudonym) is a kindergarten teacher in a private kindergarten. From 8: 00 a.m. to 4: 30 p.m., she will take care of 25 children aged 2-3, eat, drink and be merry with another deputy class teacher and life teacher. ? It was not until the last child was safely taken away that a heart was completely put down. ?
Yao Lixin, director of Hangzhou Mental Health Education Research Center, told reporters that 0/3% of primary and secondary school teachers in Hangzhou/KLOC have various psychological problems, and kindergarten teachers are under greater psychological pressure because of factors such as establishment, professional title, income and social status. At the same time, due to the young clients, heavy workload, children's personal safety and poor communication between teachers and children, it is easy for preschool teachers to have negative emotions.
Preschool teachers should learn emotional management.
However, in the face of children who are also difficult to discipline, some teachers will turn the spring breeze into rain, while others will take drastic actions.
Luo Hong, a doctor of psychology and an associate professor at Zhejiang Sci-Tech University, believes that everyone has pressure in life, and the wrong coping style exposes their own psychological problems. He said that practitioners will have industries that serve people? Empathy? That is, transfer the emotions of important people to the clients. A female teacher who is neglected by her husband at home is more likely to get angry with her children. Actually, it's to divert her husband's anger.
Relevant research shows that stress comes from the imbalance between work and life, which is especially obvious for women. Luo Hong believes that at present, in the female-dominated kindergarten teacher industry, in addition to formulating and observing strict professional ethics, emotional management should become a compulsory course for them.
? The client is a child who can't protect himself. If employees can't manage their emotions correctly, it will undoubtedly increase the chances of hurting children. ? He said.
Mental health should be the most basic entry threshold for teachers.
Schumann, a national second-level psychological counselor, is often invited to go to school to do psychological counseling for students. She said with deep experience that many schools attach importance to students' mental health, but ignore the psychological counseling for teachers. When the teacher's negative emotions can't find an outlet, then the child may become the most direct victim.
? Some formal large companies will conduct corresponding psychological evaluation and personality test on candidates when recruiting employees, but unfortunately, most schools may ignore this item, leading to people with low mental health level entering the teaching staff. ? Schumann said,? As soon as children enter school, they leave their parents' arms and begin to contact the society. First, if they meet a teacher who doesn't know how to deal with emotions, has no self-control and has a defective personality, the psychological damage to children will be lifelong. ?
? In this sense, mental health and sound personality should become the most basic entry threshold for teachers. ? Schumann said.
Case 1
Cheng Lei, 24, is a public kindergarten teacher with two years' teaching experience.
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On the day of the interview, Cheng Lei just attended the training of "Teachers' Effective Response in Collective Teaching Activities" organized by Jianggan District Education Bureau. Just last week, she was admitted to the national psychological counselor.
With the emphasis on preschool education, society, parents and teachers themselves have higher and higher requirements for this industry. Two years ago, Cheng Lei graduated from Hangzhou Preschool Teachers' College, and has been studying various skills training and lectures in and out of the park.
The lesson that impressed her the most was Ying Cai Yun, a famous Shanghai preschool education expert. The teacher said that if you love life, you will have an open mind and enough wisdom to deal with all kinds of relationships, such as relationships with boyfriends and parents. Only in this way can we have enough enthusiasm and patience to love our work and children.
School is the best support system for teachers.
Cheng Lei said that loving this job and loving the children here has a lot to do with their kindergarten besides their own reasons.
She is from Shaoxing, but she has never felt strange in kindergarten. This is because they have a caring and understanding team.
Kindergarten leaders will give them as many training opportunities as possible, and they will gossip about their love process, which will make teachers feel very warm.
At the initiative of teachers, various societies have been established in the park, such as mountaineering clubs, reading clubs, fitness dances and so on. Teachers choose to participate according to their hobbies. Cheng Lei took part in a fitness dance. A dance not only drove away fatigue, but also made her happy.
When the child is unreasonable, let yourself calm down first.
Should children be punished for being naughty? According to Cheng Lei, 100 children have 100 languages. It is natural for children to be naughty. She prefers to find out what children want through naughty behavior through behavior itself. Get everyone's attention, or do you want to get your favorite toys?
When she felt helpless, the first class of the newborn child was full of crying. Sometimes it's hard to calm down, but as soon as one child starts to cry, the other children immediately follow suit. But at this time,? I'm not upset, but distressed. Cheng Lei said,? I will calm myself down first, then try to deal with it, and distract them by playing games, telling stories and playing with toys. ?
What if it still doesn't work? Then I'll ... recommend it? Give it to an experienced teacher, and maybe it will be OK! ? Cheng Lei, who has studied psychological counseling, said.
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Teacher Zhang, the head teacher of a primary school in Hangzhou, is 42 years old and has been teaching for 22 years.
To save? Problem students? She spends her spare time visiting house to house.
There is a child who has poor grades and always makes trouble, making others unable to attend classes. So, parents are unanimous in asking for this? Black sheep? Kick your child out of class.
What should teachers do in the face of such requirements? A year ago, teacher Zhang faced such a situation. After she took over, she faced a dilemma and thought for a long time, and decided not to abandon the child. She went door to door asking parents to give their children a chance to correct themselves.
Her sincerity touched her parents. For children who are unacceptable to others, Mr. Zhang knows that he can only change if he really likes and accepts him. So she mobilized the whole class to help him, and when she found that he had something outstanding, she affirmed him; Praise him if he makes a little progress. Later, the children integrated into the collective, made great progress, achieved good results in their favorite fields, and the class also formed a United and upward atmosphere.
Teacher Zhang, who has been teaching for 22 years, said with confidence. I love every student. In my eyes, every child is an angel? .
Loving children is the most basic professional quality of teachers.
? I am just an ordinary teacher who knows how to educate. As long as you really love your work, love your students, and have a sense of responsibility, the teacher can't be worse. ?
In teacher Zhang's view, any profession, no matter how enthusiastic it is at first, will produce job burnout over time, not to mention such trivial teaching work. She also had job burnout, but what supported her was her innate love for children. At the beginning, it was because of this love that she chose to teach and educate people.
? Nowadays, children are very hard and have no time to enjoy a happy childhood. A caring and powerful teacher may become the sunshine in their lives, while an unloving and even distorted teacher will become a nightmare for children. Teacher Zhang said,? Therefore, when making a career choice, everyone should carefully consider whether they love this job enough and whether they love their children enough. ?
Empathy is very important when emotions come up.
For 22 years, the only thing that can make Mr. Zhang? Emotional out of control? Yes, that is, students make actions that endanger personal safety. Personal safety is the high-voltage line of every school. Children are small and have weak safety awareness. At this time, Mr. Zhang will severely criticize them, but afterwards he will explain to parents and ask them to cooperate to strengthen their children's safety education. What makes Teacher Zhang happy is that her parents trust her very much, support her and understand her. This is also of great help to the success of her educational work.
Teacher Zhang admits that there are many things in life that he can't handle, and he also has many emotions, but he will never bring them to work. When encountering a child who made a mistake, Teacher Zhang's handling method is like this:
1. Empathy and tolerance. There is no child who does not make mistakes. When children know that they are wrong, they admit their mistakes and correct them. After all, the purpose of punishment is to let children know where they are wrong and correct their mistakes.
2. Expand your vision and change your position. Life will never be smooth sailing, and everyone has troubles. Emotions in life should find a suitable outlet and not be brought to work.
3. Stop processing and adjust your mood. If you encounter a difficult situation, calm down first and deal with it when you are in a good mood.