In 20 19, he was selected into Forbes China's elite list under the age of 30, with an annual salary of 200 million and a luxury house of 65,438+300 million, which is equal to the first-class stars!

Li Jiaqi's assets far exceed others'. While he envies others, many netizens trace his family background ... It is puzzling that Li Jiaqi, who is worth over 100 million yuan, let his father drive a truck on the construction site.

Many people questioned Li Jiaqi: "You earn so much money, why don't you give it to your father to support the elderly?" ? Parents don't have to work hard anymore. It's really unfilial. "

That's it. Should Li Jiaqi give his father 100 million dollars to enjoy life?

0 1 There are many factors for a person to succeed, and family education is a crucial link.

There is a topic on Zhihu, "Why are so many people broadcasting live, but Li Jiaqi is on fire?"

Why him? Because his father is still driving on the construction site.

Li Jiaqi's father is a clever and enlightened man. When he meets like-minded people, he will also take the initiative to talk about his son Li Jiaqi and feel proud and happy for his son.

His marriage is not very successful, but this does not prevent him from becoming a good father. In the face of the child's unusual exquisiteness, he chose to let nature take its course instead of cynicism or irony.

Someone interviewed him: "Why don't you ask Li Jiaqi to provide for your old age? Why do you do such a hard job? "

He said, "What do I want with his (son Li Jiaqi's) money? I have my own hands and feet, self-sufficient. Is this not good? "

Moved by his self-confidence, hard work and simplicity, this is the concept of normal people, but it does not seem to be the concept of normal people.

Some time ago, Huang Duoduo's fitness photos were screened. For this reason, I also wrote an article: 14 years old, many fitness photos have been screened, Huang Lei: 15 years old is not puppy love!

Huang Lei is a very enlightened father, but it is undeniable that his family does have this economic condition and family background, which provides a good learning atmosphere and growth conditions for children.

What about ordinary people like us? What should I do?

In fact, the real test is not the child's talent, but the emotional intelligence and wisdom of parents.

Someone once asked me, "What is the secret of success?"

This is too big, how to define "success"? How can there really be any "martial arts secrets" in the world?

If there is, it should be borrowed from Ding Yuanying's sentence in # Paradise #: "There are no myths in this world, and the so-called myths are just ordinary things that ordinary people can't easily understand."

I think Li Jiaqi's father has some "attitudes towards life that ordinary people can't understand".

What kind of father and son.

When this concept of life is projected on Li Jiaqi, we can understand the way he has gone-after graduating from college, he got a job as a cosmetics counter and became a full-time beauty consultant.

As a cosmetic consultant, men are not easily accepted by the world.

Many things can't be put off. If you use his current grades to push back his previous choice, you will feel that his choice is really right!

But when we don't know the result, who can say it's wise?

Obviously, he never thinks that a college student has any grievances when he stands at the cosmetics counter, nor does he think that it is shameful to put lipstick on his mouth.

He accepted everything that life gave him and finally got more gifts from life.

Naturally, when he earns money, his idea is the same as everyone else-to give his family a better life, but he respects his father's own wishes and lets him do the work he likes.

Many retired people have a deep understanding-nothing to do, sometimes more tired than something to do!

What kind of father has what kind of son, Li Jiaqi's performance is exactly the same as his father's, and their mutual respect and positive attitude towards life has won the appreciation of a group of netizens.

Having a son like Li Jiaqi is the pride of his father's life; It is also the luck of Li Jiaqi's life to have such a hardworking and kind father.

Since childhood, Li Jiaqi has been ridiculed as "Niang". As a result, when I grew up, I did a cross-dressing job as a "man with lipstick" ......

Whether Li Jiaqi or his father, they can do what they want, because they really think their work is not inferior, and they can get a sense of accomplishment from it.

Follow your heart and choose jobs you like, not those that look decent.

There is no distinction between nobility and inferiority in this world. It is people's narrow vision that divides them into three or six classes.

If you twist, it will twist even more; You calm down, it will calm down. As long as you eat by yourself, don't steal or rob, there is nothing shameful.

03 sense of boundaries

In fact, there is a very important topic in this matter, and that is the sense of boundary between parents and children.

China people like to use "intimacy" to express their feelings for each other, and think that the closer the relationship, the closer it should be.

Psychologist Wu Zhihong mentioned such a concept in his book: 90% of people in China are still giant babies in psychological mode, and the family relationship mode is that mother and son are born.

Why do children always can't tell what is their own business and what is their parents' business?

Why do parents always take pains to do everything and complain at the same time?

The key to the problem is that there is no good boundary with children!

Whether you are a writer or not, whatever your purpose is, you should know something about psychology.

We often see all kinds of reports about "NEET" and "Mom, Mom and Baby" on the Internet, and sometimes we are puzzled. Why is the parent-child relationship in China always abnormal?

It is nothing more than ignoring the "sense of boundary."

Many Chinese families are often born in a * * * relationship, and the boundaries are blurred. I have you in me, you have me in you, and the cycle is infinite.

Some parents ask their children in the name of love, but in the final analysis they just want to control their children and let them live according to their own standards.

In the name of love, there is no room to break through the security boundary.

But Li Jiaqi and his son respect each other and are proud of each other. This kind of benign father-son relationship is really rare.

The best parent-child relationship is just the right love.

04 Independent personality

It is difficult to talk about independent personality because of the lack of sense of boundary.

Just when Li Jiaqi became popular, netizens were "shocked" that his father was still working and driving on the construction site, and asked Li Jiaqi why he didn't "raise" his father.

This accusation is based on a "decadent outlook on life".

The so-called "decadent outlook on life" means "working hard" and "living hard" is ridiculous. Like a pig, people should crawl slowly in the circle, move a little, cry and cry, and cry that the world is not worth it.

It's really good to see a sentence on the internet, "The world is cold, learn to stand on your own feet". There is a line in "Big Dyeing House":

"Good father, good mother, not as good as self-improvement. Sixty-four hexagrams, "doing" is the first, and when swearing, it is said: Heaven is healthy and gentlemen are constantly striving for self-improvement. "

If this sentence looks like a slogan, if it is done, it is "success".

Finally, I hope you can see yourself in other people's stories.