Tang Jing has such a line in My First Half Life: "Love is perishable and marriage is fragile, so I pursue material and spiritual independence day and night."
Many people especially like an independent woman like Tang Jing, although she was a tragic figure in my first half of life. At the end of the TV series My First Half Life, everyone likes Tang Jing and hates Luo Zijun. Where is the tragedy of Tang Jing? She liked that man for many years, but fell in love with her best friend, so that she finally had to resign and leave.
This is more the fault of He Han and Luo Zijun, but Tang Jing also has some problems. Some people say that women who are too dependent on men are terrible, but women who are too independent are even more terrible. Tang Jing belongs to the latter.
Tang Jing is a competitive person. When she gets along with He Han, she always keeps a certain distance. There is a sense of strangeness, such as keeping He Han away. Although we can see that Tang Jing really likes He Han, she and Luo Zijun have different pursuits: she has been pursuing economic independence and wants to improve her ability, and even He Han is unwilling to give up her share of strength, which eventually leads to this.
However, Tang Jing was right. For women, they should not give up their efforts because of the stability of their marriage. Both Tang Jing and Luo Zijun finally proved that economic independence is undoubtedly the most important self-confidence for women. If Luo Zijun is still that Luo Zijun, Chen won't regret it, and He Han won't like her; Compared with Tang Jing, her biggest bright spot is independence. Even without He Han, Tang Jing can live well alone, but Luo Zijun may not.
I even think that without the help of He Han and Tang Jing, Luo Zijun could not have succeeded in counterattack.
What is the most important thing for a woman?
Whether before or after marriage, I think the most important thing for a woman is economic independence. It's a pity that too many people can't control themselves and give up their careers after women enter marriage. It is the normal state of many women's marriage, and it is also the fate that they can't get rid of.
Qin Wei is 38 years old. She is engaged in the most dangerous job in the world-housewife. She has been a housewife for more than three years and deeply understands the hardships and grievances of being a full-time mother, but her previous life was not like this.
She will be very happy when she falls in love with zhangqian. They met in a cooperative project and came together because they appreciated each other's abilities. However, Jess Zhang is particularly male chauvinistic, and Qin Wei's parents are quite complaining about it. However, Qin Wei believes that if a man has no temper, he is not handsome and domineering. No matter how her parents persuaded her, she refused to listen and married Zhang Qian without hesitation.
When they got married, Zhang Qian was also sincere, and made a solemn pledge of love, which was touching. Clashing vows made Qin Wei's heart move. Qin Wei still remembers what Zhang Qian said: "As long as you marry me, I won't let you suffer or be wronged. I will make you happy all your life, I will make you happy, and then I will always accompany you. When we are old, I will tell our story to our children. "
A few years before marriage, zhangqian's vows of eternal love did come true. After marriage, the two were inseparable and their feelings have always been very good. In the third year, Qin Wei was pregnant, and Zhang Qian loved her in every way. All the housework in the family is undertaken by zhangqian. Zhangqian never lets her into the kitchen. She doesn't even smell smoke.
After giving birth, in order to help Qin Wei return to work as soon as possible, zhangqian insisted on accompanying her to exercise. He also took his mother in the country to look after their children. Because a child was too lonely, at the urging of his mother, Qin Wei was pregnant with a second child at the age of 34.
It is also because she gave birth to a second child that her mother-in-law doesn't have so much energy to look after her children. Qin Wei resigned and became a housewife. Qin Wei certainly didn't want to give up her job, but Zhang Qian told her, "Shouldn't women stay at home? I can support you both. When you get married, don't you just say that I will earn money to support my family in the future, and you are responsible for beauty. "
The year before she became a full-time housewife, Zhang Qian was really considerate to Qin Wei, but when the child was two years old, she regretted it. Zhang Qian got a promotion and has a big temper. She became the owner of the tailor's shop at home and often showed Qin Wei his face.
Because she is not free financially, she wants money from zhangqian for almost everything.
She used to love beauty, like buying clothes, bags and cleaning herself up, but since she became a housewife, she has little money at hand. Every time she meets her favorite clothes, she asks zhangqian for money. Once or twice, zhangqian was willing to buy it for her. The more times, the more impatient zhangqian will be, but even if zhangqian doesn't give it to her, Qin Wei won't dare to say a word.
Finally, when the second child went to kindergarten, Qin Wei wanted to go back to work, but the boss's homework needed tutoring and the custody of the second child needed to be picked up after three o'clock. The mother-in-law who came to live in the city needed someone to take care of her legs and feet, so Qin Wei had to keep wandering around.
Now that she has no economic confidence, even her mother-in-law will rightfully find fault with her and quarrel with her. Her mother-in-law also said: "You stay at home for nothing, my son raises you, my son is filial, of course, but my son raises you because of you husband and wife."
When Qin Wei wants to buy something, she will be rejected by Jess Zhang. Zhangqian, a male chauvinist, knows nothing about romance. Qin Wei hasn't given her any gifts since she became a housewife.
This time, due to busy work, Zhang Qian completely forgot Qin Wei's birthday. Zhang Qian used to say happy birthday, but this time it was early in the morning, and Zhang Qian couldn't remember. Qin Wei feel particularly wronged, and Zhang Qian also fierce her:
"What's the matter with you? Since I became a full-time housewife, I have always shown my face. Why am I so tired every day that I have to look at your face when I come back? You should be content to spend my money now and don't have to go out to work. Don't think about things you can't get every day. It's boring, you know? "
Why should women be independent after marriage?
I think it is to have confidence when quarreling with men. If you have your own business, no matter how much money you earn, you will not act according to a man's face and make money for yourself, and you will spend it comfortably. Economic independence allows you to buy what you want without hesitation, instead of looking at a man's face. Economic independence means that men can't find fault with you. If you have your own career, men will not use this weakness to belittle you.
I would like to believe that it is true that when a man is in love, when he proposes on one knee, and when he vows eternal love at the wedding, "I support you, I love you, and I will protect you for a lifetime", but women can't believe it all.
Life is long, and no one can stay the same. The vows of eternal love before marriage will only be the day when love devalued in the past, the life of daily necessities, and the collision of chicken and dog fragments.
As you get married longer and longer, as you lose the ability of financial independence, your vows will gradually become worthless.
Maybe not all husbands and godsons and housewives will be unhappy. If you are lucky enough to meet a considerate man, who is willing to put himself in your shoes and understand what you have paid, he will make your life stable. But how many such men are there?
Yi Shu said, "Never underestimate the ruthlessness of a man when he breaks up. The stupidest thing for a woman is to give up her job for the so-called family. If they want to be independent, they must be economically independent first. At least they can support themselves at the end of the song and let them continue to live with dignity! "
Being an independent woman, having a career that she likes, even if she doesn't earn much money, can guarantee her right to speak in the family, and can also guarantee that she can buy what she likes immediately without looking at the man's face or discussing with the other party.
"The vows of eternal love before marriage have become a thing of the past, only to know that losing this is a woman's greatest misfortune."
If a woman wants to live comfortably, she must understand the importance of economic independence. Only when women are independent in thought, personality and economy can they live more and more splendidly in their married life.
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